How long did you agree to wait for?

posted 2 months ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

lili91 :  We discussed it before we started officially dating and I said 1 year. He said he’ll propose before 8 months (end of the year) and that’s exactly when he proposed. He did have some financial setbacks so I thought it wouldn’t happen for a while but he made sure it happened. 

Post # 4
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3592 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My husband and I started dating at 20, so we were in no hurry to get married. Early on we talked about personal goals we wanted to accomplish. One of my non negotiables was getting my Masters first. About 3 years into our relationship, he asked me for pics of ring styles I liked with the understanding he just wanted to know what to save for. Fast forward and I was a year into my 2 year Master’s program. He started asking again for specific details on rings and I mentioned we should go look together. That was summer 2013. We both liked the idea of a fall/winter weather, so we agreed that the following year after I graduated would be ideal to get married. He didn’t propose until March 2014 and we got married in November 2014. Having an open line of communication is so important so that there isn’t resentment on either side.

Post # 5
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630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

lili91 :  We knew each other a few weeks before we started dating officially. We met online. We are both in our late 20s and we were ready to settle down so the situation was a little different for us. 

Post # 6
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1205 posts
Bumble bee

A year.  We agreed to get engaged in 2019.  He wants his own proposal so I plan to propose to him in April.  He opened the engagement window on 12/29 (our 2 year anniversary.  April seems SO FAR AWAY!  He might propose first but I think he’ll wait until at least May.  If he makes me wait the whole year I’m sure I’ll die haha.  

Post # 7
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1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

We started dating at 17, but agreed early on that if our relationship lasted, we wanted to be married around 25, and engaged at the end of college ~23.

Life happened and we ended up engaged at 21, and are having our wedding at 23.

I would have waited the extra two years, as long as he remained open and committed to our relationship and marriage discussions, but I’m happy with the way things turned out. I wouldn’t have stayed past 23yo/our 7th year anniversary without being engaged. If we were older, this timeline likely would have been shorter.

Post # 9
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915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

lili91 :  For me it was like a month or two… I expected a proposal on our second dating anniversary (and it would have happened) but there were some logistic problems with the ring that I didnt know about at the time. I was super pissed and told him that I just wanted to be engaged already. He did too… but it turned out that our jeweler accidentally ordered the wrong setting in so he was waiting on the correct one to come in and I didn’t know. He literally proposed the same day it came in. ๐Ÿ™‚ However it would have made me feel a bit less anxious if I had known this before then lol. 

Post # 10
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2469 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

We talked about engagement and I agreed to a loose timeline of a couple years.

he proposed a few months after that talk. Now we’re married!

lili91 :  

Post # 12
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100 posts
Blushing bee

We’ve agreed on a timeline of a year, so by the end of 2019. We would have been dating for 5 1/2 years by then. I’m enjoying waiting and wondering how it may happen ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Our first serious conversation about marriage and timelines was about 8 months in, where I said I’d like to be engaged within 2 years of dating. He proposed 7 months later, after dating for 15 months. Total surprise.

Post # 14
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316 posts
Helper bee

He told me that if I didn’t propose in 6 months, he would propose (he knew it was important to me to be the one to propose——don’t assume it always works male proposing to female as your question suggests!) I technically missed the deadline but I made it clear to him I had a plan, so he held off until I proposed in another two months.

We had been together about 5 years at that point, and known each other about 14.

 

 

 

Post # 15
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409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2020 - Clarksville, VA

We had a conversation in December of 2017 and I told him I wanted to be engaged by our two year anniversary the following September. It wasn’t an ultimatum or anything, just what I felt was doable. He proposed two months later.

lili91 :  

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