(Closed) How long did your "honeymoon" phase last?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@weddingbee098:  i think we are still in our honeymoon phase. We have been togethern10 years and dating 6 months. Sure we have had our problems but its important to.keep the relationship new, fresh and respect eachother. Communicate and trust and its worked very well for us

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

We’re not married yet, but I think the honeymoon phase is over. And I’m glad. I want to know what I’m really getting into; not feel like I’m on extasy and then have a harsh come-down, if you know what I mean.

 

I am excited for this next part: the building of an actual, founded relationship. 

 

ETA: For the timeline: We met after online “talking” (and being exclusive) for a year. We were long distance committed for another year and then I moved to Europe. I think the honeymoon phase ended about a month after moving into our new flat. We had a LOT of stress, including culture shock, new jobs, wedding planning, and adjusting to living together after having both been single for AGES.

 

Post # 34
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6354 posts
Bee Keeper

I totally believed the common sense that this wasn’t possible before I met Fiance, but 6 years and counting.

Post # 35
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560 posts
Busy bee

see, I think of the honeymoon period as being that time when you feel like you are on a cloud, they are all you think about, you can’t see any of their quirks because they are the most amazing thing in the world. 

As much as I do still think SO is the most amazing thing in the world, I would say the infactuation phase wore off after about 3 months. Now I am completely in love with him and still happier than I have ever been before, but I definitely feel 31 and in love…not 15 with a crush if that makes sense

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@JustMe12182:  Totally agree.

There is this chemical infatuation at the beginning of a relationship that some call “love-sickness.” It’s a real thing, and it does wear off over time. You don’t need as much sleep, can’t eat, get giddy all the time, etc. But that can’t be sustained by your body, and it wears off after a few months.

I’d call that the honeymoon phase. My Fiance and I are at about three years now, and I prefer the real stuff we’ve got now more 🙂 We have a deep friendship, and I like that better than the intense infatuation. It does seem to rekindle every few months, like when we take a trip or do something really exciting together.

Post # 37
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290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

8 months. We’ve been together 6 years and I prefer the more realistic relationship we have now – we’re real life partners

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@weddingbee098:  Honestly, we been together almost 8 years and we are still in the honeymoon phase. I think it’s more about our personalities and who we are as people than ‘what we do to keep it that way’. Both of our parents have been married many years and I still think they are in honeymoon stages still.

 

I don’t think it needs to fade.

Post # 39
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834 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

@weddingbee098:  

I think that love is what you make of it. I can choose to be boring in the way I love my husband, or I can choose to work hard to make each day fresh and new.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@weddingbee098:  I think our honeymoon phase endeded about a year after we started dating ( when we moved in together). 

Still love him to pieces though!! I feel like we are really ready for marriage after living together for nearly three years

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think roughly a year?  Then he lost his job for over 6 months and I got busy with work and school. We still love each other and do things for each other, but instead of living in a dreamy fairly tale, our relationship move into a secured, calm one. I love the feeling that I know when i turn my head, he will always be there.  It’s the feeling that “it’s good to be home” 

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@weddingbee098:  Saw this thread yesterday but was in a serious strop so didnt reply. If you asked me yesterday, id have said it was over at 5 months in. Today, after a good night’s sleep and some sofa time I would say we are firmly in the honeymoon stage! LOL. Guess it ebbs and flows!

Post # 43
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I say about 1 year? Where he could do no wrong and i couldn’t keep my hands off him. 

And then we moved in together, and things changed lol.  Love changes after that when you start having responsibilites, but if you are lucky it simply grows into something different. We have a new honeymooon period since the wedding is over.  No more stress and i can enjoy being with him again!

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Don’t think we ever honeymoon phased… we started dating in college, in a VERY tough program (architecture) which sort of sucked all the “honeymoon” out of any relationship – our first two years together we were getting about 16-20 hours of sleep/ week, working non-stop during the day, eating like crap, and getting no exercise.
It was a JOY. We quibbled over the stupidest things.

Then we got out into the “real world” and we grew some more.
Then we moved in, got engaged, what have you… we’re closer now than we’ve ever been.

I don’t think we’ll ever miss skipping the honeymoon phase – we’re both too practical for that.

Besdies, we’re hella happy and amazing together right now!

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