(Closed) How long did you and SO talk about marriage before getting engaged?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 77
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We had been together for 7 years before we started talking marriage (as in seriously).  We always knew we wanted to be together and we joked about getting hitched…From then it took us 2 years to seriously figure out the business of planning out a life together.  And then a 2 year long engagment.  We will be married 1 month after our 11 year anniversary LOL.

Post # 78
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Darling Husband was always much more concerned with marriage than myself. I was content to never be married, and I was happy with our situation after we moved in together about 2 years into dating. Darling Husband brought up marriage a few times after about a year of dating, but he really started talking about it after moving in together. All in all, about 2.5 years before getting engaged and a little over 4 before getting married. That was much longer for both than almost all our friends. 

Post # 79
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We started dating at 15 and started talking about marriage when we were 17. We’ll be getting married this year at the age of 27 ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 80
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

When I met FH he told me he was never getting married and I decided that I would just try to figure out how to deal with it if we ever got there because he was such an amazing guy. About 3 months into our relationship he tells me he was talking to a guy at work about marriage and much to my surprise he told the guy that he’d be an idiot not to marry me and that guys who say they’re never getting married just haven’t met the right girl. I moved in after 5 months and right before I did we had a serious talk about it…. I was giving up my rent house which was one of those things that was a once in a lifetime kind of deal and I wanted to make absolutely sure that he intended to marry me and I wouldn’t be back on my own in a few months with no where to live. He proposed 2 months later.

So I guess… 4 months?

Post # 81
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

10 months. he first mentioned it in february of ’12 and we started talking seriously about it after our 3 year anniversary in april. 8 months later he proposed ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 82
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

We talked about getting engaged around 2 months into our relationship. We got engaged right before 6 months, and got married when we’d been together 1 year and 2 months.

It was quick, but perfect for us!

Post # 83
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We started dating at 17 and 18. We started seriously talking about marriage about 1.5 years into our relationship. However, we knew pretty early we were the one for each other. We went to college together and always agreed that we would wait until both of us finished school. Since he was a year ahead of me doing a 4 year undergrad and I was doing a 4 year undergrad + 1 year grad program, we knew it would be a while! We have been together for almost 6 years now. Fiance proposed in January (I finish grad school in May). 

Since we were young when we started dated we set goals for what we wanted to accomplish before marriage. It has been hard to wait this long to get engaged, but looking back I am happy we waited as we will be a bit more established now! To each their own Smile

Post # 84
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@AeroLove:  He used to ask me constantly when we were much younger — when I was 18, 19, 20 and he was 20, 21, 22.. I always told him no, that I wanted my career to start first, or at least be done with college. I felt bad, but half of it was because he was thinking about the military and wanted me to be “paid for” and I wasn’t going to get married just to get money out of it. I didn’t want either of us to walk down the aisle for a “cheapened” reason.

That said, now I’m 24. We’ve been talking about it for about a year-ish, on and off. We always kind of knew we’d get married, since the first couple days we were dating. We both sheepishly admitted that there was something “special” about the other that we felt was perfect and right — “the one” kind of stuff. But we’re not mushy, so it meant something for us to admit it to each other so soon. Neither of us discussed it except jokingly saying “well, we’re pretty much married anyway” — we’ve shared finances and everything including the kitchen sink since very early on. We started as best friends before we were dating.

We are about to order the ring. So, depending on what you’d consider it — we’ve been talking about it for 7 1/2 years — or we shut up for five years about it and revisited it a year ago. I’d consider it a year of talking about it because we had discussed this year about the wedding itself – decor, invitations, where to get married, what dress, who the bridesmaids/groomsmen would be, etc.

Post # 85
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@pinksprinkles:  I’m glad someone else felt the same way. We wanted to be secure first, and accomplish our own goals — also having started dating when I was 17. It is worth the wait, isn’t it? =]

Post # 86
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We talked of getting married from the time we started courting we weren’t just dating for kicks so 3 years

Post # 87
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Worker bee

We’ve been dating for 2.5 years and we have not discussed marriage in any capacity.

Post # 88
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@AeroLove:  Year 1 of our 7 year relationship ๐Ÿ˜€ always talked about it and it was accepted over the course of our relationship and once we felt ready and had the financial status we were comfortable with, we made serious plans. 

Post # 89
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

He always told me he knew he was going to marry me the night we met. i always knew i wanted to wait a while to get married. i was only 19. we got engaged at 6 years. but i think around 4.5-5 years i started droping hints ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 90
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@MrsWe:  omg, we have almost the EXACT same deal it seems.

We started talking about it after 4 months too, and our one year anniversary is 4 months away.  I can never tell with my guy… he says he wants to marry me and is very romantic and devoted, but I also have no idea if he’ll propose in 2 months or 2 years.

Post # 91
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Never. Not even one second.  He woke me up and said it was snowing.  I didn’t believe him because the day before was 72 degrees.  As I peeked out the bedroom window, he said, “Will you marry me?” We eloped within 4 hours. 

 

Don’t rush, it will happen and be magical.   

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