How long did you make future husband wait?

posted 1 week ago in Intimacy
  • poll: After you and your current or future husband started dating, how long did you make him wait before t
    First Date : (42 votes)
    19 %
    First date to six weeks : (92 votes)
    42 %
    Six weeks to three months : (37 votes)
    17 %
    Longer than 3 months : (49 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 91
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2007

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    Post # 92
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Amy3 :  Your anti bullying stance is oustanding 

    Post # 93
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    396 posts
    Helper bee

    Amy3 :  Dont let her get to you. 

    Post # 94
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    47 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2007

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    Post # 95
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    duchessgummybunns :  I like antiquated views. No need to “challenge”(ie bully) anyone on their personal viewpoints just because you disagree. You aren’t better or “more allowed” than they are to hold differing views. You are grossly intolerant, it seems.

    Post # 96
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    Newbee

    it depends on your feelings, i guess. 

    Post # 97
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @amy3

    Jeepers!! You go on about bullying but then proceed to threaten physical violence to a bee with whom you don’t agree. News flash…you are doing the exact thing that you complained about others doing. 😕

    Secondly, you have just made awful and grossly judgemental remarks against people who work menial jobs and also people who suffer from mental illness.

    My grandmother used to say before you speak, look behind your shoulders because karma has way of creating situations in your life that reflect what you’ve been ‘speaking’ about…

    Good luck with all that.

    Post # 98
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    Er… there is no option for before we started dating.. no regrets 🙂

    Post # 99
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    Amy3 :  Woah.  Calm down.  If you read Innerdonught’s posts, her life is not at all boring, which is why her perspective is so good.  And neither is mine.  In fact, I would guess that most women on this site lead interesting and fulfilling lives.  

    Post # 100
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    134 posts
    Blushing bee

    jannigirl :  

    You would think that those who claim to empower women would accept that we are free to have our own beliefs and we shouldn’t be shamed for them. Selective empowerment isn’t helpful. 

    Post # 102
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    84 posts
    Worker bee

    Too lazy to tag everyone, but I can only speak from my experiences where it has always been the guy who broaches the subject first and me being the one to hold off on it. Same within my friend circle too…some couples even waited till marriage. To each their own, you know…

    But yes, both parties should consent to it, in my experience, that has always been men first. That’s why I sort of see the whole “made him wait” thing, given that most guys I dated were ready to go within the first few weeks (heck, some boys at clubs are ready to go on the spot if you’d let them) whereas I never really was ready with any of them till the current SO. Now, since this question was theoretically asked of me, I responded in like phrase because the phrasing is true OF ME….I made them ALL wait and only one got “it” in the end.

    *shrugs*

    I’m all for equality and all that but nitpicking phrases when everyone knows what it means seems a bit of a waste of time….Would “how long before you guys had sex?” be a more pleasing way to phrase it for all you sensitive language nitpickers? Seriously, there’s more to worry about life than the phrasing of a question on the internet….if this is worth phrasing a feminist debate about AND calling other women “gross” then you’re being very ironic and doing the movement a disservice, women face enough BS without other women piling on them too.

    Post # 103
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Post # 104
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    Blushing bee

    littlemissdimsum :  

    My personal experience has been the same in terms of men typically bringing up sex long before I was thinking about being sexual with them. Maybe the OP had the same interactions and that’s why she used that particular phrasing. 

    Making every little issue a GloriaSteinemesque hill to die on only reduces the credibility of feminism. 

    Post # 105
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    Busy bee

    First night I met him! I actually had more or less intended for it to be a one night stand, but a month later we were in love and in under 2 years we were married haha. 

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