Post # 1
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
I just read where a Bride said to another bride that she couldn’t get married because it was “her year”.
I commented that the bride only gets a week. In all seriousness I feel for a week my crazy emotional behavior is allowed. Including highs and lows. I might even ask favors. I don’t know what I will be like or do. Hopefully, I will be over the moon excited with no atress whatsoever.
Two part question.
1. How much time did you or someone you know use the “being a bride” card?
2. What did you or they expect or ask etc?
Post # 2
The only scenario where I would be upset is if a family member or friend invitee scheduled their wedding within 2 weeks of mine, reason being that then one of us would miss the other’s wedding while on honeymoon. Otherwise, in my opinion, you get your day and the days for your pre-wedding events and that’s it.
Oh, and in my opinion, you don’t get a single second to be a bridezilla.
Post # 3
I didn’t pull it in every day life, but when I had a melt down over photographers or DJs or venues (and since we planned our wedding in 11 months and have at least 2 in each catagory tell me they were booked) I would pull it out when I was crying on FI/DH’s shoulder.
In day to day life, I had my wedding party pull out the “you’re the bride” card more than I ever did. I would get wierd questions on what people wanted to do for about 6 months prior to the wedding (should I get my hair cut, a new tatoo, how about hair color?) I totally did not expect or ask for it, but I think since I’m a more traditional bride while most of our friend’s weddings were non-traditional, they thought I woudl go off about things like that. Personally, on our wedding day, I didn’t even have time to pull out the “I’m the bride” card other than “I need to go talk to my other guest, because I’m the bride.”
Post # 4
I think in fairness the bride gets a week. My Fiance cousin wants a month before or after her wedding, with no other weddings. We’re going to have to put our foot down on that though because that takes the entire fall season which is when we wanted to get married as well. I think a week is reasonable. At least when it comes to close friends and family. My sister got engaged 4 days after me, and I asked that she just not plan the wedding the week before or after, just because of business. You definitely don’t get a year…
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2014 - The Bellagio Hotel, Las Vegas
Ok I say a week and the day after your wedding you can no longer play the bride card (Because your no longer a bride your now the wife). Some people the brides card to long. And act like other people can’t get married or engage because they want to be the center of attention. I have a cousin who’s getting married two months after me and we both are loving the fact that our weddings are close together. I mean what’s better then having family and friends starting a new chapter in their lives and being able to give pointers and tell them how things went for you.