Post # 1
My distant cousin got married July 2009. My mother and I DO NOT get along with them, so we opted not to go to the wedding. However, we did send a gift. We sent them a beautiful crystal cake-plate. Well, prior to their wedding, there was a blow-out between the grooms mother and my mom. However, we sent the gift anyway.
We have NEVER recieved a thank you. Everyone else in the family recieved theres. We did not. When my mother questioned the grooms mother about this a week ago, she said “Oh well, it must have slipped their mind…They have a year to send one!” It’s been OVER a year.
According to ettiquite, how long do the B&G have to send out thank yous?? What would you do in this situation.
Post # 3
I also want to apologize for my atrocious grammar and spelling. It’s been a looong day.
Post # 4
I think this is less about how long they have (which really isn’t more than a year!) and the fact that everyone else got theirs, so clearly they were writing thank you notes to some people, just not you. It would be one thing if she said it got lost in the mail but she basically acknowledged that they didn’t send you one and that they know it. I’m not sure of the best way to handle that but it’s definitely not good etiquette.
Post # 5
A year kind of seems too long. I’m 2 months out and freaking because I haven’t finished. Hopefully this weekend!
Post # 6
Yeah…over a year is definitely TOO long. They didn’t send you a thank you. I don’t care if you all don’t get along – no thank you is just plain rude. I don’t know that there is really much you can do at this point though. It’s a tough situation 🙁
Post # 7
I hope we can get ours out within two months.
Post # 8
I wanted to do something cute with some of our pro pics, and also send guest’s faux-to booth pictures to them in the cards, so I haven’t started yet, but will as soon as I can.
Post # 9
Personally – I think three months MAX is an acceptable timeline for getting out thank you notes following the wedding. I’m requiring myself to have them done by 2 months post-wedding.
Post # 10
A year is definitely not accurate…. but better late than never I guess.
Post # 11
A year is too long, in my opinion. I’d say a few months.
Post # 12
Um, they should be sent ASAP. It seems rude to send a thank you note a YEAR after receiving a gift. You have a year to give them a present, but I don’t think they have a year to thank you!
Also, if they have sent their other thanks, this is a little pointed.
What I would do is ignore it. After all, raking someone you don’t like over the coals for not thanking you for a gift you gave seems like a waste of your time.
Post # 13
My hubby and I got married 2 1/2 months ago, and I finished the last of mine tonight, and it’s later than I wanted to send them out. I was aiming for two months, but I think three months is still acceptable. Any more than that and you’re really pushing it.