(Closed) How long do I allow myself to 'chase' RSVP's?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

no use a mid week date… like a tuesday.  Then i’d give myself till sunday to hear from everyone.  Then start the calls on Monday and go to Wed.  If you haven’t heard one way or the other, they are a no.  I had to leave a message telling one of my friends, love you so much, you are married, you didn’t send the RSVP in and I haven’t heard from you so you guys are a no. (we are still friends lol, she completely understood and they were a No anyway lol)

I seriously have little toleration for the rsvp stuff.   it’s not brain surgery and i even put a stamp on the response card. 



Post # 4
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Nic01:  We used a Sunday as our response date and it seems to have worked well, and we are leaving ourselves two weeks after to chase people down.  In the few days following the response date, we will be sending out email reminders or making phone calls.  Whoever hasn’t given us an answer by the two-week mark will be an automatic “no”.

Post # 6
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think mine was the Tuesday that fell a week and a half before my 21 day number had to be in (so, 32 days in advance).  I gave people the benefit of the doubt that maybe they thought it mean “put it in the mail by this day” and gave them untl Frday to arrive.  Then started calling that weekend while I had time and had days 28-21 to get solid answers from people.

Post # 8
3267 posts
Sugar bee

You really shouldn’t need that long to track people down.  A week at the most. 

Just remember to call people and not just facebook message them.  Actually speak to people.


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