MemberIt took me THREE YEARS to find out Fiance is human and capable of mistakes. That was 2.5 years ago, so I guess our honeymoon period ended then. Is that crazy or is it normal for a Honeymoon period to last that long? What ended your Honeymoon period? How long did it take?
ETA- Ours ended due to a big lie, which resulted in a huge fight. I feel like it’s good that that happened before our engagement.
MemberIt definitely took 2 years for me! That’s why I’m a fan of longer relationships/engagements for myself; the honeymoon period is fantastic but it takes me awhile to get out of it and I want to make sure I can deal with the person when I’m not honeymooning it up.
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HostessIt took several years for us, too. But the good news is that once you get married, you get to start a new “honeymoon period”!
MemberHostess@garden_bride: That’s what we’re hoping about our married honeymoon period. 😉
MemberI answered “6 months or less” because I realized he was human very early on, lol. I feel like I’ve always seen him pretty clearly, faults and all. That said, my heart still starts to beat a little faster when I know I’m going to see him, and I just still feel very much “in love” with him, after 4 years…
So, no honeymoon period, just the real thing, I guess?
Member@stillme: same for me! I always feel weird when people talk about a honeymoon period because I don’t think we really had one. Maybe for like 4 months? But it doesn’t matter to me becasue we are still very much in love now as we were 6 years ago, if not even more.
Member@stillme: Omg I’m still so excited every time he comes home after work! But I definitely had an unrealistic vision of him early on.
MemberOur relationship has been such a rollercoaster from the beginning that I honestly have no idea when the Honeymoon prior ended, probably the day he asked me to be his girlfriend lol.
Yet I am still here, trying to make it all work. The things we do for love, I tell ya.
Maybe we will get a new honeymoon period after our wedding, but i am not really holding my breath.
MemberHmm… I don’t know. We were bestest friends for 8 years before we even started dating, and knew EVERYTHING about each other faults, fears and weirdness in all. He knew my temper and I knew how stubborn he is, and we knew what buttons to push. It think that this sums it up.
“We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”
MemberI guess it depends what you mean by ‘honeymoon period’. For me, it’s that first flush of love/lust/romance, where you can’t keep your hands off each other and are having sex all the time; and this lasted about 2.5 years for us.
If you define it in terms of knowing your partner is human, and knowing their flaws, and vice versa, I’d say a couple of months; but for me that isn’t the definition of the honeymoon period; I think you have to be quite blinkered to think anyone is perfect.
I prefer our relationship now the honeymoon period is over; it’s still exciting, we still do new things, we still have a great sex life, we still go on ‘dates’ frequently, etc, but it feels more ‘settled’; it’s hard to explain. I do think though it’s so important to be past the honeymoon period before getting engaged, which is why I’m always a little dubious of very quick engagements.
Member@barbie86: Our sex life is very rigorous (like, it hasn’t changed at all), we go on dates a few times per week, and we snuggle all the time haha. But I spent the first three years waiting for the other shoe to drop – I did not believe that a person could be so perfect. Color me blinkered! (Sorry I don’t know that word.)
MemberWell, we moved in together at the 6 month point. So… six months or less 🙂
MemberI dont think we had a honeymoon period. I had known my Fiance for about 5 years before we got involved with each other. And we had been experenced some pretty intense situations together before anything sparked. Nothing says bonding like working together to pull a 36week pregnant woman out of a storm water drain in the middle of a major flash flooding event. haha.
So yeah, I knew alot about him before we got involved. He had already pissed me off a million times. And there was actually a period where I used to hang up on him when he rang because I didnt want to hear it anymore (firebrigade related, not personal).
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