Post # 1
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Bumble bee
If you’ve ever miscarried, how long did it take you to really want to try again? I know right now, I’m devastated and the thought of trying again makes me sad. I don’t want to go through the ‘motions’ again; I really want to be able to get pregnant by just having ‘fun sex’ and not having to think so much about it, but that isn’t going to happen.
I really don’t know when to tell FH that I want to TTC again. This miscarriage has devastated him as well, as he was excited to finally be a dad. I know my body needs a while to get back to normal, but after that…how long did you wait to TTC again?
I was really thinking 2 years after we’re married now, since I can’t fathom the thought of doing it any sooner right now (of course, I may change my mind once this isn’t so fresh, but right now anything sooner than that makes me feel queasy.)
How long did you wait?
(If this is too personal, I understand, and don’t worry about answering. I just feel alone in my thinking of not knowing if I even WILL want to try again, and I was wondering if others had a similar experience.)
Post # 3
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Busy bee
I miscarried 2 weeks ago. Don’t rush it. I still flip flop with what I want. The first week I was dead set on ttc for a few months. The 2nd week I still felt the same way 90% of the time, the other 10% I felt ok with it. Little by little I am ok with trying again but not at 100%, so until I am, we are not trying.
Do your grieving. You wlll know when you are ready, but don’t give up!
Hugs!
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: March 2012 - Father\'s Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center
I miscarried in June and began to TTC one cycle later. However, this is my forth miscarriage, and after this one, my OB/GYN (I have a new one, thank goodness) demanded that I come in for some tests and it turns out my thyroid is out of whack. Now that we know what is wrong with it and I’m on the correct meds, I was ready right away. The other three miscarriages were from accidental pregnancies when I was younger, but I think I would have waited to TTC again for a long time afterwards, they really hurt my heart. I think the reason I bounced back so quickly after this one and was ready sooner was because now I believe that I actually have a shot at having a sticky baby. I would just tell you to listen to your heart, and when you are ready more often then not…then I would begin again. Lots of hugs dear! If you ever want to chat, don’t hesitate to PM me!
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I’m so sorry. 🙁 For me my Dr. Said I could start right away and we have been. I am taking the NTNP mode, since I’m not sure where we are in my cycle. I think the trying mindset is a very personal decision. Age is a huge factor for me, I’m going to be 37 in a week, also I truly believe that things happen for a reason and that something was wrong. I know not everyone thinks this way, but for me it brought comfort. Hugs and good luck on whatever choice you decide, it is awful either way.
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
For me, I was ready to begin trying right away. I am realistic about my miscarriage and know that it happens in a lot of first pregnancies, a lot more than people talk about. This doesn’t mean that I don’t still get sad, it has only been a few weeks. A friend of mine miscarried and didn’t try again for 4-5 months and that is what was right for her. I however am hopeful that my next pregnancy will be a sticky one and am ready, willing, and anxious to get there again. Do what feels best for you and take all the time you want.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
I miscarried in May and we are TTC in Jan. I’m still healing. 🙁
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
I am very sorry for your miscarriage. 🙁 I hope that you are taking good care of yourself.
Post # 9
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1251 posts
Bumble bee
I have been taking it easy the past few days. However, I’m having extreme back pain and migraines, and medicine isn’t really helping. Hopefully that will wear off on its own. I didn’t have to have a D&C because I miscarried naturally and didn’t need to, but I still have anxiety about everything.
FH wants to begin TTC soon after the wedding, which I am not against, I am just very scared now.
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
@AcheneMalefic: For me, I dunno. I had kind of a revelation the Tuesday after my MC (started bleeding on Saturday), which is a super long story, but I’d be happy to share if anyone was interested. It was very, very painful. But looking back, it was the thing that made me ready to try again. So less than a week for me. I’m so sorry for your loss. =(
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
We tried right away after my first mc, got KU within 2 weeks, but then had another mc just this week at 6 weeks.
So now I think we’re going to wait at least one normal cycle, which will put us into TTC again in Jan/Feb/March. That’s kind of what I’m thinking right now anyway. And I’m also seeing the Dr to make sure we tackle anything that might be wrong first too. I’ll feel way better about ttc if I think we have a good chance of it sticking.
Post # 12
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1251 posts
Bumble bee
@Sunshine09: We’ll be TTC around the same time! Maybe we’ll both get sticky babies!!!
Post # 13
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84 posts
Worker bee
@AcheneMalefic: First off, I’m so sorry for your loss!
I was ready right away (as in… I realized how badly I wanted a baby when I lost one). We took two months off as recommended by my midwife to get rid of the yuck that could be left and we are officially “trying” this month!
You’ll know when you’re ready. Do what you need to do to heal. Sticky baby dust to you!
Post # 14
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Newbee
im really sorry for your loss, it seems we’re in the same situation i miscarried last monday so its only been a week, im finally getting over the physical but the emotional trauma is still pretty fresh, i dont have much of an answer for you, as i am having the same dilemia.
i am at the moment bouncing between not wanting to try for a few months to wanting to try in the next couple weeks. DH is set on trying again straight away.
it might be a good idea to see doctor before trying to concieve so they can monitor you closely and hopefully this wont happen again.
fingers crossed for a sticky baby for you x
Post # 16
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Busy bee
I had a dnc on Vday, and we just started trying again last month. if we dont get prego this month, were goign to wait until June