(Closed) how long did you chart before TTC? [poll]

posted 6 years ago in TTC
  • poll: how long did you chart before TTC?
    Chart? What's that? : (21 votes)
    25 %
    When we started. : (18 votes)
    21 %
    A few months. : (24 votes)
    28 %
    6+ months. : (22 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    63 posts
    Worker bee

    I think I would drive myself insane if I started charting, so, we are just going for it πŸ˜€ I think like someone else said, if it doesn’t happen in 6 months I will reconsider. 

    Post # 17
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    9544 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    There’s not an option in your poll for me!

    I’m also 31 and we’ve got most of our ducks in a row but my husband is in a contract job that could end at any moment and is looking for other jobs locally and in my home town. So we’re waiting to get him in a real job (and potentially moving) before we start TTC. We thought we might be TTC last month, and I got myself all excited, but then life took a different course so now I’m being patient. And enjoying pinot grigio!

    When we are TTC, we’re planning to try not preventing and just having lots of sex for, at least, the first several months. I’m  actually looking forward to the trying time period, so I’d actually be a little sad if we got preggers right away. I’m sure that at some point we’ll start to get anxious and I’ll start charting at that point.

    I would think that if you’re trying to get preggers ASAP once you start trying then you’d be fine starting a few months before you start trying.

    Post # 18
    Member
    4690 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    lolot:  Peter Pan man child bahaha! I feel like guys have a much wider window of “fertility”. Unfair. But no stress. Knowing your body (while kind of gross at times ) is empowering and wil give you a heads-up to issues (if you have any!)

    Post # 19
    Member
    1342 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    lolot:  I didn’t chart.  I had a couple of apps where I kept track of my period and they would give me an estimated fertile window.  I went off the pill at the end of February and got pregnant in the second month.  I’m 32.  

    Post # 20
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    3378 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    stephee:  Just popping in to give an FYI – I’m not sure what expenses you’re thinking of with charting, but all you really need to purchase is a basal thermometer, which you can get for under $10.  A lot of the charters on here also pay for a VIP subscription on Fertility Friend, but the free app is totally fine as well.  Just in case you thought it was expensive and that was something keeping you from looking into it! πŸ™‚

    Post # 21
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    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    lolot:  WHAT?! the thermometer goes in your mouth?! like normal?! wtf. this is news to me hahaha.

    Post # 22
    Member
    3378 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    lolot:  I started charting last July, thinking that we would likely start TTC in January.  We’ve pushed our timeline back a couple times, and are now starting in July.  So I gave myself 6 months, and ended up charting for a year before TTC.  I’m so happy I did give myself that time!  I know my body really well now, I was able to identify some small issues that may be a problem with TTC, and I’ve started exploring easy remedies to fix them so that hopefully we’ll have our best shot at TTC when July rolls around.

    Post # 24
    Member
    1938 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I used an app to chart my period for over 2 years and it included telling me when I was Ovulating. Then when I tried to conceive I got it on the first go! πŸ™‚

    Post # 25
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    3378 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    lolot:  I’ve definitely had my moments of being a little too impatient to TTC, but I don’t think that was caused by charting (I’ve felt very ready to have a baby for quite awhile, we’ve just had to wait for some other life stuff to fall into place).  If anything, I think it’s helped me be less neurotic – I was never the best about taking my pill at exactly the same time, so there would always be months where I had “omg, could I be pregnant?!” freak-outs.  Since I started charting, I have a much better idea about whether or not it’s even possible, let alone likely, and I think I’ve been able to be much more easy-going about my symptoms each month.

    Post # 26
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    9544 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    lolot:  I love that I’m not the only one that thought you took your temp vaginally when charting. It totally makes sense! I also thought you might get a kick out of this post I made on the Waiting to TTC thread a couple months ago:

    “So we aren’t TTC yet and aren’t planning to chart unless it’s taking longer than we would like, so I haven’t done any research about temps/cervix/etc. However, reading on the bee you hear about these things. And I always heard about people checking their cervix and was kind of flabberghasted. Because I assumed they were visually checking their cervix and cervical mucus. And how do you see that – obviously you would need a mirror for the angle. But then things tend to close up, so it’s not like you can see up to your cervix without a speculum or something like that. Which seemed weird to have in your house, but then I also thought it was weird to have a basal body thermometer, so what do I know. So you need a mirror and a speculum, but it’s pretty dark up there so I guessed you’d need a flashlight too. I was seriously envisioning women squatting over a mirror with a speculum and flashlight every day. My thought was always “Damn, those women are really devoted to tracking their cycles”. I now realize the error of my ways, but I kept laughing at myself when I figured things out and thought you guys might get a laugh as well. I’m a smart lady – I promise! I even work in medicine (obviously not ob/gyn!!!) but it just never occured to me. Ah well. Live and learn. Cheers to my cluelessness!”

    Post # 27
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    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    lolot: So I just downloaded an app about a year before we started TTC to get an idea of how long my cycles were. I just wasn’t so on the ball before, it was more like “Oh, what a surprise, my period just showed up!”. Using the app I basically just logged start/end of my period for the first 6 months. Then I started to pay a little more attention to mucus and stuff, but I didn’t start to temp until November 2013. Used a few ovulation tests as well, but according to them I never did ovulate, so they just stressed me. Got our BFP in March, baby due in November/December (I’ll be 31 then). 

    I should also add – once you do start to TTC, it’s really easy to get sucked into it full force. Before we actively started to try for our baby I was all like “Oh well, we’ll try for a while and you know if it doesn’t happen within a year I guess we’ll look into options”. Um, first month was fun, second month and onwards – not so much. Once we were committed I found that I had a really hard time focusing on anything else but “Oh please I just want a baby, please let this work out”. Good luck when you finally start to TTC, it’s a bit of a crazy journey!

    JenGirl: And you did make me laugh with the flashlight and all! πŸ™‚ How totally awkward! As for the thermometer, you do need to go to a pharmacy and shell out $20 for one. As for ovulation tests, if you ever decide to do that – get them at the dollar store.

    Post # 28
    Member
    1088 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Got it!  It definetly seemed like there was more to it- buying a thermometer, and an app maybe, and all these tests?  Maybe the opk tests are for another stage, or not expensive.  It just seemed like people needed all this stuff to do it!  Also, I’m crazy cheap πŸ™‚

    Post # 29
    Member
    628 posts
    Busy bee

    lolot:  I can see how some women find charting empowering but I’d find it tedious. Working off a schedule my be proactive, but for me it would suck the fun out of it. 

    Our plan is to have sex every other day for a few months. Hopefully it doesn’t take too long! If it does, then I’d consider charting but not as a first step. It may be all for nothing. 

    Post # 30
    Member
    4998 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    lolot:  I’m trying to decide when to start charting too. I’ll be 29 in July, but my husband is 10 years older, so I want to get the show on the road! In a perfect world, I’d like to get pregnant around this time next year, but not now! I have some superficial reasons to stay on the pill, but mostly I just don’t feel quite ready for an “oopsies” yet. I am on a continuous pill and I don’t get a period or PMS, so I’m not super eager to go off it any sooner than I need to, and I’d also like to run another marathon in January. On the other hand, I haven’t had a period in over 5 years and I have been on the pill for 10, so I have NO IDEA what my cycles are like or how long they will take to regulate. I also worry that I may have to cut back on exercise or adjust my thyroid meds, so that pushes me back to going off the pill sooner. I also have no idea how to chart, though I did know that the thermometer goes in your mouth πŸ˜‰

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