Post # 1
I am think that I would like to be engaged for 12-14 months before the wedding. This would give me over a year to find work and to establish myself in a job (I am graduating grad school in 2 months and have not located anything yet). I am worried that such a long engagement would “ruin” the momentum/excitement of the whole thing, but I personally want to be employed and contributing once I am married. So, how long do you plan on being engaged before you get married?
Post # 3
I have no idea. I’ve never really thought about it. It’s seemed like such a distant concept. I don’t think I’d want to wait a year before the wedding but who knows. My brain is still trapped in “will we get engaged” mode. 🙂 But I agree that an engagement that long feels like it could put a slight damper on the excitement. Then again, since you’d be busy finding work, maybe the time will fly.
Post # 4
Well I originally thought a year. Then we moved it to 14 months. Now we are thinking of moving it to 6 months from now (which is longer engaged, but not planning). Apparently I fluctuate a lot.
Post # 5
Ideally it will be between 1 and two years. No more than 2.
Post # 6
i want an engagment of at least 2 years, hopefully more. I think it’s because I don’t really deal with change as well as I could and I really want a good amount of time being comfortable being engaged before doing the actual wedding. I also worry that the long engagement will lose momentum, but that’s really ok with me. I will also be in grad school, and I will need as little stress as possible. So plenty of time to plan please!
Post # 7
I say anywhere between but not exceeding 6 months to a year.
Post # 8
BF wants a short engagement. But he knows weddings take awhile to plan, so we would probably hit about a year.
Post # 9
my mister initially wanted a short engagement, but after talking to my male friend who was nearing his wedding, was convinced to give me at least year to plan, which i’ll take since i want to do a lot of things myself. so i’ll say about a year to a 1 1/2 tops
Post # 10
Well… I originally wanted 10mo to a year… but after we got engaged and started looking at the best time for us to hold the wedding in our destination, we chose October… and since this October was too close– wouldn’t give us enough time to plan or enough time for our guests to save/ make travel arrangements. So we picked Oct 2012…. a 20 month engagement. *sigh* We’re 1.5 months in… I still wish our wedding date was closer, but everyone keeps telling us that the time will go by faster than we’re expecting! :o)
Post # 11
@jackndiane: that’s a pretty normal engagement timeline. very normal. it’s not long.
Post # 12
Ideally a few minutes. If i had my way I would get married the second he asked me. Of course we want our loved ones to be a part of everything so that won’t happen. I’ll just be so excited I’ll want to run to an airport, fly to Vegas, find the closest chapel and get married with Elvis, and Marilyn as our witnesses!
Post # 13
No more than 6 months. I want some time to enjoy that stage in the relationship but don’t plan on having a large wedding so no need for longer than 6mo.
Post # 14
My SO doesn’t want a long engagement. I would like a year no more than a year and a half maximum.
Post # 15
I think at the most I’d like to be engaged about a year. This gives us both pleanty of time to establish ourselves in our work environment, and also to plan. We’ll no doubt have a lot on our plates, and a lot to consider when it comes to the big day. Although I really am jumping the gun, since we have yet to even touch base on engagement. Heck, we just got to the moving conversation. 😮
Although the fact that my saying I see us having a very long term future ahead of us made him more determined to finish school and get a job sounds promising. I think it excites him as much as it scares him. 😡