How long do you really need to plan a wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Got engaged last March and getting married Saturday. So we did it in a little under a year and it wasnt too stressful and things didn’t get too elaborate. I’ve heard people plan a wedding in 5 days 😂 

Give yourself enough time to research and price match vendors to reduce costs. I picked the venue right away and then brainstormed for a few months before really making any other decisions. I felt anxious to get stuff done with an entire year ahead of me. I wanted to send those invites ASAP 🙂 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We were engaged for 6 months. I had a very hectic work schedule for a couple of months. We only used 4 months to plan, and it was over the holidays, at a location about 3 hours away. We took a couple of trips down to the town where most of the vendors were and otherwise did everything remote. You definitely don’t need an entire year.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

We were engaged for about 1.5 years, but only started planning the last 6 months of our engagement. We had a very simple, casual wedding. I didn’t have strong opinions about the details so I didn’t need much time to make any of the decisions. I just wanted to be married! If it’s not your style to have a big, elaborate affair, I don’t think you have anything to worry about if you have a longer engagement. We live in a larger city where there are lots of options with vendors, so it might be different if you live in an area with limited choices. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We did it in four months. Got engaged early January 2017, married April last year. It really depends where you are and what time of year you’re aiming for. Ours ended up way beyond our expectations, but we had a pretty fluid budget and chose April as it’s the far end of summer/early autumn (Southern Hemisphere) and we gambled a bit with the weather. We were lucky, it was perfect in the end. 

If you’re keen for a very popular time of year for your area/country/state then it may be very difficult, but if you’re happy with off season then you’ll have so much more flexibility. Budget too, will dictate how easy it is to plan. If you’re particularly enthusiastic about a typical sort of dress (the usual princess bridal stuff) you may also have difficulty as there’s long lead times on these. I was never going to wear anything like that so it wasn’t a problem for me. 

I’m amazed when I see people say how long it takes to plan, we found that it was really pretty straight forward. My husband was equally involved though so it was a problem halved. It’s also easier if you’re used to working in job that requries plenty of planning, organising, event coordinaton etc! Spreadsheets are your friend… 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think wedding planning can be as stressful and elaborate as you want it to.be. I got engaged Christmas Eve and we’re getting married the first weekend in May. We also had friends who got engaged Christmas day and they married a couple of weeks later.

In any case, planning and booking hadn’t been too big an issue, but I’m really flexible and don’t really care.about having the perfect venue, etc. Dress buying is harder with a shorter engagement since a lot of labels take up to 6 months just to create the gown. 

IDK what I’d do with a longer engagement though. 5 months is long enough to plan stuff without getting bored and sick of wedding planning.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

You can plan a wedding in as short as a month. The only issue is vendor availlability and making sure you give the legal amount of notice for intention to marry etc. 

The more time you have, the more time you worry about things that dont really matter and get a bit caught up in the small things. Its also time to sort out super fine details but these are not necassary. Such as wedding favors, over decorating etc.

 

 

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I don’t find the active planning takes a whole lot of time – FH and I both work 10+ hours/day and don’t find it very stressful. We have many friends who had 6-month engagements. I think the driving reason behind longer engagements is that there can be a fair amount of “passive prep time” if you are dead-set on a particular, popular venues, photographers, ceremony sites, etc. because even if you could have everything ready the next day these vendors book way in advance. Our friends who had 6 month engagements had to be OK with being less choosy with the vendors. One tip is that a restaurant venue might be easier to book on a shorter timeframe (and might have better food + bar + staff to boot, since they’re all working in their element that night)

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I could have easily planned our wedding in a few months, but many of the vendors I wanted (specifically the venue) booked out a year, if not more, in advance where I come from so we were bound by that. If I wasn’t so picky about the venue and other things, then it would have been a different story.

FWIW, my dad and step mother planned their wedding in 3 months. Their guestlist was on the smaller side (about 50 people attended), they got married on a Friday, they had their ceremony at the Town Hall (a bit nicer than just the registry office but still not an over the top todo), their smaller guestlist gave them more flexibility with reception venue (it was a restaurant), my step mum bought a dress of the rack, they only had a Maid/Matron of Honor and best man (who chose their own attire/wore something they already owned), etc etc. A short engagement is totally possible, you just have to be willing to compromise on things.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

The rate limiting step is vendor availability. If you’re flexible about which ones or whether to have them at all, or are picking an unpopular time of the year (winter), it is less of an issue. Most venues I looked at for a late summer wedding in a major metropolitan area were all booked by 10 months out

The actual time spent itself was less of an issue, though. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

There’s lots of whirlwind wedding checklists on Pinterest. I think available venue dates sometimes impacts on the engagement length so if you’re not going for a busy/popular location you’ll get dates sooner.

I reckon it’s not that hard to do in 3 months or less – if you get an off the rack dress and are laid back with what vendors you use. 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I am hoping we can do it in less than one year as our wedding is planned for January 2019 but we won’t start planning and making bookings until late Feb. 

 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2018

As most of the PP have pointed out, it all depends on how choosy you want to be. I was engaged at the end of October, and our wedding is mid-March. I’m about 95% done with planning. Once we set the date, I went with vendors I liked, with my date open because frankly, a lot of them do book out months to a year in advance. If I had a longer engagement, I may have made a few different choices but overall I’m stoked at how the planning has gone. 

I went to a bridal shop that specializes in off the rack, one of a kind dresses (samples, etc.) And that made all the difference in my opinion. I didn’t have the five-six months to wait that David’s was quoting to order a dress. 

I wish you a lot of luck in your planning!! 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

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About  three weeks , but it was registry office and a restaurant  after , and only about 15 people so not really much   of a logistical challenge ! 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Our engagement will be about a year and a half because that was the first available weekend date at the venue we wanted, but that is the only thing making it that long. We made all our decisions very quickly so I reckon we could’ve planned it in about 6 months. 

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