Post # 1
My shower was this past weekend so we brought home a ton of stuff that needed to be washed and put away. I also wanted to get everything we are donating out of the apartment ASAP. Since I have done PTO that needs to be used before next week I decided to take off yesterday.
I figured since I had the whole day off I would get started on thank you notes. It took five hours to write forty notes! Now I’m terrified of how long the wedding thank you notes will take!
How long did it take you? How many did you write?
Post # 3
@MrsBeck: I did exactly the same thing yesterday! Ugh it took forever! I guess with wedding gifts you just have to get started early and space them out.
Post # 4
@bella128: That’s a good idea. I’m hoping I have enough discipline to do that! I’m so glad I did them yesterday, it would have taken forever if I tried to do a little bit after work every night.
Post # 5
Forty thank yous for a shower!? That must have been a big shower!!! We broke our thank yous up and did 10-15/night for the wedding. I don’t remember exactly how long it took, but that made the process much less tedious!
Post # 6
@Brideonabudgetlauren: Yup! We don’t live in the same state as our family (and wedding) so my Maid/Matron of Honor was kind enough to invite both sides as well as my friends! That’s probably what we’ll do as well. Out of curiosity- did you send them as you finished them? Or did you wait and send them all at the same time?
Post # 7
5 hours?! are you writing a personal letter to each guest? I was very generic in my shower thank yous like this…
Dear so and so,
Thank you so much for coming to my shower, it was great to see you! Thank you also for the very generous gift. I can’t wait to use my new kitchen aid mixer! I hope you had fun, we are looking forward to seeing you at the wedding.
Whenever we would receive a wedding gift in the mail I would write that thank you the day we got it, that way I didn’t have to write down who bought what and do it later. By doing this I had about 1/3 of all our thank yous done before the wedding even happened! This was a huge help after the wedding! Also not sure if this is proper etiquette but I did not write thank yous to guests who did not bring a gift, it was too hard to figure out who those people were b/c we had 300 guests at our wedding. Whoops!
Post # 8
I wrote 100 notes after our wedding. I started them 2.5 weeks after our wedding and they were done on our 1 month anniversary! I just spent a 1-2 hours a day banging them out, probably did 10-15 a day. It wasn’t too bad. I waited until the end to send them all together, because I’m OCD and like to check my list over a few times to make sure I didn’t miss anyone! We made sure to write thank you’s for wedding gifts that came in advance, which helped lighten the load.
Darling Husband wrote about 20 and it took him a week – he’s a procrastinator!
Post # 9
I ordered my thank you cards from vista print the week after the wedding using one of the teaser photos my photographer sent. They arrived 2 weeks after the wedding and I started right away. I am now 4 weeks after the wedding and have about 20 left to do but they are all immediate family and bridal party so all of the other guests are done. I have 1 week to finish them and put them in the mail before I leave for my honeymoon 🙂
Post # 10
@lalalalauren: Yeah I tried to say “great to meet you” to FI’s family member I hadn’t met before the shower and also looked up if they had RSVPed so I could say “see you in a few weeks.” Then there were done where I spent a lot of time chewing my own and thinking because I wasn’t sure what to write!
I’m not planning on writing notes to people for the wedding if they don’t bring a gift or card because we invited 300 as well! TBH there are probably going to be people that I don’t know/remember if they come so I think it’s better to just skip thanking them for coming (with a card) just in case they weren’t there!
Post # 11
@MrsBeck: We sent most of them at the same time. There were a few stragglers that got sent out a little later. But I didn’t want to risk the whole “oh, we got such a lovely thank you card from Mr. and Mrs. K!” and have someone else that didn’t receive their’s yet.
Post # 12
@MrsBeck: All said and done, I think it took me about 4-5 days of off-and-on to write ~115 thank you notes for wedding gifts. (I only had to write about ~22 for shower gifts, so that didn’t take more than a few hours.) I was hell bent on getting them finished before our honeymoon, though, because I knew how hard it would be to come home to a hundred plus notes to write, stuff, and stamp after two weeks of sunshine and food and booze haha.
Post # 13
2 weeks for one shower (~35 guests); 1 week for another shower (~20ish guests)
2 months for the wedding thank yous (~ 335 guests / 220 thank yous)