Post # 17
I think I waited a few months. Not because I wasn’t ready, but because it was a pain in the ass & I was lazy. I like my new name much better; I had no attachment to my father’s last name, plus my little brother will carry it on so it’s not like it ends with me.
Post # 18
Not married yet but I already feel the hesitation. I decided to hyphanate for some of the pervious reluctant bee’s reasons. I don’t want to lose my link with my family, and it’s been my name for 29 years, why do I have to give it up now? I have to get it changed by March (or get FI’s name added), as changing my name on my passport will be free until then. But I think I will wait until after the new year to do it.
Post # 19
I changed mine ASAP for my social security and driver’s license. Everything else…not so much. I’ve been changing the less important stuff whenever it comes up, usually when i’m talking to a rep and explain my name change; they offer to change my name for me.
I’m so lazy about that. My maide name is still on our joint bank account just because i don’t feel like ordering and waiting for all new checks with my married name
Post # 20
I think this is probably different in the US.
In the UK, if the woman takes the man’s name, the certificate of marriage is enough to say your name is changed. So my name is changed when I sign the certificate at the wedding. You only need to go and officially change it if you’re doing a variation like the man taking the woman’s or making a new name etc.
Post # 21
I’m SO with both of you. I’m getting married in November and fully plan to use the “oh look! I’m so busy with the Thanksgiving and oh wow, Christmas! and oh look at that it’s springtime and Easter is coming so I don’t really have time …” etc. etc. I was on the fence for a very long time about changing it at all – something my future inlaws were so horrified by. I had at one point declared I wasn’t changing it … then got a giant first initial ornament for Christmas of my FI’s last name. With the speech “that’s an [initial]. [initial] for LASTNAME.
Glad to hear I’m not alone in my attachment!!
Post # 22
It’s been almost 2 months since the wedding and I just went to the social security office today. I’m going to the bank tomorrow and my DMV appointment is next week. I put it off this long because of a combination of being busy and dreading the long and boring wait at the social security office and DMV. I kept my maiden name as a second middle name, so I don’t feel like I lost any family ties.