(Closed) How long did your "honeymoon" phase last?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@missamysmiles:  Agreed.  And quite honestly, I couldn’t go on like that forever!  It’s awesome and exciting, but exhausting.  I think a lot of people are defining it differently than us though.

Here’s a prime example:

I remember when a couple of friends first started dating.  One of them (and shortly thereafter, both of them) was DH’s roommate, so we were bystanders to their early relationship. I remember one night we were all having dinner together and the girl made enchiladas.  I remember the guy looking up at her and being like, “oh my god, these enchiladas are amazing” with this goofy look and tone as if she’d just brought out the Mona Lisa made in cheese and tortillas or something.  Literally, his jaw DROPPED at the sight of the pan of enchiladas.  My guy and I both cracked up laughing later at how hard this poor boy had fallen.  They are a great couple, and are now married with a one year old, but (luckily, for us) they eventually exited the phase where the guy thought everything the girl did was the most amazing thing he’d ever seen.  Cute at first, but sort of nauseating when it’s in your own home everyday!

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@weddingbee098:  3 years in for us – we are still in the honeymoon phase.

Hope it lasts forever ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think our honeymoon phase wore off around the four-year mark… to be fair, we were long-distance for most of the first 4 years, so it probably took a little longer than some because of that.

Sure, there’s still a spark, he still gives me butterflies sometimes, and we still have romantic moments/experiences, but after 11+ years together, we see each other as real people with faults and imperfections – and we love each other anyway. We’ve been through tough times and good times and know we can count on the other for both. The honeymoon phase is fun, but I wouldn’t trade the deeper, abiding love we have now for anything.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@weddingbee098:  I think our true honeymoon phase probably ended after 2 years together, about 6 years ago. However, we are very much still over the moon about one another. I just feel weird saying that we’re still in the hm phase after being together for nearly 8 years.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We still get giddy over each other but have definitely had periods where we’ve bickered for days on end and it sucks!  But, I think that’s normal in relationships.  We also were bickering a lot during a time when we were both under a lot of stress and anxiety so that didn’t help, but things have gotten better.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We still get giddy over each other but have definitely had periods where we’ve bickered for days on end and it sucks!  But, I think that’s normal in relationships.  We also were bickering a lot during a time when we were both under a lot of stress and anxiety so that didn’t help, but things have gotten better.

Post # 23
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Helper bee

I think our honeymoon phase ended after 1 year. During that time,  it all seemed still so new, and the excitement of learning about this other person was still there.

I have been with my SO for 7 years now. The honeymoon phase is fun, but there is nothing better than the way it feels to be with someone for a long time and to know them so well. I feel like each year, our love for each other becomes more meaningful and its roots grow deeper. We are more independent, more secure, more in love than we have ever been. Of course, there are moments when we bicker and get angry with one another, but we have learned how to communicate with each other more effectively, and understand each other better, which allows us to move past upsets more easily. And thankfully, our sex life is still just as awesome as it was in the beginning! haha!

 

That’s just my personal experience. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

 

Post # 24
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Newbee

I honestly don’t think we ever had one! We started off as FWBs and it developed into an actual relationship slowly and mutually. I can also be a VERY standoffish person and doubt it’s possible for me to fall head over heels or feel all dreamy about a guy. I’m too non-romantic and pragmatic I guess. Now I’m not cold at all towards my bf since I know and love him. Took me a year to determine that I loved him, however.

Anyone else NOT have a honeymoon phase? 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Dh and I were best friends for 3+ plus years before getting engaged and I think we actually had our honeymoon phase while we were friends. Around year 1.5 we had a tiff that left us estranged for about four months. I still loved him but we were not close during that time. Since we started dating, we didn’t really have a honeymoon period, and im glad about it. I guess we knew what we were getting into before we started dating! 

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We have been together 13 years and I constantly fall more and more in love with him. He is still SUPER sweet to me and does the cutest little things to surprise me or make me smile. That being said, to me the “honeymoon phase” is when the other person can really do no wrong in your eyes. You’re enamored and constantly giddy with butterflies. When you can’t keep your hands off of each other and find every chance to sneek away. Yes, I still get butterflies with my Darling Husband, but it doesnt happen everytime he just walks into the room or anything lol. I look forward to seeing him at the end of the day everyday and we’re still super affectionate but realistically I don’t think we’re in that same honeymoon phase we once were. For us I think it ended about 2 years after we moved in together (so 6 years into the relationship).

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We met in our twenties and have been together 8 years with one break-up. I broke up with him briefly about 1.5 years in. I would say that would signify the ending of the honeymoon phase. It just meant that we needed to learn more about each other and how to relate to one another. You accept the person as they are and learn how the nuts and bolts are placed in your relationship, or you don’t/can’t.

I would still consider us very much in love. We’re still nauseatingly cheesy, we’re always touching, we spend all of our time together, and he can still drive me absolutely wild with the right touch. You also don’t stop learning about one another, though neither of us have changed at our cores over the course of our relationship. I just know that between 1-2 years is when I really came to understand and know him, and it was around 2 years that I realized and understood that Prince Charming farts and snores and gets grumpy at times, if that makes sense.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@weddingbee098:  We never had one. LOL. Seriously. We just didn’t

We entered a relationship and it’s all been very “real” since! It may not be everyone’s cup of tea but I prefer the authenticity and know there is no pink cloud to come off of. 

We’ve been together nearly 2 years, married 4 months. 

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Ours is long over and we arent even married yet. We have been living together for two years now. The honeymoon phase ended aftetr about 6 months of living together.

I dont feel bad that its over, because we are just as in love as we were on day one, there is just a whole lot more that goes into our relationship now. Even though its not like a romantic movie every day, I feel much closer to him every day that goes by. We are continually learning about one another, growing as a couple, growing as individuals and even though its not all “beautiful” on a daily basis our relationship is getting stronger and more intimate in a different way.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ours ended when we moved in together, I think. LOL. Seven months in. From then on we just fell into a routine of being together happily. We fight, but our love is deep. We find a way to live day to day without killing each other ๐Ÿ˜›

ETA: We’ve been living together for four and a half years now, married four and a half months, together just over five years.

Post # 31
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Bumble bee

@weddingbee098:  I feel like we’re still in our honeymoon phase.  We’ve discussed it and joked around about how it hasn’t worn off ๐Ÿ™‚  I still want to spend every second possible with him, I still get butterflies in my stomach.  If I think about it though, I guess that more technical honeymoon phase lasted about 6 months.  I honestly think it would have lasted longer but we were both hit with a traumatic life events within a few months of each other.  I know he saw me at my worst, but when I was at my worst he was amazing and that’s when I knew I loved him.  That’s when I knew it was more than just that early infatuation.  In the long run that mess bonded us closer even if it did hit us with the realities of the other person.   

 

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