How long did you make future husband wait?

posted 1 week ago in Intimacy
  • poll: After you and your current or future husband started dating, how long did you make him wait before t
    First Date : (42 votes)
    19 %
    First date to six weeks : (92 votes)
    42 %
    Six weeks to three months : (37 votes)
    17 %
    Longer than 3 months : (49 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee

    Ours was pretty slow; mainly because we both had gotten out of pretty serious relationships (10 years for me, 4 years for him). We started just hanging out as friends; it was probably around the 6 month mark before we actually acted on anything

    Post # 4
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    1039 posts
    Bumble bee

    Are you asking because you think it makes a difference? Just curious. I don’t think it does make a difference. 

    Post # 5
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    719 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

    Several long hours.

    Post # 6
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    121 posts
    Blushing bee

    The night we met at a party. I had every intention of making him my first one night stand. Funny how things work out.

    Post # 7
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    304 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    We were a little slower since neither of us had been with anyone before, so it was a few days after being together 2 months.

    Post # 8
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    4663 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Uhh, 3 hours maybe?

    This was faster than previous. I’d only been with two others before that. One was after about a month. The other was a friend who I’d known for a couple years and used to hang out with in a group all the time before we hooked up one night, so it’s hard to give a timeline. 

     

    ETA: Regarding “waiting”. I think all three times the guy never really was “waiting” on me to give the ok. The one month one was because he wanted to wait, not me. 

    Post # 9
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    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I guess it depends what counts. 
    1st base after 1 month (including our first kiss)
    2nd base after maybe 2 months
    3rd base after 3 months 
    4th base (alllll the way) wasn’t until a year in, when we got married. 

    So I guess that’s like, really really slow?…since most people seem to get the first 3 bases out of the way in one night, lol. 

    Post # 10
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    318 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m sorry for being that person but it annoys me when people do this. The assumption that men are willigless creatures only thinking about sex. Women on the other hand are protecting their innocence and achieving something by making a man wait. I feel this “how long you make someone wait” mentality is feeding and keeping slut shaming alive. 

    I know OP  you were probably praising this and being funny and mean no harm. It’s just  one of those me problems. end of rant.

    we’re not married but we had sex on our first date. It was a good night and we were attracted to each other so went for it. wasn’t quicker or slower than normal. If me and my date both want sex then we have it when we feel the most appropriate. with former partners it has sometimes been a few months and Sometimes the first date.

    Post # 11
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    first date! that was 3 years ago. we’re getting married next year 🙂

    Post # 12
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    70 posts
    Worker bee

    1st night…what can I say he was a right charmer 😜 

    in all seriousness, it just felt right, no regrets and no shame

    Post # 13
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    7414 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Well, I didn’t make him wait. The decision to have sex certainly wasn’t 100% up to me while he just waited from the moment we met. We were originally going to wait until marriage but didn’t want to rush into marriage just to have sex. We ended up waiting for 4 years before deciding we didn’t want to wait until we got married. If anything he was more dedicated to waiting till marriage than I was I was more the one waiting than he was.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee

    I didn’t “make him wait.”

    If anything, HE “made” ME wait!

    I had to ASK for sex on the 4th date – thankfully he agreed it was time.

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I would never describe it as “make him wait”–gross. We decided together to have sex after about a month.

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