(Closed) How long do you think a couple should be together before getting engaged?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long should couples be together before they get engaged?
    one year : (75 votes)
    22 %
    two years : (133 votes)
    39 %
    three years : (54 votes)
    16 %
    other... explain : (75 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 109
    Member
    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Like others said, I voted other because it totally depends on the couple. Some need more time, some need less, and I’ve known successful and failed couples in both scenarios. 

    Post # 110
    Member
    9086 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Depends on the couple. To-be husband and I have been together 8 months and we’re getting married on the 9th. Every relationship moves to the beat of a different drum.

    Post # 111
    Member
    10713 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My Darling Husband proposed 9 months after we met. We moved in together 3 months after we met. I don’t think theres a time limit that all of the sudden says OK GO YOU CAN THINK ABOUT GETTING MARRIED NOW…. hahahahahahah.

    I knew my Darling Husband cared and was there for me through some pretty serious stuff those first 9 months so why would I not agree to be his wife?

    Personally I wouldn’t wait around for years and years to see if he wanted to marry me… If he was unsure after a year I’d have moved on, and just stayed friends. Everyone is different though.

    I know we just got married 5 months ago but were coming up soon on 3 years together and things are so comfortable and just like they were in the beginning so I guess when you know YOU KNOW.

    Post # 112
    Member
    12 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We dated a year and a half before getting engaged. But I am 20 and I have known him since kindergarten so its not like we didn’t know each other and by the time we got engaged we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together,

    Post # 113
    Member
    3092 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I vote other.  I don’t care or have an opinion on how long people should be together before…well anything. 

    Fiance and I have been together for almost 11 years so you’d think I’d say a long time…but it didn’t happen on any timeline…it just kind of happened when we were ready…if it had been 1 minute into it so be it…or 11 years 🙂

    Post # 114
    Member
    43 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I think you have to be together a hell of a lot longer than 3 months, which is length of time my Future Sister-In-Law spent with her Fiance before he proposed. She’s 21 and one of the most immature people I’ve ever known. My Fiance, her brother, wants to seriously take bets on how long their marriage will last, but the problem is no one even thinks they’ll make it to their wedding day.

    Honestly, it depends on how mature both people are and what influences their decision to want to get married. I would say it takes at least 2 years to know if you’re truly ready, but I understand it’s common for people to be engaged after less time together, and go on to have successful marriages.

    If it matters, I was with my Fiance for almost 7years before he proposed, we were/are both 26.

    Post # 115
    Member
    358 posts
    Helper bee

    Personally I think people get married way too quickly. Choosing who your going to marry is a HUGE lifelong commitment that will effect your life forever and should not be taken so lightly. I simply could not imagine making that huge of a decision based on one year or so of dating, even more so when I’m young and still figuring myself out.

    My boyfriend and I have been together three years, live together and have a cat and I am still learning new things about our relationship everyday and only now seeing the “long term” part of our relationship and how we relate to each other on an everyday basis. I think if you do get married quickly you miss out on that and are more just guessing that when things change, the years go by, you have tough decisions to make etc that your love will be enough. For me I’d rather have a strong foundation and the time and experience to know that we can make this last forever before getting married.

    After all if your going to spend everyday for the rest of your lives together, what’s the big rush to get married?

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