Post # 1
My RSVP deadline was this past Saturday and right now I have about 75% of the RSVPs. Some of the missing ones are international guests that we know aren’t attending so when you remove them, I am still missing about 15% of them. I would love to go home to a mailbox full of RSVP cards this evening but we all know that won’t happen!!
I can’t make favors until I know who is coming because my favors are also my placecards and I need to do a seating chart before I can make placecards! I’d love to get these done this upcoming weekend because family is arriving next week and things are about to get crazy.
Can I start harassing people on Wednesday? (And by harassing, I mean polite e-mails/phone calls)
As a side vent, two of the missing RSVPs belong to people who’s wedding I attended LAST YEAR!!! Seriously!?!?! You just went through this and you still can’t get an RSVP in on time?!?!
Post # 3
You honestly could have started the day after the deadline. I would probably start sending a friendly email or make a phone call now that way you don’t have to wait.
My deadline was last Monday and I still have 4 outstanding RSVPs but not bad since the original count was 290.
Post # 4
We went through the same thing. Our RSVP date was purposefully a whole month before the wedding, as we had a lot of prep & had to order EVERYTHING (linens, chairs, glassware, et al.) 86 out of ~180 invited guests hadn’t RSVPed by the Saturday due date, so I sat on the phone all day Sunday (as did my husband & his parents). It is never too early–my guests had over a month to respond. Most people just forget or don’t realize that they’re kinda holding up the works. But I agree, if you just had your wedding-GET WITH THE PROGRAM. We never RSVP late. Usually we send it in a few days after we get the invite.
Post # 5
Thanks, I think I’ll e-mail people tonight after I check the mail and then follow up with a phone call later in the week if I haven’t heard anything.
I just didn’t want to jump the gun and do it too early!
Post # 6
I waited about a week and then started sending emails. Good luck!
Post # 7
I think you can start the day after the deadline, if you haven’t heard from people at all. You’re enttitled to ask for an RSVP!
Post # 8
My RSVP deadline was this past Saturday, 8/1, too. I started hassling people today already. There were 3 people at work I hadn’t heard from who I told today I need to know by tomorrow… I said “sorry to put you on the spot but you have known for over a month now!”
Other than that everyone else who has not replied are some of our our parents friends. I have already talked with my parents and he has talked with his so hopefully we will know by Wednesday. I need to get everything in to the caterer by Friday.
Post # 9
Our RSVP date was this past saturday also…and we have begun the harassment!
Post # 10
Ours was on July 27th and there are still some outstanding. To be honest we started calling/emailing pretty much on the 27th. I don’t really care if it’s rude, it’s rude not to send in your RSVP on time- and some people even had the nerve to ask for more time!! Like you everything was/is riding on our count.. linens, numbers, placecards doubling as favors, etc. etc. It’s not just the meal, which the count isn’t due til 72 hours before, and I think people think that’s the only thing but it’s not. We also had a handful of people change their RSVP from no to yes.. after the deadline, no less. My mom says she is disgusted with people nowadays and what ever happened to etiquette?
Post # 11
This inspired me to start bugging people. Seriously, what’s up with people? Start right away!!
Post # 12
you can start harassing as soon as the deadline is up. of course we were a bit sneaky – we started prodding friends when we saw / spoke to them even before the deadline. we realized pretty soon after the invites were sent out that no one was going to respond promptly.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
We didn’t wait long at all because our calligrapher — who’s doing our escort cards — needed the info ASAP. We actually sent reminders to friends and close family (via text and email) that the RSVP deadline was approaching!