(Closed) How long did you date before getting engaged? Was it right for you?

posted 11 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long did you date before getting engaged?
    Under 1 year : (64 votes)
    19 %
    1-2 years : (102 votes)
    31 %
    3-5 years : (120 votes)
    36 %
    6-8 years : (30 votes)
    9 %
    8-10 years : (7 votes)
    2 %
    10+ years : (6 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 76
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    939 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 1975

    Met October 2013, Engaged June 2014, to be married in June 2015. So 8 months dating before our engagement. Previous to this, we were both in 5 year relationships with other individuals. Some people may think 8months is fast, but we’re late 20s and knew what we wanted in a life partner. He knew I was the one the moment we met… Took me just a little longer.

    I don’t rush into things or take decisions too lightly (as mentioned above I was in a 5 year relationship with someone – not the right someone to spend forever with), but I just knew my Fiance was everything I wanted out of a husband. He’s the 1st person I’ve ever seen myself marrying and having a family with. I’m so lucky to have him and we make sure to tell each other everyday how thankful we are. When you know… You know!

    Post # 77
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    284 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Technically we met as kids (he was 8 and I was 10) There was a mutual attraction for several years until I got involved with someone from high school. I got engaged right after we graduated from high school. I called it off right before the wedding when we were both 20. A year later I reconnected with my now Fiance and the rest is history. We’ve been together now for 7 years.

    I really had a lot of hangups about engagements and marriage. I wanted to wait a long time to be engaged and thankfully my Fiance was amazingly supportive about it.

    Post # 78
    Member
    487 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    About six and a half years.  Got together October 2005 and engaged in February 2012, Married October 2013.  I had a few people ask me when he was going to put a ring on it, and it irritated me a bit – it’s no one’s business but ours what we do.  But it worked for us – we wanted to be established a bit before we got married, but frankly, if it hadn’t happened I wouldn’t have been fussed.  

    Post # 79
    Member
    60 posts
    Worker bee

    Oh man, we only dated for like four months before we went ring shopping. However, he formally proposed to me around the six month mark and we just now, two and a half years later, and getting married. I would’ve waited years more if he wanted, but he was ready and so was I! 🙂

    Post # 80
    Member
    229 posts
    Helper bee

    Every couple’s different. My grandparents were engaged after 3 weeks! Spent thier entire lives together. My Parents we’re four months and been married about 18 years now. My mum and her first Husnand got engaged after 2 years and the marriage lasted less than 6 months.

    I’ve been with my SO since 2nd Novemember 2013 so that’s nearly 9 months. If he proposed tomorrow I’d say yes, and not just because we’re expecting a baby but because I know it’s right.

    x

    Post # 82
    Member
    11338 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    We actually got engaged twice.  FI proposed about a year in, but I pulled the plug eventually–I just wasn’t ready.  And I didn’t understand it at the time, but I’d started peri meno which made me super irritable.

    I’ve lost count of how many years it took for me to feel ready.  We never broke up– dh is very patient.  It was probably a good 6-7 yrs later when he brought it up again in relation to something totally pragmatic.  This time I felt on really solid ground.  After so many years, I know my man’s character & feel safe with him.

    He did surprise me with a brand new proposal, which was sweet.  So, technically, we were together a long time before we got married & that worked out well for me.

    Post # 82
    Member
    611 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I was 18 when me and my fiancé started dating, we we’re together 11 months before getting engaged. We knew it was the right decision for us but I had a lot of people tell me I was too young. We’ve been engaged for a few years, decided to wait to get married until I was done with school, but I’ve never regretted my decision. We live together now & we’re finally getting married next year! I’ll be turning 24 a month after we get married.

    Post # 83
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    8 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Our first date was a blind date that my sister set up in June 2008. We got engaged this past month (July 2014) and will be getting married on August 7, 2014.

    Early in our relationship, we both were pretty lost. I had just come out of a nasty divorce and he was at a crossroads with his life. Through the past six years, we’ve supported each other as we made necessary life changes and this helped us to grow as a couple. One day we realized that our lives were growing together and that we have the same vision for the future (both personally and as a couple). So, though there were times that I got frustrated because we weren’t married yet, I understand just how invaluable the past six years has been for our relationship and I honestly wouldn’t change a thing.

    Post # 84
    Member
    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

    Maybe I’m not allowed to answer since we’re not officially engaged yet, but since we talk heavily about marriage and I know the ring and proposal will come about *sometime* in October I’m going to throw myself into the statistic anyway. We started dating in early February, and I mentioned we’re looking at an October proposal, so…9 months.

    When we first discussed marriage we had agreed to wait until February of next year, so we would reach our one year marker and it wouldn’t seem as crazy. But as life goes on and circumstances have changed, October suddenly became my new favorite month! It’s just as well, we weren’t really planning our wedding until January 2016 anyway, so a longer engagement just gives me more time to actually talk about it with other people!

    Post # 85
    Member
    437 posts
    Helper bee

    october 2012 – started dating

    june 2014 – engaged

    november 2015 – married 🙂

    Post # 86
    Member
    496 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I can answer this now! Woopppeeeee

    We have been dating since we were 17. 

    Moving in together at 21.

    Now engaged at 23; just 2 months shy of our 6 year dating anniversary!

    Post # 87
    Member
    3 posts
    Wannabee

    Dated briefly in 8th grade in Spring of 1999. Lost contact after the school year ended. Found each other on a dating site around New Years 2014. Finally went on a date on Jun 6, 2014. Moved in together mid-August 2014. Told each other “I love you” on Dec 23rd, 2014.. 

    Still not engaged though. He is not 100% sure if he wants to be married. Ive been married, he never has. But, when we first got together he was pretty much anti-love, anti-marriage. So, to have him say maybe, he isnt sure is a huge step. I wont give up hope thatll happen someday. I just hope and pray that someday is sooner rather than later lol.

    Post # 88
    Member
    87 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Met when we were 15, spent the next several years living across the country from each other, but never seperated. Finally moved to the same state 4 years ago, moved in together two years ago, engaged last year and getting married next month. (:

    In all, we are now 32 and finally getting married (no plans for kids). So 17 years!

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    Post # 89
    Member
    469 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    September 2014:  Met each other.

    October:  Started dating.

    November:  Had the wedding date.

    December:  Got engaged.

    January:  Moved in together.

    December 2015:  Wedding.

     

    I’m 36 and I had never been on a date before.  I never found anyone else I wanted to be with.  I used to believe in soulmates my whole life.  I don’t have to believe anymore because now I know they exist 🙂  I fall more and more in love with him with each passing day.  Looking forward to spending the rest of my life with him.  He’s the cream in my Oreo.

    • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  gatordeb.
    • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  gatordeb.

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