How long did you wait to conceive between pregnancies over age 35?

posted 2 weeks ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

zstbee84 :  My RE declined to do another FET until I was 12 months post partum. I wanted to do it sooner, but he feels that pregnancies within 12 months of birth have higher risk of complications

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I was 36 when I conceived our first, who was born when I was 37. We needed IUIs to conceive him but then I got pregnant on the first try at 39. (I was shocked!) Our first was 20 months at the time. My doctor hadn’t given us any recommendations on timing but I’d read 18 months.

 

Good luck, bee! I’m rooting for you. 🙂

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

While I wasn’t quite 35 (though I was in my 30s), I had three children in exactly (the first and the last have the same birthday) four years. My dr. Made no recommendations regarding waiting, but we had babies on the larger end and I didn’t have significant complications. I wouldn’t wait 18 months or more to TTC another after 35 unless my dr. specifically told me it was necessary. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

General recommendations I’ve seen range from 6 months (absolute minimum) to 18 months (recommended). From my understanding, there are 3 types of risks from spacing pregnancies close together:

1. Pregnancy complications affecting mother / pre-eclampsia, placental issues, etc. Risks are higher after a c-section. 

2. Risks impacting baby – premature labor, low birthweight, etc.

3. Potential small increases risk of autism

Some studies I have read show that risks impacting the baby are eliminated when the pregnancy is planned and the mother is receiving early pre-natal care (though the risks to the mother remain). 

Based on all this, and my desire to have a large family, I plan to start trying for a second when my first is 9 months assuming I have an uncomplicated caginal birth. I’ll wait a little longer (22 months) if I end up with a c-section. I figure we could get lucky and get pregnant right away, in which case I’ll have to deal with the risks. More likely, it will take a few months and we will be closer to the safe zone.

Post # 21
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Busy bee

I had my first at 33, and originally thought we’d start trying for #2 when she turned 1, but that milestone flew by and we just weren’t ready. At the 1yr pp mark, I was just beginning to feel like myself again and my marriage was finally feeling settled and solid again after a bit of a bumpy ride til then, so we just wanted to enjoy the moment for a bit without worrying about another baby. Our current plan is to start trying when she’s around 2 and I’m 35, but we’ll see. I am a little worried about how TTC #2 will go because I struggled with MCs while TTC #1, but I’m trying not to let that fear dictate everything. 

My doctor did advise waiting 18 months between pregnancies per the latest official recommendation, but followed that up by saying she got pregnant herself at 5 months pp and it was fine.

Post # 22
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was 34 and 39. I had a miscarriage at 38, otherwise they would have been a little closer in age. 

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

My RE will not do a second FET until 12 months post partum AND 6 months post breast feeding.

Post # 25
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think I could have kids closer together than 2 years for my own sanity.

I had just turned 31 with my daughter and will be almost 37 by the time this kiddo is born. We wanted them a little closer but my body had other ideas.

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