(Closed) How long did you TTC before BFP?!

posted 5 years ago in TTC
  • poll: How long did you TTC before BFP?
    1-3 months : (29 votes)
    74 %
    4-7 months : (5 votes)
    13 %
    8-12 months : (1 votes)
    3 %
    1+ year : (4 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I wasn’t on BC so this may have played a role. I got a BFP in my third cycle. I didn’t chart with temps but I have been tracking AF using an app for more than a year. The app provides a general idea of O date and fertile dates, but again, it’s not necessarily accurate since I wasn’t temping. I kept thinking I was getting symptoms when I wasn’t PG and when I was finally PG, I didn’t get any symptoms aside from normal PMS symptoms. I fully expected to get AF and even went out for a big sushi lunch. LOL

    I think not stressing really helped. I stressed cycle 1 and 2 and BD a lot around the fertile period and for cycle 3, I sort of gave up and adopted the “If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be” attitude.

    Post # 5
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    1568 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Don’t get discouraged! I went off BC in December ’12 and started charting, temping and using OPK’s in February. I just got my first BFP 3 days ago. I believed I wasn’t ovulating since I never got a test line darker than the control line on my OPK’s, despite testing twice a day, 12 hours apart. My temp also didn’t change very much. Fertility Friend gave me a big ol “no signs of ovulation” this last cycle and guess what, my BFP was clear as day, I’m probably 4.5 weeks along! Baby dust to you, it will happen!

    Post # 7
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    2402 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m currently 26 weeks pregnant with our first child.

    It took me 3 months total to become pregnant after getting off BCP. I went off the pill a couple weeks before our wedding. First two cycles, we had no luck – I’m pretty sure I wasn’t ovulating the first cycle off – then the 3rd cycle was a charm for us.

    Good luck to you and don’t give up! Hope you get your BFP soon!

    Post # 9
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    641 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m not pregnant yet, but I can definitely sympathize with you. Darling Husband and I are both 23, and were married in October of 2012. I started having baby fever not long after we got engaged in February of 2009, but we both agreed that we wanted to wait to TTC until after we were married. We decided after the wedding that we would begin TTC at the beginning of 2013. I started taking prenatals and we began trying January 1st. I was tracking CM for ovulation prior to TTC, but I have not been able to do so since February. I went from maintaing a 28-day cycle for a year prior to having cycles ranging from 23-38 days in length after we began trying. AF has also been a bit different than usual.

     

    In January, after we began trying, I saw a CNM who did some tests and deemed that we were fine to keep trying. She documented in my charts that she wanted me to come back in 3-5 months if we had not conceived yet. At our appointment at the beginning of the year, she was quite convinced she’d be seeing us soon, and didn’t think it was necessary to begin temping or using OPKs. Well, unfortunately, we haven’t had the luck we’d all been hoping for.

     

    Each month that has gone by has been even more depressing than the last. I was sure I’d get pregnant right away. All the women in my family always got pregnant on their first time TTC, so I was hoping that would be the case with me.

     

    This month, I am trying to relieve myself of the stress I’ve been holding onto because of all this. I must say, it’s super hard to do so. Going on Facebook has definitely become difficult for me. I have had many friends get pregnant or give birth recently. Some pregnancies were planned and others were not. I always find myself wondering what I am doing wrong, or why it is so easy for those who weren’t trying.

     

    What’s even harder for me to deal with revolves around my own family. I am the eldest of three children, have been with Darling Husband since our freshman year of high school, and have wanted to be a mother for as long as I can remember. I assumed these factors would lead to me starting a family before my siblings, and having the first grandchildren for my parents (and DH’s), but that dream faded in December 2011, when my 19 year-old (then 18) brother and his fiance (then girlfriend) announced they were unexpectedly expecting. I have always done my best to put on a happy face for them, but inside it kills me. Don’t get me wrong, I love my niece, who was born in August of 2012, I just wish I were blessed with a little one as well. She is a wonderful, beautiful, smart child, but it hurts quite a lot hearing over and over again (mostly from my mother) how perfect she is. I am happy that she is now a proud grandmother, but it just eats away at me.

     

    Anyway, extremely long story short, I get what you’re feeling. I hope making things less stressful will help for both you and me. Wishing you all the best, and may we both receive our BFP soon!

     

     

     

    Post # 11
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    641 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @pumpkin85:  Sometimes, it really does seem so unfair, but I am trying my best not to be too bitter about it (easier said than done). I know in the world of TTC, others have waited even longer than I have. Thank you so much for your kind words and well-wishes! It really does mean the world to me. Also, I’d love to join the FB group. Do you have a link to the page?

    Post # 12
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    2299 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    For our DS we ttc for 10 months before going to the doctor and he gave me clomid and I was pregnant 2 months later. I’m 4 weeks pregnant now 9 months after having our son and we got pregnant after our first “official” cycle of ttc with clomid. We were ntnp up until that point.

    Post # 13
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    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @pumpkin85:  We got a BFP our second month.  1st month we were truly NTNP as I had no idea my ovulation dates or anything like that.  Looking back now, we totally missed my window of fertility completely.

    Second month we started actively TTC.  I checked on Fertility Friend when I should ovulate, and started testing (with the pee strips) days before….and then the following days ….and then days after that with no TRUE +.  I was like, “what the heck?! Am I no longer ovulating?!”  Well, good thing we were pretty much BDing every day all month b/c I tookd a OPK test Friday, April 19th with a negative result (and shook my fist in the air at my ovaries), and then Saturday, April 20th took a FRER since I was 6-7 days out before my period….and got a positive!! 

    Good luck to you!!  Hoping this month is a BFP! I’m so sorry to hear of your struggles as I know just getting a negative the first month was really hard for me.  I can’t imagine multiple months of that and I would also be more discouraged and sad as time went on.  Just keep your head up and believe it will happen.  Seriously what worked for me (clearly as I got negative OPKs all month) was to just BD every day, so if you aren’t doing that, maybe that could be something you try??  Sending baby dust your way and hoping your wait comes to an end!!

    Post # 14
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    3028 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Still TTC’ig, but…Per Impatient Women’s Guide, “women in their late 20’s or early 30’s who had sex at least twice a week got pregnant on average, within three months.  For those 35 to 39, the average was four months.  Another found that women in their late 20’s or early 30’s who has sex two days before ovulation- and only on that cycle day- got pregnant 35% of the time.  The odds are even higher if you can predict you ovulation using a technique…between 67 percent and 76 percent of women under 25 who were aware of their fertility time concieved in the first month.”

    Post # 15
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    779 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I need a weddingbee dictionary for all these abbreviations haha:P

    Post # 16
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    641 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @silkspectre94:  I used to have to google all of the abbreviations… haha!

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