Post # 1
We aren’t there yet but I’m already thinking about #2 (my Dear Daughter isn’t even 4 mos – lol) because I’m in my late 30s and feel time isn’t on my side. If you had babies close together, how long did you wait before trying for the next one? When did your period return? At what age did you stop breastfeeding? I feel like I’m going to have to stop when we want to start trying. I’d definitely like them under 2 years apart if it’s possible. Is that crazy?
Post # 2
TTC? what does this stand for?
Post # 3
I don’t think under 2 is crazy but I personally would not TTC until my LO is 1 year old. I did breastfeed (no supplementing) and I wanted to the whole first year so that is a big factor for me. Once you get pregnant you will eventually lose your milk supply, if you dont have aversions to it immediately. I didnt wean mine until she was 25mo so I enjoyed having time with just her and not having to push her until she was ready.
I wasn’t in a time crunch though and I really wanted time to NOT be pregnant before getting pregnant again. So my ideal gap was 2-3 years. But personally I would wait until at least 1 so you can breastfeed and so your body actually has time to heal and replenish nutrients. My period came back at 7.5mo pp but I don’t think I ovulated until cycle 3 and my luteal phase was only 7 days until I quit pumping at work at 1 year. So unlikely I would have been able to get pregnant until she was 1 anyway
Post # 4
My Dear Daughter is 20 months and we are just starting TTC for #2. My sister has 3 under 3 (the oldest is about to be 3) and she doesn’t think it’s way too much work. But to each their own! The sooner the better I think!
Post # 5
It isn’t healthy to conceive within a year of giving birth. Doctors say wait a year. I conceived number 2 when 1 was 17 months old. I stopped breastfeeding both at 10 months because they were sleeping through the night then and I dried up so I wasnt nursing when I concieved. I think I got my period back 1 or 2 months after I stopped nursing so they were about a year old.
Post # 6
Vineyard-bride15 : My son was born when I was 32- it took us 4 months to conceive him. I breastfed him until he was 21 months. Started TTC again when he was 25 months old, it took us two cycles and I turned 35 a couple weeks after getting my BFP. If all goes well with this pregnancy (I’m only 8 weeks) then baby #2 will be born two months before #1 turns 3.
ETA: my cycles returned at 11 months postpartum but I don’t think I was fertile until a bit later when he was nursing less and my luteal phase lengthened. Breastfeeding for longer than a year was important to me which is one reason why I didn’t want around a two year age gap or less.
Post # 7
DD#1 self weaned at 11 months old, I got my period back when she was 10 months old, and we started TTC #2 when she was 16 months old. I got pregnant on the first cycle and my kids are 25 months apart. I think it’s the perfect age gap, and I wouldn’t want anything less than that.
Post # 8
My son didn’t start sleeping through the night until about 16 months, so there was no way I wanted to get pregnant before that. My period came back at 16 months postpartum, too, and we were still breastfeeding at that time. I think he was about 19 months when I got pregnant with my second (pregnant now). I was 27 when I had my son and will be 29 when I have this baby.
Post # 9
ladyfreya : Cory_loves_this_girl : MrsAKSkier : I think I’d want to wait longer if I was younger. I had to work really hard to breastfeed and it’s definitely important to me. I feel like I’m going to have to stop earlier than I want to to try for #2. I already feel pressured about it but I wonder if that’s silly. I’m not sure 6 months really makes a difference or not in conceiving but I’d really like to have two before I’m 40. It took so little time for us to conceive our first, I feel like I can’t expect that again. I’m afraid it might take a long time.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON
DS was born in April 2015 and we are thinking about TTC this January! I am 37 but I am just not ready yet to TTC just yet.
Post # 11
My kids are 17 months apart. The end of my second pregnancy and the first 6ish months of having two under two was pretty hard. They’re two and three now, so things have kind of settled down. They play together (or wrestle each other to the ground, as it were) and both do the same types of things at the playground, eat the same foods, etc. Now that they’re in similar developmental stages I’m having so much fun!
Post # 12
I just turned 30 and had my Dear Daughter almost 4 months ago, same as you! I was wondering this same thing, how long to wait before trying for number 2. My doctor said to wait at least a year to let your body heal before trying again, but every time I see a pregnant lady it makes me want to be pregnant again, lol. My hubby and his younger sister are only 14 months apart, so his mom got pregnant with my SIL when my husband was 5 months old and everyone was fine. You know your body best so do what feels right to you.
Post # 13
We are hoping for our kids to be around 2 years apart! My son is almost 14 months old and still breastfeeding. We have been trying since he was 10 months old, but my cycle only returned 3 weeks ago. We are hoping this month is our lucky month! Good luck mama!
Post # 14
Dd is 15 months and I’m still nursing. Not even considering another atm, but if I was a few years older I might consider it when she’s 2.
Post # 15
My son is 19 months old. I breastfed for two months, got my first PP period when he was five months old, we tried to avoid conceiving until he was a year old, then went to NTNP, then TTC for the last few cycles and still nada. It seems like some women have a very easy time conceiving while they’re still breastfeeding, some women have to wait until their toddlers are only nursing twice a day and some women have to stop entirely before they can conceive, so unless you’re in a huuuge time crunch, I don’t think you need to stop breastfeeding before giving TTC a few tries! If it doesn’t work, you can always re-evaluate and wean at that point.
Two under two sounds like a lot of work to me, but it’s also got to be nice to get all of the TTC/pregnancy/infant stuff over as soon as possible! The older and more independent my son gets, the less I’m looking forward to “starting over” with an infant.