(Closed) How long do you stay mad until you cave in?

• Mrs. Louboutin
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: June 2010

We don’t cave in… we work it out and come to a compromise.  

• meke
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: May 2014

We rarely fight or argue, so I don’t get mad at him much, sometimes frustrated, but when I do, its hard to stay that way as he makes me laugh! He likes to seek me out and make puppy faces begging for me to not be mad, and I can’t keep a straight face if I wanted to!!

• impatientlywaiting20
• 6 years ago

SO and I don’t often fight we mostly get excessively frustrated and irritated, oh wait does that count as fighting? We usually take a break for about 15 minutes and then try to come back to the subject a little calmer. We don’t last long because SO always makes me laugh when I am cranky with him.

• MrsDPal811
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: August 2012

Not for long. I can’t stay made at the fool. He always makes me laugh.

• PacificMrs
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: May 2013

@MrsDPal811:  Fiance is the same way. Irritating, but I just can’t be mad when he looks at me with some dorky/cute face. Damn men and their stupid power over our emotions!
 

• MrsWBS
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

we hardly ever fight but when we do, we usually take anywhere from 30 minutes – 2 hours to cool off, talk it out and apologize.  Our longest fight ever, we went for like 12 hours without speaking (mostly only because I had plans right after the fight and when I got home he was already sleeping)

• JemmaWRX
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: September 2012

@Mrs. Louboutin:  Yep.  I don’t think it’s good to just “cave” without really resolving the issue.  Unless of course it’s something silly.

• mepayne
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: October 2018

He always apologizes to me first, and then we work out the root problem after we cuddle for a little bit. When he’s mad, he’s impossible to reason with, so I always wait for him to cool off and apologize before we can move forward. 

• takemyhand
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: July 2012

No more than an hour, and usually less cause he makes me laugh.

• StefLovesJamie
• 6 years ago

We don’t fight, but if we disagree we’ll calmly discuss whatever it is that we have an issue with. I stay irritated for around 5 minutes at the most and then always end up laughing. He doesn’t even get irritated with me, really.

• niasg1
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

I have to be honest the last big argument I had with my Fiance we didnt speak for a month (he was in Afghainstan). He had gotten cocky and started taking me for granted and I knew I had to take a break to reassess the relationship. I needed to decide if I was over reacting or I was justified. If he was going to start putting me first or if I was going to leave permanently. Sometimes men get too comfortable when they ask you to marry them and you start making arrangements  some think you would not call it off. He yelled during the argument “is the wedding on or off”. I said off and ” then he I would hope you would not cancel the wedding because you made all those plans”. I told him I love you but I love me more and if you dont know what place I belong in then we should not get married until you do. It hurt me not to talk with him for a month but I felt it was necessary because we needed to see what our lives would be like without the other. The time apart has definitely strengthen our relationship because we both know what we would lose and how empty our lives would be without each other. Everything I hoped he would say when we talked again he said it without me having to say a word. I knew then that he was the man I am destine to marry.

• nushka
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: October 2013

Jeez, bees, you know what she means by “cave!” Not every fight is some elaborate thing you need to discuss until you’re blue in the face! Just like not every battle is worth fighting and sometimes you do have to cave!

OP, we fight a good amount but we were also friends so I think we’re just less disciplined with our emotions than people who met under different terms. Never lasts more than a couple of hours. I dont know how some couples can go for days without speaking, I would go INSANE

• niasg1
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

@nushka:  I agree what I described was the longest time we have ever not spoken. We are not that way anymore we only have a couple of hours before I or he caves in. The previous time was to draw my own line in the sand to let him know because you asked me to marry you does not me it is open season on my feeling and I am going to put up with it because we are getting married crap.