How long did you date before becoming bf/gf?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long did you date before becoming a couple?
    A few days : (65 votes)
    39 %
    A month : (57 votes)
    34 %
    2-3 months : (27 votes)
    16 %
    3-4 months : (4 votes)
    2 %
    4-5 months : (1 votes)
    1 %
    5-6 months : (7 votes)
    4 %
    6+ months : (6 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    7291 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    A few weeks for dating.

    I love you’s were more like a few months 🙂

    I don’t have much experience in the dating world but I will say it can be weird and hard to read! Best thing to do is be honest about everything your feeling and your desires/intentions so there aren’t many games or misconceptions to come about.

    Post # 4
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    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Seems like the trend these days is to be more casual in the beginning, but i’ve never been able to be that way. I’m all in or not at all! I don’t like the idea of wooing or being wooed by more than one guy at a time (or of them wooing multiple women).

    We were a couple after our first date.

    Post # 5
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    275 posts
    Helper bee

    I don’t feel like I have a lot to say because bf and I have been together since we weer 13! But we hung out and went out on dates for about 2 months before he asked me to be his girlfriend.

    Post # 6
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    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My Fiance and I got to know each other for a few weeks before making it official. We were in High School so we tended to just go for some long walks and hang out outside of school at first. Our first official “date” was homecoming and we made it official the monday after that. Actually I think I’m the one that asked him about it…

    Post # 7
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    24 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Bf and I were best friends for 2 years before we started dating.  We told each other that we liked each other, and talked for 6 weeks before we became official.  We just had a lot of insecurities and stuff like that to talk about and sort through before we wanted to be official. We were exclusive from the moment we said we liked each other though.

    oh, and the I love you came about a year after we became official.  We took our time with it 🙂

    Post # 8
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    4546 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We dated for about 2-3 weeks.

    Post # 9
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    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @crayfish: I’m with ya.

    I never understood the concept of casual dating but maybe that’s because I’ve only ever really had serious boyfriends. Casual dating makes more sense if you’re older but at 19 when Fiance and I met, we pretty much jumped right into our relationship. 

    As for saying “I love you”, that happened pretty quickly, too. I’d say a few weeks but I actually think it was shorter than that. Guess we just knew!

    Post # 10
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    510 posts
    Busy bee

    I’d say we had the ‘are we official’ conversation about 4 weeks after dating  …. and I love you came maybe a couple of weeks after that.  Since I was the one who initiated the ‘what are we’ question, I held out for him to say i love you first !  Actually, I wasn’t expecting it so soon… Aww reminiscing 🙂

    Post # 11
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    2018 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I’m normally an “all or nothing” person too but after one date with my now-husband, I met someone else and told Darling Husband that I wanted to see where the other relationship was going to go and didn’t want to string him along.  Thank God he was still there a month later when things had cooled down with “other guy”! And the rest is history.

    I guess relationships don’t always progress in a linear way, so it’s best to be open to all possiblities:)

    Post # 12
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    1577 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t really get the casual dating thing either.  Honestly, I’d just feel weird seeing multiple people at once… even if they knew that I was dating other people, I think I’d still feel like I was sneaking around behind someone’s back, LoL.  Fiance & I dated for almost 3 weeks before we were official.  The “I love yous” came a little over a month later, I think.

    Post # 13
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    2493 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We were official by our second ‘date’. Our first ‘date’ was supposed to be just coffee as friends, but it was definitely more.
    As for “I love you”s, I can’t remember the exact date/time, but it was pretty shortly after we got together. We had been saying it as friends for a few months, so it was natural.

    Post # 14
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    287 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My Fiance and I were hanging out as friends for probably about a month before dating, we made it official on the first date haha.

    I love you came between 3 and 4 months.  Though I felt it earlier than that :).

    Post # 15
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    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My fiance and I were originally sort of in a friends-with-benefits arrangement. A few months into it I’d stopped trying to sleep with other people, and we were having a fight about making pie crust when he asked if we could be official. I was thrown, but agreed.

    Post # 16
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    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    It was around a month or so that we decided that we wanted to officially be a couple. but we werent seeing anyone else before that anyways. lol 

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