Post # 1
I know that the majority of us on this board aren’t even engaged yet but I wanted to get a since of how long you think it will take for you to plan your wedding…From day of engagement to day of “I do”.
I’ve started to have a minor freak out about not having enough time to plan a wedding by next October. I know that Boyfriend or Best Friend hasn’t proposed yet but I am a huge planner and I can’t help but to look toward the future.
I want to get married in the fall and being that I live in the south I know I’m chancing it with the weather but I was hoping for 10.16.10…its on the 16th which is our “anniversary” day and I just like the look of the date…plus it’s right in between mine and Boyfriend or Best Friend birthdays. Well my thoughts go the financial route. I wanted to give my family and I a year to save and spend on the big day. As we all know, October 2009 has come and gone. I don’t want to get married in 2011 because my baby cousin is getting married then. I know I could get hitched the same year as her but I don’t want her to think I’m stealing her time…albeit her wedding is planned for July and mine would be in October. And 2012 is too far away to me! I hate to pester Boyfriend or Best Friend anymore about proposing so I’m coming to you ladies….
How long did it take you to plan your wedding or how long do you have until your wedding or how long do you plan to have between your engagement and wedding day???
Please don’t judge me as a psycho!!! I think this sinus cold is getting to me! Haha!!!
Post # 3
I’ll have had over two years by the time I get married. But I didn’t start seriously planning until Jan 2008 (so 1.5 years out) I would be most worried about your venue/church already being booked. I booked my venue in January and our original date was taken. So we went with the 12th.
I could have probably planned the whole thing in a year, had it not been for having to secure the venue so early.
Post # 4
we have exactly a year between engagement and wedding. he proposed feb. 28th and we’re getting married feb. 28th. but i feel like i have a lot of time to do things, we could definitely have done it in a shorter time. the only reason i’m glad we are taking so long is because i was able to book the vendors early so i had my choice.
Post # 5
We got engaged in November 2008, but didn’t start any serious planning until January 2009, so I got it all done in 9 months. One advantage was that I wasn’t set on a specific date, so it was easier to find venues with open dates around the time we were considering.
Post # 6
I would really like 14-16 months to do it.
Post # 7
I’m married, but I wanted to chime in anyway 🙂
I thought I needed about 10-12 months to plan, but we had a 14-month engagement. Toward the end, during the last few months before the wedding, I realized we could have had a 6-9 month engagement and been done with it without all the time to sit around and stress out about everything.
If you’re organized and know what you want, go for the shorter engagement! SO worth it.
Post # 8
Engaged March 24th, married September 6th so about five and a half months 🙂
Post # 9
We got engaged in March 5, 2009 and are getting married Sepetember 5, 2010—so exactly 18 months!
We decided to have a longer engagement so that we would have plenty of time to plan and enjoy being engaged. If you want to hear honesty, don’t worry about timelines. I say enjoy your relationship now, enjoy your engagement etc… Figure out what timeline works best once you are engaged and you feel a whole lot less stressed!
Also, I don’t think you will be stealing from your cousin if you get married 2 months after her in 2011. Your cousin gets one day, not a whole wedding year! Me and two of my close friends are all getting married next summer and we will be in each others weddings.
Post # 10
Honestly, it doesn’t take that long to plan a wedding. Most people say a year, just so they have time to save the money. I am getting married July 17, 2010 and I am basically done. I have vendors to pay now. So really, it depends on if you know what you want and how long you want to pay things off. I say 6 months is good.
Post # 11
Thank you all so much for taking time to answer my question! I really started to panic. And the venue deal is the biggest thing I’m worried about because it’s a prime venue in our area…almost every weekend from April till October the tent is up and decorations are at the road! That’s the only thing that makes me nervous. I’m just hoping and praying that it’s open when we want it if not….10.23.10 will work too…my dad will just have to share his birthday with our anniversary! Haha!
Post # 12
Personally, I am having a 9month engagement – it’s just what suited us best. However, I’m an event planner/DOC – and I’ve had clients with a 3 month engagement to 2 yr engagement period and everything in between.
Here’s my honest opinion on the OP – take life as it comes. It’s admirable that you’re so organized and want to get a jump on planning, but keep in mind that you could be setting yourself up for a lot more stress than not. Life happens & you need to account for that. Who knows what the next year/month/week/day will bring? As Jaylii9 said, just try to enjoy your relationship for what it is now, and once you get engaged, try to remember to stop and enjoy that too. Being engaged is amazing, and it’s sad that so many women do not stop to take the time to enjoy that part of this process. Things have a way of falling into place – your engagement will come when the moment is right, and your engagement length will work itself out.
Re: your cousin’s wedding – I seriously wouldn’t worry about it. I mean, I’d stay away from the weeks surrounding her wedding, but other than that, you’re fine.
Another tip – I wouldn’t advise getting one’s heart set on a particular date prior to getting engaged – unless you’re willing to potentially make a great deal of compromises just in order to have that specific date. You may end up needing to compromise on venue/entertainment/pricing/etc. You’ve got to figure out what’s most important to you as a couple – perhaps it is the date. Perhaps it’s the venue, a ceremony site, a season, a band, a photographer, whatever it is, you should figure it out as a couple when the time comes.
Finally – every couple & every wedding is different. Timelines are not one size fits all. What I’m able to pull off in 9 months might be much more someone with no event planning experience, or much less than an independently wealthy person with nothing else on their agenda. 🙂
Post # 13
I’m in Bama as well! Before my fiance proposed, I worried that we would not have enough time to plan for a fall 2010 wedding, so I know where you’re coming from. We got engaged in November 2009, and we are loosely planning on getting married in September 2010. Unfortunately, there were too many date conflicts in October. I won’t be able to start any serious planning until after the Holidays because of school and work. This gives us about 9 months of planning before the wedding.
We considered waiting until 2011, because I was freaking out about needing a year or more to plan. My sensible mom convinced me we can get everything done in 9 months. My fiance and I decided 2011 seemed like an eternity, so we decided to just go for it.
So, no I don’t think you’re psycho for worrying about it 🙂 If it works out to where it is what you and your future fiance want for YOUR wedding, then I think you should have plenty of time.
Post # 14
we got engaged 8/24/09 and are getting married 9/18/10… so we will have had a 13 month engagement… i’ve got a lil over 9 months left, and all of the majors are taken care of… my only hope is to be done by May, so that i won’t be stressed with law school classes starting!
Post # 15
We started planning 3 weeks before the official proposal (actually booking venue etc.) and he proposed a week and a year before our wedding date so that would =13 months!
You can plan a wedding in less time but it will be harder if you want an exact date and are picky with vendors!
Post # 16
He proposed on July 25, 2009 and we decided on a long engagement with a wedding date of May 2011 but we fell in love with our venue, they had May 22, 2010 open and Fiance just got a job offer that doubled our income so we decided to shorten our engagement to about nine months. I was nervous at first but it’s going smoothly so I am so happy we changed our plans. Can’t wait!!!