(Closed) How Long Did You Date Before Marriage? How Did You Prepare?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long did y'all date before marriage?
    Less than 1 year : (7 votes)
    11 %
    1-2 years : (18 votes)
    27 %
    3-5 years : (24 votes)
    36 %
    6-9 years : (13 votes)
    20 %
    10+ years : (4 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    215 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    We dated 5 months before getting engaged and will be together about 2.5 years when we get married next week. I have know him for 12+ years. Everyone is different. If you have questions or concerns, bring them up to your SO, being ready for marriage should mean being ready for those conversations. 

    Post # 3
    Member
    592 posts
    Busy bee

    We were together for 4.5 years before getting engaged. We will be together for 6 years by the time the wedding happens. 

    We are currently in the middle of transitioning stuff together. I don’t live with him but I am in the process of moving in and in the process of figuring out finances and such. 

    I’ we always been the same way you have been and I’ve liked it that way so doing this had been somewhat of a challenge, but I am excited to start a new chapter with him. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    7905 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Early on, we both were clear about our values and life goals. Even when we were dating, Fiance spent a lot of time at my place, and I was able to see how he would be as a live-in partner. Maybe you can bring up these topics as “something you read” (maybe don’t mention weddingbee just yet) and see what he thinks.

    Post # 5
    Member
    6372 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    We’ll have dated between 2.5 and 3 years before marriage, so I didn’t vote.  I think living together and being a parental figure helped the whole transition to marriage. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1084 posts
    Bumble bee

    we were together for 1 year and 8 months (it was the end of the month, so pretty much one year and 9 months) when we tied the knot. We’ve been together now for three years

    Post # 7
    Member
    1992 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    We dated for 5 years before engagement.  We’ll be married at roughly 6.5 years.

    Post # 8
    Member
    6444 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Eirene00:  We dated for a year and a month, husband asked on Easter (he asked me to be his girlfriend on Easter 2013) and we got married a month later.  HOWEVER, we had a child together in the process of dating and marriage, so I think when we got pregnant, we got into the mindset that we were married and it stayed like that until we got married legally.  We lived together as well, which helped.  We discussed marriage before we found out we got pregnant, and had planned out our future together by the year.  Then we found out I was pregnant and marriage was delayed, but we still planned on getting married. 

    Post # 9
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    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014 - Sedona Golf Resort

    Eirene00:  I dont think you should put too much energy into “transitioning” until he proposes. Although you have discussed marriage you are still his girlfriend, not his fiancé and there is a difference. I am not the patient type, I dated a guy on and off for almost 3-years but believe when you know, you know; so when a ring or a proposal didn’t happen I moved on. My Darling Husband and I dated and lived together for 18-months before we married. 

    Once you have made that commitment to one another, it will not be hard to release your independence and merge your lives. It requires trust and honesty that comes with a deeper level of commitment. Until then, do your thang and have fun. 

    Post # 10
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    3586 posts
    Sugar bee

    We got engaged after about a year and been together for 1.5 now.

    When we get married we will have been together for a little over 2 years

    Post # 11
    Member
    425 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015 - Private lodge

    We’ve known eachother 3 years. Dating 1 year 3 mos. will be Married just shy of 2 years dating. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    1246 posts
    Bumble bee

    Eirene00:  Please discuss the important issues before engagement.  You may discover either you or he have some deal-breakers. Don’t wait until marriage or engagement.  You may find yourself stuck with an impostor. 

    Post # 13
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    180 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    Our 6 year anniversary is 3 days after our wedding in March. We will have been engaged for 18months by the wedding date. We have lived together since about the 2 year mark.

    Post # 14
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    302 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - Golf Course

    We were together 5 years before getting engaged, will be together 6 years when married. We met while I was still in high school 🙂 He wasn’t though, he’s two years older than me.

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