Post # 1
i got engaget on april 25th and the next day i started thinking about the wedding and planning, but today i realize maybe i need to enjoy the engagement or maybe just go ahead and plan the wedding.
i dont want my fiance to feel stress about it yet. haha…
what do you think, should i enjoy the engagement and wait till i start planning or just start planning ??
Post # 3
We got engaged while on vacation and spent most of the car ride home developing a guest list lol It was like we we had an unspoken agreement that we were going to enjoy our engagement while on vacation, but as soon as vacation was over, I went into full planning mode.
Post # 4
I per-planned to be honest—I couldn’t help myself! Once we started seriouslydiscussing marriage, I started peaking at things here and there online. I didn’t start full-onplanning ie (trying on dresses, visiting venues, etc) until after getting engaged though. Like, right after. I got engaged on NYE and had my first dress apt in mid Jan 🙂
Post # 5
We had a guest list before we were engaged… Nothing formal, but a general idea of who we would want there. I didn’t do any serious planning until after we got engaged, but I didn’t hold back once the ring was on my finger. I think that Fiance wasn’t stressed out at first because I was so excited about it and none of it was “real world” yet, ie. budget, logisitics, etc. I think that was part of “enjoying being engaged” for me!
Post # 6
@Igem: I think it would probably be helpful for you to do some initial planning on the big, time-sensitive things since you only have seven months–for example, some dresses can take 6-9 months to arrive! I can understand you being excited but also wondering if you should relax and enjoy things. I just got engaged on Tuesday and with a wedding in August I have been trying to schedule so many things in the last few days, it’s just been crazy! Fortunately, I did a lot of preplanning/investigating ahead of time, which really helped.
However, I really wish I had time to just relax and enjoy that glow I’ve been feeling since Tuesday! Maybe you can tackle the big things now and just “put it all away” for a month after that…
Post # 7
By planning you mean re-pinning pictures on pinterest right? Because that’s all I’ve been doing
Post # 8
We were engaged 1 year ago yesterday. Within 3 minutes I knew my Maid of Honor (oldest daughter) bridesmaid (middle daughter) flower maiden (younger daughter). I also knew my Matron of honor was my best friend. About 10 minutes later I knew another good friend of mine was going to be our Officiant and my cousin was going to walk me down the aisle. 2 days later we had the wedding date figured out and we have now been married for one month and 5 days.
Only thing we had to change in that time was the date from a Saturday to the Sunday. Also we were originally thinking about having the ceremony/reception at home, on our 2 1/2 acres, but then decided to have it at the clubhouse where we met instead as logistically it made more sense.
Post # 9
Fiance and I talked about marriage and kids for the past 2 years but I wasn’t one of those girls who grew up thinking of prince charming or day dreaming about my wedding.
But since we got engaged right after a major surgery I had done, my 6 weeks recovery was filled with online wedding sites for inspiration. I did slow down because I was driving poor fiance bonkers. Now I wait to share things with him until I actually went out and got it haha
It’s a great time and it has gone by so fast for me so far and I haven’t really done much it feels like. But I guess since I’m doing a DIY wedding the majority of it will hit in the few 2-3 months before the wedding when I plan to start making everything haah
Post # 10
thanks for your comments 😛
i still taking a few more days to start planning but im looking at least for venues next week.
after that i dont know how long it will take to start planning and booking.
Post # 11
I pre-planned. I wish I wouldn’t have, but I did. I wanted to work out the logistics and originally we we’re going to have a June 2012 wedding, so I started looking at venues online and tossing themes and ideas around.
I’ve literally been obsessed with weddings since 2001 (I was 13 and the wedding planner movie had just come out) and it got out of control at times. I’m much better now. But for a while and all through high school I was going to be a wedding planner just for fun.
Post # 12
When my DH and I started talking about getting married, we discussed bridal party and colors 🙂 my mom and I scouted out a venue and a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress before I was engaged (turns out he had already talked to my parents/gotten permission).
We got engaged on January 28th and married on September 3, just over 7 months later. And I was in grad school until mid-July. So, we had to start planning immediately due to time constraints. Throughout the engagement, we did intentionally have dates where we didn’t talk about the wedding in order to enjoy being engaged 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
We got engaged in December (2010) and didn’t start planning things until March, so about three months. And in March, all we did was buy my dress, book our venue, and send out STDs. We did basically all the rest during the summer. I so loved being able to simply enjoy being engaged for a few months, and I highly recommend it if you can. You don’t even have to be engaged for a long time to take some wedding-free engagement time for yourself!
Post # 14
Got engaged last week, started coming up with our guest list 2 days later, hired a wedding planner yesterday, and we’re checking out venues next week. I’ve wasted no time!
Post # 15
We had to start planning right after our engagement because he proposed to me back home and we only had 3 weeks left there before we came back to Halifax. In this time I had to find a dress and book our venue. Other stuff has fallen into place over time, but we needed those two things done as soon as possible as I really wanted to have that experience with my mom and grandma for the dress, and we didn’t want to miss out on a good venue that was already booking up fast.
Post # 16
I think it’s different for everyone. We didn’t start planning (not even looking at a date) until almost 11 months after the engagement. I really wanted a long engagement so I could slowly start planning, not stress, enjoy our time as FIs. But I have lots of friends who did start planning as soon as they got engaged (and usually TTC as soon as they are married). I guess i’m more laid back about it, Fiance has made the commitment and that’s the most important to me!