(Closed) How long did you wait to tell?

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Immediately after our BFP
    8 weeks (after 1st dr. visit) : (7 votes)
    11 %
    10 weeks : (6 votes)
    9 %
    after the first trimester : (37 votes)
    58 %
    We hid it as long as we could : (5 votes)
    8 %
    Other : (9 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    3081 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Well we were 6 weeks at Christmas and thought it was too good an opportunity to give my in-laws as a present, so we told them then. I told my sisters the day I got my BFP, and my best friend the day after Christmas (6 weeks). We’re waiting to tell everyone else until second trimester, although if I have a good appointment on Friday at 8 weeks and hear the heartbeat, we may elect to tell a second wave of our closest friends.

    If it hadn’t been Christmas, we definitely would have waited until at least 8 weeks and first dr appt to tell my in-laws.

    I didn’t vote because I had a few different answers!

    Post # 4
    1444 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We were too excited to wait.  Everyone knew right away.

    Post # 5
    361 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We’ve already told my BIL because he and his wife are also in the very early stages of pregnancy so we are kind of going through it together. We will tell our immediate families after our first ultrasound and everyone else after the first trimester. That’s the plan anyways…

    Post # 6
    6598 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think we are going to tell family and my three BFFs after we hear the heartbeat. For everyone else it will be once we hit the second trimester!

    Post # 7
    544 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @globalmargaret:  We told immediate family (parents, our sisters) and 3 very close friends at 5-6 weeks. Told my DH’s grandma at 8 weeks because she’s 98 and always appreciates being in on an exciting secret!

    I don’t plan to tell any other family until we are finished with genetic screening, likely around 12 weeks. I’d like to wait to tell my work until as late as possible, but we’ll see!

    Post # 8
    446 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @globalmargaret:  My inlaws are going to their vacation home for a few months when I will be around 11 weeks so we will probably tell them before they leave.  If it weren’t for their trip I would wait until 12 weeks.  We will need to tell my parents around the same time or they would feel left out knowing later than the inlaws.  

    I’ll tell friends around 12 weeks and coworkers I think I’ll wait as long as I can but realistically probably not much later than 12 weeks.

    Post # 9
    4042 posts
    Honey bee

    @globalmargaret:Never been pregnant but most of my friends have waited until after the first trimester to publicly announce it.

    However, we have some friends who just announced via Facebook and holiday cards…she is only 5 weeks pregnant: I personally thought it seemed to be a little early, bu obviously she didn’t!!


    Post # 10
    512 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We waited until after the first trimester even though I was about 2 months along at our wedding and we were tempted to tell everyone.  It was a Catholic ceremony and when the priest asked if we would willingly accept children into our union, dh & I just squeezed each others hand and grinned at one another, so cute!

    We really enjoyed having our own little secret. I was happy to finally tell but I really enjoyed that special time when it was just me, dh and the bean.

    But I did tell my boss earlier because I had had ms and she allowed me to work from home when needed. Luckily she was a mom too so she got it.

    Post # 11
    512 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @bmo88:  My sis and SIL both announced to family and friends before their visit from AF was even due! I thought it was crazy but it worked for them.

    Post # 13
    561 posts
    Busy bee

    We didn’t tell anyone (accept my mom) until last wednesday…aka 16w2d…

    We still aren’t telling anyone else. I have to tell my boss soon though cause I’m defintitely starting to pop and she’ll be pissed if she has to figure it out on her own.

    Post # 14
    2994 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @globalmargaret:  I told my mom right away and then my best friend at 8 weeks. We told parents and in laws at Christmas when I was 9.5 weeks. I would’ve preferred to wait longer on family but Christmas was a fun time to tell and my husband was so excited. I am now 11 weeks and my first appointment is tomorrow. No one at work knows yet even though I’m friends with my co-workers. It’s been a little hard to hide but I’ll wait until the second trimester – I’m close to it now! I also live in a small town (2000 people) and I know once people at work know everyone will know haha. Congrats to you!


    Post # 15
    1309 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We told our parents and siblings at 8 weeks and told them not to tell anyone. We then told our grandparents at 12 weeks and let it spread from there.

    Post # 16
    1812 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We told immediate family on Christmas (@5w1d), we will be telling a couple close friends if our scan goes well next Monday (@8w1d), but we aren’t going public with it until valentines day!

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