Post # 1
I just want a general idea of how long most people had between starting the wedding planning and the actual wedding date. I just got engaged and we are looking at early October of this year, so about 8 months from right now. I told my parents that and my stepmother thought jr was fine and my dad acted like I was nuts. (Yes they are paying for our wedding however money is no object for them whatsoever.) I know it’s not as long as say, a year engagement, but I didn’t think it was crazy? I’ve heard of people getting married 5 or 6 months after they got engaged.. I know I will have to be organized and on top of things but I feel pretty capable of doing that as I am a very organized person and I’m pretty sure that if we waited a year or longer to get married, I’d be doing all the planning pretty soon anyways because I lik to get things done ahead of time. How long was your engagement/was your time frame super stressful?
Post # 2
I got engaged in March 2016 and was married in September 2016- it was exactly 6 months from my engagement! I wouldn’t trade a thing. If anything, I would have had a shorter engagement.
It truly depends on how you will “be” with wedding planning. While I was involved, my mom definitely played a lead role. I wasn’t super particular about details and my venue handled most everything. At the end of the day, I just wanted to be married. If you’re the type to stress and overplan and fight with family about things, I would suggest a short engagement- less time to dwell on the inevitable!
Post # 3
We got engaged May ’15 and married June ’16. It really doesn’t matter how organized you are; it’s getting the vendors availability, making sure time slots line up, etc. If vendors were available 6 months out, we would’ve went for it!
Post # 4
We were engaged for awhile but started planning April 2015 and got married August 2016…so 14 months.
We had to get a head start in order to secure our venue and get our first choice vendors. The whole process was relatively stress free for me. I had a planner and she was worth her weight in gold. She pretty much did everything except the actual getting married part!
Post # 5
I had four months to plan. I got engaged in January and got married in April. I was bored with wedding planning by the third month and I’m glad I didn’t drag it out. I think you have plenty of time and it helps that you’re an organized person.
Post # 6
We’re going to have well over two years but honestly we’re at 8 months out finally and 95% of the planning is going to be now so you’ll be fine. I have three coworkers doing 6 month engagements and they have plenty of time.
Post # 7
we’ve got 14 months (engaged in july we get married this october), didnt want to wait much longer than a year but wanted the experience to be as stress free as possible and have time not to rush choices and save money where possible and so far i’ve barely stressed. If you’re an organised and relaxed person i m sure you could do it in 8 months if there’s a venue available 🙂
Post # 8
I think this is also highly location dependent. We started planning in December and I was really hoping for anytime this year but we couldn’t find any place that we could see ourselves getting married. So we pushed it back and are now planning for September of 2018, and all the venues we looked at already had 2-3 weekends booked that month. BUT we are in Boston and apparently September is a really popular time to get married.
On the flip side, my SOs cousin got engaged in January and is plannning for this September in Minnesota and seems to be having no problems. He already has most of his vendors set.
Post # 9
i planned in 7 months. i could have easily done it in a 4/5 months.
super easy, no stress or drama. my mom and i planned. Darling Husband just wanted to be involved in food and music.
less people involved the easier it is. don’t tell people your plans. when anyone asked me questions, i said you will have to wait and see. i didn’t care about anyone’s opinions but mine, my mom, or Darling Husband.
Post # 10
We have a long engagement, 20 months, but that was because we were in the process of selling our house and buying a new one when we got engaged. However, I do have a friend who is planning a September 2017 wedding and she just got engaged.
One thing to mention, I booked my venue 18 months in advance and I had issues getting the date I wanted. That is going to be the only hurdle, finding vendors that are not booked yet.
Post # 11
I don’ think it matters as long as you are organized and know how to prioritize things when it comes to the wedding. Like other bees stated you may have issues finding a vendor so it may take some extra work to find one but that is also were a wedding planner could be of help. They may be able to help you find vendors especially if they have a list of vendors that they have worked with and continue to work with. It can be done. I agree with the other bees the less people you have in your wedding planning process the better because everyone has an opinion.
Post # 12
We got engaged April 2016 and will get married March 2017. While at times it seemed long, we wanted a spring wedding and because we got a jump on planning we were able to secure our first choice vendors. I could have done it quicker if I had a planner, but so far i’ve done everything by myself.
Post # 13
Hello, we were engaged at the end of May 2016, picked a date and started planning in August, and were married in early December. Our first pick for church, reception venue, band and photographer were all available likely because December is not a popular month in Massachusetts. Three months was plenty of time, any longer and I would have been obsessing over insignificant details.
I think the timeline really depends on your flexibility. If you love the idea of a fall wedding and that time of year is popular where you live, you may find the venues you love most are already booked for October. You may need to change your timeline to keep your venue, or your vision in order to keep your date. You won’t know until you start planning 🙂 Enjoy!
Post # 14
we were engaged a year and a half before the wedding, but that’s because we both work insane hours and I wanted to make sure I had enough time to plan (and not turn into a bridezilla lol). The only thing I want to mention though is our wedding is located in a popular city so a lot of venues and vendors are booked a year to a year and half out in advance…
Post # 15
Totally doable! As others have said, if you have your heart set on October 2017, start booking the big things (venue, catering, photographer, etc.) ASAP or find a wedding planner that could help with that. I don’t think it’s unreasonable at all!
We personally got engaged August 2016 and are getting married June 2017 – 10 months or so. Even though it’s a very popular season, we booked the big stuff right away without any problems.