(Closed) How long did you date before moving in?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long did you date before moving in?

    less than 2 months

    3-5 months

    6-8 months

    9-12 months

    1-2 years

    2-3 years

    After marriage

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    We will be together 5 years before moving in together. We’re at 4 years basically right now.

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @princesslettuce14:  We officially moved in around the 8 month mark, but letsbehonest he was there all the time long before that…just most of his belongings were at his old place.

    Post # 19
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    Blushing bee

    We actually moved in together 3 years before we even began dating! We were roommates who ended up falling for each other 🙂

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

    We moved in together after 10 months of dating. FWIW, that is not always the line drawn in regards to a +1. We continued dating for another 4.5 years before getting engaged and there were many weddings where only one of us was invited because we were not engaged yet.

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    We started dating in March of 2008, signed a lease for an apartment approximately 12 months later, and then moved into said apartment together in August of 2009.  So we decided a little less than a year into our relationship that we wanted to live together, but it took over a year before we were actually able to do so.

    Post # 25
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @princesslettuce14:  This isn’t quite what you meant – but my SO and I have chosen for a variety of reasons not to move in together until we are married (well in all actuality it will be engaged, but just a few months before the wedding because that is when leases end).  We have long since passed the point where we would have moved in together if we were going to and the living together rule irks me a little.  It’s like people are determining that our relationship can’t be serious just because we don’t live together, when we have been together for over a year and a half, have gone ring shopping etc.

    In a sense I agree with it, as an outsider how can you judge whether a relationship is really serious or not?  But for these reasons, for me, I’m just going to ask people if I don’t know (obviously friends I know, but cousins etc.).  I’ll send out a facebook message asking for updated addresses for everyone and add that if they are in a serious relationship, also include the name/address for their SO.  This way, they decide whether their relationship is serious enough to be included, but I think it’s clear that I’m not including random dates.  

    Just a thought 🙂

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We didn’t move in together until we were together for 3 years. We got engaged after 4 years of dating. 

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Moved in after 8 months, engaged at 11 months…but we knew each other before that. 

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We moved in together after dating about 4 months. And we got engaged about 4 years later. Moving in together is a WAAYY bigger transition than getting married, and I can’t imagine trying to do both at the same time!

     

    Post # 29
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    2 years. Engaged at 3 years

    Post # 30
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    When it comes to Wedding Invites, it is hard to nail this Rule down effectively in regards to the parameters (which is exactly WHY there are so many posts about it here on WBee)

    Married, Engaged, Common Law / Living Together are easy to define (as one can see those)

    Serious Relationship not so much… some Brides & Grooms try to figure that out (often without talking to the couple involved) and set the parameter for an Invite at 12, 6 or 3 months time

    In reality…

    As noted by the replies here.  Some folks move in together almost immediately… and some couples wait until they are married

    To each there own there is no right or wrong

    And technically… just cause a couple is living together doesn’t necessarily give a measurement of how serious or commited that relationship is (know lot of folks who “shacked up” in college) or whether it will last (they say statistically… at least historically, that couples who lived together had a higher incidence of breaking up / divorce)*

    *NOTE – This statistic is changing/ being looked at differently.  Tho as society becomes more and more accepting of living together as but one form of a relationship … and as such has the same potential for success / failure as any other relationship

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    And for the record…

    Mr TTR and I were friends first.  Once we began dating, it was a short transition from living 100% apart to spending tons of time together… first it was my visiting on weekends, then that and a couple nights during the week.  Within a few months he gave me a key and told me he’d like it to be more permanent.

    I think our mutal friends had it pretty much figured out about us early on (maybe even sooner than we did)… there just was something about us that clicked so much that it was apparent we were meant to be.

    So we were always invited to things “as a couple” almost immediately from when we started dating.  Including a couple of Weddings that happened before we made our 1 Year Dating Anniversary.

     

    Post # 31
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Longer for us! I think it was around the 6 year mark. This is mostly because, for the first four years of our relationship, we were living in college dorms. Then he moved home after he graduated, but came back for more school about 16 months later. He moved in with me then.

    ETA: We had a LOT of sleepovers in college, and I practically lived with him his senior year since he was in a more apartment-like dorm.

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