Post # 1
It took me THREE YEARS to find out Fiance is human and capable of mistakes. That was 2.5 years ago, so I guess our honeymoon period ended then. Is that crazy or is it normal for a Honeymoon period to last that long? What ended your Honeymoon period? How long did it take?
ETA- Ours ended due to a big lie, which resulted in a huge fight. I feel like it’s good that that happened before our engagement.
Post # 3
It definitely took 2 years for me! That’s why I’m a fan of longer relationships/engagements for myself; the honeymoon period is fantastic but it takes me awhile to get out of it and I want to make sure I can deal with the person when I’m not honeymooning it up.
Post # 5
It took several years for us, too. But the good news is that once you get married, you get to start a new “honeymoon period”!
Post # 6
I hope mine lasts a lifetime. Naive but hopeful. lol
Post # 7
@garden_bride: That’s what we’re hoping about our married honeymoon period. 😉
Post # 8
I answered “6 months or less” because I realized he was human very early on, lol. I feel like I’ve always seen him pretty clearly, faults and all. That said, my heart still starts to beat a little faster when I know I’m going to see him, and I just still feel very much “in love” with him, after 4 years…
So, no honeymoon period, just the real thing, I guess?
Post # 9
@stillme: same for me! I always feel weird when people talk about a honeymoon period because I don’t think we really had one. Maybe for like 4 months? But it doesn’t matter to me becasue we are still very much in love now as we were 6 years ago, if not even more.
Post # 10
@stillme: Omg I’m still so excited every time he comes home after work! But I definitely had an unrealistic vision of him early on.
Post # 11
Our relationship has been such a rollercoaster from the beginning that I honestly have no idea when the Honeymoon prior ended, probably the day he asked me to be his girlfriend lol.
Yet I am still here, trying to make it all work. The things we do for love, I tell ya.
Maybe we will get a new honeymoon period after our wedding, but i am not really holding my breath.
Post # 12
Hmm… I don’t know. We were bestest friends for 8 years before we even started dating, and knew EVERYTHING about each other faults, fears and weirdness in all. He knew my temper and I knew how stubborn he is, and we knew what buttons to push. It think that this sums it up.
“We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”
Post # 13
I guess it depends what you mean by ‘honeymoon period’. For me, it’s that first flush of love/lust/romance, where you can’t keep your hands off each other and are having sex all the time; and this lasted about 2.5 years for us.
If you define it in terms of knowing your partner is human, and knowing their flaws, and vice versa, I’d say a couple of months; but for me that isn’t the definition of the honeymoon period; I think you have to be quite blinkered to think anyone is perfect.
I prefer our relationship now the honeymoon period is over; it’s still exciting, we still do new things, we still have a great sex life, we still go on ‘dates’ frequently, etc, but it feels more ‘settled’; it’s hard to explain. I do think though it’s so important to be past the honeymoon period before getting engaged, which is why I’m always a little dubious of very quick engagements.
Post # 14
@barbie86: Our sex life is very rigorous (like, it hasn’t changed at all), we go on dates a few times per week, and we snuggle all the time haha. But I spent the first three years waiting for the other shoe to drop – I did not believe that a person could be so perfect. Color me blinkered! (Sorry I don’t know that word.)
Post # 15
Well, we moved in together at the 6 month point. So… six months or less 🙂
Post # 16
I dont think we had a honeymoon period. I had known my Fiance for about 5 years before we got involved with each other. And we had been experenced some pretty intense situations together before anything sparked. Nothing says bonding like working together to pull a 36week pregnant woman out of a storm water drain in the middle of a major flash flooding event. haha.
So yeah, I knew alot about him before we got involved. He had already pissed me off a million times. And there was actually a period where I used to hang up on him when he rang because I didnt want to hear it anymore (firebrigade related, not personal).