(Closed) How long did you date before moving in?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long did you date before moving in?

    less than 2 months

    3-5 months

    6-8 months

    9-12 months

    1-2 years

    2-3 years

    After marriage

  • Post # 62
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We were together 8 months when he moved in.  Our wedding was 2 months later – there’s no way I would have lived together without being engaged with a wedding date set in stone.  And neither would he.  He hemmed and hawed about moving in 2 months before the wedding, but it was the only weekend we had free, so we went ahead and did it.

    Post # 63
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We dated for 3 months before moving in together, but we’ve known eachother and been very close friends for almost 5 years. I had a ring 9 months later and our wedding is planned for Oct 2013- by that time we will have been dating for 20 months.

    Post # 64
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We have known each other for a few yrs then after 1 yr of dating we bought our first home together and now we have been living together for 2 yrs almost.

    Post # 65
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @MsSparklyBee:  See, I think this is the entire problem.  Why should you or anyone else get to determine the seriousness of anyone’s relationship?  That’s why everyone should get a plus-one.  That way there is no confusion, no decisions to make, no hurt feelings.  Your guests deserve to be treated the way you would want to be treated.

    Post # 66
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

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    @LilyBee70:  wow congrats on your new grand baby! =)

    Post # 67
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    Bumble bee

    We didn’t move in together til about a month or so before the wedding, so I voted “after marriage.”  We had been together for 3 1/2 years. 

    It wasn’t because we didn’t want to, circumstances just didn’t work out for us.  I’m sure if things were different we might have. 

    Post # 68
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    Sugar bee

    Four years for us! We got invited as a couple after two years together. Before that we were, XX and Guest. I was always good to stay out of pictures if FH was in a wedding and vice versa.

    Post # 69
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    605 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

    Almost 4 years by the time he moved in to my place. I marked the 2 – 3 years on the poll because it was like 3.8 years 😉

    We should be getting engaged next month a little over our 4 year mark.

    Post # 70
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I officially moved in at 5 months. Unofficially….the third date! 

    He didn’t want me to leave and I didn’t want to go. I did spend maybe 2 nights away in the first 6 weeks because I was worried he would feel smothered, even though it was his own doing lol.

    We bought a condo together that November, around the 10 month mark and were engaged 7 months later.

    Post # 71
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    We didn’t live together until after we were married. 

    Post # 72
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We were weird. We dated long distance for about 2 years and then almost IMMEDIATELY moved in together when he moved north to be with me. So we went from LDR to super close quarters.

    Post # 73
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    107 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I voted less than 2 months. We met March 28, 2011, were officially exclusive April 14, 2011, I moved in at the end of April/beginning of May 2011. He proposed 8 months later and the wedding is the day before our 2 year dating anniversary. I definitely think it’s different for every person and every relationship, but we started talking about long term in the first two weeks of dating and I was constantly at his house after date 1. It was just…right. We were right for each other and the timing was right.

    Post # 74
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We officially moved in together after 2 years, but he was basically living at my old apartment before that.

    Post # 75
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    1966 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @oneofthesethings:  We are having a small wedding so yes we needed to determine what we considered serious. Its not like we called people up & said sorry your man can’t come bc xyz. It hasn’t been an issue at all. My cousin has a different bf every time we see her she isn’t getting a plus one & totally understands. If we were having a huge wedding it would be different. Fi went to a small wedding a few years ago without me bc there were very few plus ones. I wasn’t hurt at all, I even contributed to the cash he gave. 

    Post # 76
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    1006 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I didn’t vote, because we’ve been together four and a half years and I just moved in on Feb 1. 

    Edit: I would be offended if he or I were invited to a major event alone.  But before I moved to his town, while I was still in college, I wouldn’t have been offended even though we’d been together 1-3 years because we weren’t as much of a unit.  Once we started living in the same town and spending most of our time together, I saw us as a social unit. 

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