(Closed) How long do you stay mad until you cave in?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper

Haha 30 minutes max! I really hate conflict so I do not like to drag anything out. Sometimes you need to make your point or get someone to think, or think yourself or cool off, but I don’t need days for that!

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We try and have a ten minute rule — if something happens, we take ten minutes separately to figure out our role in it and/or calm down. We both fight by getting silent and withdrawing, so if we don’t talk about it quickly, it seems to become a bigger problem than it was to begin with. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BlondeMissMolly:  Girl, you dont know how bad it was…hahaha i needed to do what I did….

Post # 20
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Busy bee

We don’t fight.  We disagree sometimes but we’re both open to accepting that we might not be right in our viewpoint.  I respect that someone else has different opinions than me, and while I may not always agree with his beliefs, it doesn’t bother me to agree to disagree.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@leporidae:  

Depends on the issue, but usually I last 20 minutes apart in another part of the house and then one of us will cave in and resolve it. Our worst fight resulted in me leaving the house for a weekend to go to a log cabin in the mountains and “cool off.” (i told him where I was going before I left lol)

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@niasg1:  No judgement! That doesn’t found like a fight anyway, more like a lil break to think things through.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

About 10 minutes haha. Because it’s never about anything to begin with…just one of us being a butthead.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@nushka:  My Fiance called it a major argument and I like you feel that it was neccessary to assess the relationship. Long story short my Fiance totally changed since the one month separation his cockiness is gone. I believe the month separation gave us a lot to think about and he realized what I meant to him. I always believe that we set the tone for how others treat us. He knows now what I expect from him and vice versa.

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

“We don’t cave in… we work it out and come to a compromise.  “

 

Ditto! 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

An hour or so max. We don’t really argue anymore, it’s mostly just one of us getting upset and the other one apologizing and we move on.

Post # 27
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

We don’t really fight..but sometimes we disagree on some things.  We would just talk it out.  Sometimes I do get mad/irritated because he’s such a mess (clothes, shoes, papers…everywhere).  But that lasts all of 10 min.

Post # 28
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Uh, we don’t “cave in”. We actually resolve the issue.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

There’s no point in being mad – I have committed to be with this guy for long haul, so might as well make it enjoyable.  That said, we try to work it out as soon as possible.

Post # 31
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

….sometimes I’ll start a fight just so we can make up…so I guess I cave pretty fast

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