Post # 1
Hey Bees!! This new member needs your help!! So by Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been together for 3 (almost 4) years and living together for 2 years. We are both still young, I’m 20 and he is 22, I am working 2 jobs and he is still in University. We have been talking about our future a lot (marriage, house, adopting a puppy, kids eventually) and know what we want out of our reationship. Anyway, I know he has a ring (he’s has it since march this year!) I know what it looks like since i picked it out and we got it sized and I know where it’s hidden (he doesn’t know that I know). What I want to know is, How long did your SO wait frm when they got the ring to when it was on your finger?? The wait is killing me and I need a distraction. I know he won’t propse this year as his uncle is getting married this year and his cousin got engaged last month and he doesn’t want to steal their thunder. He also wants to wait until after my 21st (Feb). Please tell me your stories!! I need a distraction!! Also, When do you think he will ask??
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 2018 - City, State
Im guessing a few weeks….. He was asking me ring questions and kind of i.plied he needed to ask early so that it didnt tip me off closer to the time and surprise me. He was moving hows a d grumbling about expenses of moving and the little ratbag compounded that by buying a ring! Im guessing maybe 3-5 weeks ?
And When? I dont wanna say because it could tip you off bahah but my fiance was hinting at around October when he met all my family. But my sister got married last week so I was dropping hints that then wasnt a good time as it was her wedding so I assumed it would be christmas qhen I meet his extended family but he ed the date forward to august ❤ – so the whole “not this year because of weddings” could be a ploy so you dont expect it sooner? If he has a ring now how on earth can he keep it so long?
Post # 3
He had the ring two weeks. But it was a complete surprise to me so yeah, he only told me afterwards that he’d been thinking about it for a while and planning it properly since we booked the holiday so about 3 months.
I don’t understand this whole we brought a ring together ages ago but he hasn’t proposed yet thing. It’s only something I’ve heard of since I’ve joined the bee. It seems really odd to me to buy a ring together, but you’re not engaged yet because he hasn’t proposed…..
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2020 - Hopetoun House, UK
My partner had the ring for 6 months before he proposed, majority of that was due to a job role change he had where he was stressed about work and didnt feel right proposing until he was less distracted! He kept to his word though, as soon as he was more comfortable in his job role he proposed, while we were making smores on the fire pit with the dogs!
I chose my ring so I knew he had it and all, we are both still quite young too 23 & 25 though we wanted to get married we weren’t too rushed about it, I wasn’t really the nagging type so though I knew he had the ring, the timing of the proposal was all a surprise! We also ordered the ring online so it was amazing seeing it in real life!
Post # 5
He didn’t. Rather he couldn’t. Haha! We’re in a long distance relationship. We designed the ring together and after it arrived, the next time he came to see me he proposed.
Post # 6
jazzyb123 : We chose the ring in November 2016, and received it sometime in December, and he proposed in March 2017, so around 4 months. We bought the ring when I was 20 and he proposed after I’d turned 21 as well. We got married 2 weeks before I turned 22.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
Like 5 hours lol. He picked it up in the morning and proposed that afternoon. Of course I had no idea!
Post # 8
He picked up the ring in the morning, and proposed that evening. But we had been talking about getting engaged for a while, he was actually going to propose with a stand in ring, but decided last minute (literally, he picked up the ring the morning we left on vacation overseas lol) that he wanted to propose with a real ring.
I think the whole “stealing thunder” excuse is bs, personally. Someone is always going to be getting married, if you wait to get engaged every time some relative or friend is getting married or engaged, you’ll never get engaged. BUT you guys are still young and he’s still in university, so I can see why there wouldn’t be such a rush. If I were in your shoes, I’d just be annoyed that he got the ring so far in advance of the proposal, because that would drive me crazy lol.
Post # 9
He had it for 8 days before we left on our vacation where he planned to propose. He told the jeweler he needed it one week before he did, in case there were any issues.
Post # 10
For me it is tbd, but I don’t expect him to wait more than a month or two at the most after he gets it. Just long enough to make it a surprise.
I agree the stealing the thunder is bologna. But waiting until you’re 21 seems completely reasonable. I’m going to guess your 21 birthday!
Post # 11
Six weeks 🙂
He would have proposed sooner, except he was across the country for awhile there lol
Post # 12
Less than a week – he wanted it to be a surprise while we were on vacation. Picked the ring up the day before we left and proposed four days later, after he found a spot he liked. 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
Mine was immediately! We didn’t do a proposal, we discussed wanting to get married and agreed to go ring shopping that weekend. I found the one I loved and it already fit perfectly, so I wore it out of the jewellery shop.
Post # 14
It sounds like you already know when he’ll ask. On your 21st birthday or afterwards, very exciting!
We started the ring search in March/April 2018, received the ring July 2018, and he proposed September 2018. The wait was hard! I am not sure how you’re waiting this long, oof! We are little older than you & your SO so a long wait wasn’t part of our plan. But it will be exciting none the less!
Post # 15
My husband went to browse rings on a Tuesday, bought the ring on Wednesday, proposed that Saturday.