(Closed) How long did you wait to have sex for the 1st time with your fiancee/husband?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 121
576 posts
Busy bee

My (now) husband and I actually had sex the second time we hung out with each other and it lead to us being exclusive, then him moving in and now we have been married for a month.  That was the first time I ever worked it like that but I knew from the beginning he was the one. Wierd, and against my moral compass but we are good now πŸ™‚

Post # 122
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

For us, it was about a month in. I didn’t even kiss him after our first date! I had been burned so bad with two previous relationships that ended up in me pregnant and alone. Yup, twice. I wasn’t even sure I wanted to date after what I’d been through, but I also was afraid of being alone. Everything with my fiance was different. He didn’t try to pressure me. But it had been a while for both of us, and one night I was at his house and we were watching a really boring movie. He asked me if I was ready, and even after I said yes, he got up and got a glass of water and walked around for a few minutes. He came back, and asked me again. After that, I knew he was the one for me. Now we are planning our wedding and I know he will never leave me. He has promised me that, and he’s never broken a promise to me before.

Post # 123
1552 posts
Bumble bee

6 months after our first date, after we’d been living together and sleeping in the same bed for like a month. The wait made it super meaningful!

Post # 124
2863 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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NATO:  Second date but we knew each other over 20 years

Post # 125
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Trilogy Golf Course at Glen Ivy

3 months after we went on our first date.

Post # 126
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

It was our second day together/hang/whatever you want to call it.  We were at training for a week and I expected it to be an “at training” thing and that was it.

I never expected him to call when he got home.  Here we are now: planning a wedding.

Post # 127
2092 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

TBH we would have done it the first date if we would have had protection! But we were patient and waited for the second date a couple days later. πŸ˜‰ 4 years later we’re going strong as ever!

Post # 128
2842 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think I win – for us it was 45 minutes after we first met, those 45 minutes being the distance between the airport and my house.

Admittedly, we had known each other for 2 years as internet friends before we met (we lived in different states), and about 2 months of that getting to know each other more closely. So we actually knew each other pretty damn well before we met. 

Post # 129
1771 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Well. Lemme think.

we were friends for a while, and hung out with larger groups Of people; we got closer over time.  One day, him and a bunch of friends came over to my house for dinner. We proceeded to  watch the  Lord of the Rings trilogy- like the whole shebang, 9 hours- if not more. By the time the movies were done, only one other guy was still there; he passed out on the couch, and I (not so subtly) invited Fiance to spend the night in my bed. BUT- he was really scared to make a bad move and lose me as a friend, so he did… Nothing!

he was leaving for TX for the holidays 2 days later and I offered to drop him off at the airport at 6:00 am. We agreed he should probably spend the night at my place (again) to make logistics easier in the morning… we were in bed, and he informed me he was going to kiss me. We made out like teenagers and I even put on a super sexy lingerie set to titillate him. We had no condoms so we had to cool it down, and went out at 4:00 am to ihop, for what actually turned out to be our first date. (we graduates to the gf-bf title while he was in TX.)

****ing me is pretty much the first thing he did after getting back in town ten days later. 


So, 1 week-ish?

Post # 130
3298 posts
Sugar bee

All through my early twenties I would make them wait… for months. With my SO we got really drunk and uhhh, got busy all night pretty much on the first date. Classy, I know….

Nearly 4 years later and we are still like rabbits hahahaha

Post # 131
241 posts
Helper bee

24 hours! that makes me sound really bad lol! it was a rare occasion, that is for sure. DH and I met while he was on vacation so we only had 2 days together after meeting. It worked out though since we are now married πŸ™‚

Post # 132
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Another rare case here. We waited to have sex until we were married, so nearly 3 years after being together and about 4 years after becoming friends πŸ™‚ I am glad we waited.

Post # 133
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

NATO: We kissed on the first night we met but has sex 1 month after we met.. We have been together for 4 yrs, we live together for the last year, he bought ering 1 month ago..

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