(Closed) How long did you have to plan?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
4186 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We got engaged on July 1st, married December 21st. So almost 6 months. And it was plenty of time. 

Post # 17
637 posts
Busy bee

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hannahbanana29 :  I have 20 months and found this to be perfect for me. But I work 60+ hours a week in a fast paced career, so I have little free time for planning. BUT…. I am also type A and want to plan it myself. It really just depends on the amount of time/ effort you plan on putting in. 

One thing to keep in mind…. some dresses take months to come in, plus a month or more for alterations, plus you need it early if you are going bridal portraits. Also, some of the best vendors will be booked. 

Otherwise, I know people who have done it in 4 or 5 months, and some for 2 years. Whatever works best for you. 

Post # 18
2185 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

My first time around, we planned for 4 months tops. However, we had the wedding at a private house with restaurant catering/serving staff and DIYed everything with the help of a few friends. Our photographer was a friend right out of photography school looking to expand his portfolio. No DJ or dancing. I bought my Betsey Johnson dress off the rack, no alterations necessary. We got flowers from the grocery store. 30 guests. I think it depends entirely on how involved with outside vendors your wedding will be and the size of the event and popularity of the location and season. Being organized will get you far though! Good luck.

Post # 19
1273 posts
Bumble bee

I think it depends on the type of person you are and what you want.

We got engaged April 2016 and are getting married March 2018. We’ll have had 23 months to the day by the time we’re done. A couple of reasons for choosing 2018 were financial and also time/stress related. I’m on the committee of an annual convention which is usally in October and that can take a lot of time up. The theory was that having an extra year would mean more time to pay for things and less pressure planning it.

I’d say we had 3-4 months of not planning at all, then started doing venue/wedding fair visits etc. I’m not having any difficulty finding vendors and if anything the hardest part is narrowing it down to what/who we do want. Some things were easy – like the cake company which I will NOT compromise on – but others like the photographer have been a slower process.

Post # 20
1191 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

9 months to the day.  Got engaged December 23 and we are getting married September 23.  I booked all our vendors, found my dress in the first month.  It’s totally doable!  Once you get all that done it’s just the waiting game until 2 months or so out.

Post # 21
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

engaged for 5.5 months, planned in 3 months, married in December. It was the perfect amount of time for us even though I was working full time and finishing my grad degree part time and hubby was working insaane hours. Neither of us were super particular about the details and we got amazing vendors (all our first choices). Our venue also coordinated a lot of the little details which helped a lot. 


it worked well for us but we also have friends who did 2 year engagements…

Post # 22
288 posts
Helper bee

We got engaged this past Christmas and our dating anniversary is in September. We chose not to do this September because our dates weren’t available at our venue. We’re also footing the entire bill for our wedding and we’re estimating it to cost around 25K, so we decided to give ourselves a longer engagement. We chose June 2018 for nice weather since the ceremony and reception will be outdoors in the woods.

Post # 23
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We got engaged in April 2016 and married in August 2016…and didn’t even start planning until June! We had a 10 person destination wedding which made the planning a little easier but still, it can totally be done in just a few months. 

Post # 24
126 posts
Blushing bee

I got engaged March 2016 and will get married in May 2018. The reason for the long engagement was that so everyone could have enough time to save up (we’re getting married in Mexico). Now we decided that it will be just the two of us so we didn’t really need to have a long engagement but at least we will have our wedding paid off and not going into debt.

Post # 25
2513 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I agree it’s dependent on location and how flexible you are with venues. That was our biggest challenge. We wanted to get married this sept, but my #1 venue (along with a lot of others) were already booked up. So, we ended up moving it to next sept giving us 1 year and 9 months of engagement. ha-ha! But, it also is allowing us to save more money up since we are paying for the wedding ourselves. 

Post # 26
555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada

We’re doing it in just over a year but the only thing that would have prevented us from doing it all in 3 months was getting our date at the venue.

Post # 27
582 posts
Busy bee

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hannahbanana29 :  my sister took 6 months to plan her wedding but she also wasn’t paying for it. My husband and I took a year to plan ours and we paid and his family helped by giving us $4000.

October weddings are awesome! 🙂 

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