(Closed) How long does the honeymoon phase last in your opinion?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long does the honeymoon phase last on average?
    the first couple months : (9 votes)
    14 %
    3-5 months : (5 votes)
    8 %
    5-8 months : (7 votes)
    11 %
    8 months- 1 year : (17 votes)
    26 %
    1 year- 2 years : (10 votes)
    15 %
    2+ years : (17 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 2
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    36 posts
    Newbee

    I think it’s different for everyone and depends on external factors like stressors on the relationship. I also think if the relationship transitions into a more serious one that the honeymoon can end this way too…which isn’t a bad thing.

    Often people have this perception that your relationship is going to absolutely suck once the honeymoon phase is over but it doesn’t always! If it doesn’t, that’s usually when you realize you met a keeper πŸ˜‰

    For my Darling Husband and I we were transitioning out of the honeymoon phase maybe around the end of our first year? We had a lot going on with families and school but we were definitely very serious by then. Regardless of being in the “honeymoon” phase or not, we are still very happy and in love.  

    The changes, i guess, is in the way we would communicate with one another. I noticed that he wouldn’t try and tip toe around issues just to try and make me happy anymore–which is nice! We can resolve any sort of issues very quickly now. He is more honest and open about his feelings and more willing to work on the relationship more (and that means being more open when he isn’t happy with something that was going on with us or with our lives).

    A definite drawback was that he was no longer quite as eager to give me back rubs πŸ˜› I’m still working on reviving this habit πŸ˜‰ 

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    Post # 3
    Member
    6524 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    RoseDaisyLily:  I dont feel that our honeymoon phase ever ended. We have been together for almost 12 years (together for 10, married for a little over a year and a half). 

    We have been our share of ups and downs but we always kept things fresh, always surprising eachother, we listen and communicate with eachother. We always let eachother know that we are appreciated- for example, he makes dinner almost every night, and i always say thank you dinner. If he holds the door open for me or holds my bags, little thigs like that. Then of course there are things he does around the apartment, I never want him to think that anything he does goes unnoticed and vice versa. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    256 posts
    Helper bee

    I think it really is different for everyone – for me the honeymoon phase hasn’t ended (and I have no intention of it ever ending haha) and I’m just as infatuated with him as I was the day we met πŸ™‚

    Post # 5
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    1312 posts
    Bumble bee

    We’ve been together a year and still feel like we are in the honeymoon phase! The only thing that has changed is less sex (still multiple times a week) but everything else is the same πŸ™‚

    Post # 6
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    10855 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    RoseDaisyLily:  

    It doesn’t sound as if he changed, more like he showed you what he really was.

    Post # 7
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    1845 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I agree with PPs that it is really different for everyone!

    But, in saying that, I feel like after 5 years together our honeymoon stage isn’t over yet, but we put in a fair bit of effort to ‘keep our relationship alive’ so to speak. We have never let ourselves become that couple that loves each other but doesn’t publicly show any affection or anything like that. we always surprise each other with little gifts (he will bring me home my favourite chocolate, or I will buy his favourite psatry, etc). We thank each other for everything, even things we do every day (he cooks, I clean, we both say thankyou). 

    Post # 8
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    607 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    RoseDaisyLily:  Honeymoon phase can last until the time you are married. For me and my SO, the honeymoon phase was over after 3 months. I would say I knew it was over because he sort of stopped trying to impress me and I started to know the “real” him (which I prefer anyway than trying to impress me) and we started to see each other’s habits and accepted them. I’m glad for that. I want to know a guy for who he really is early on. I’ve had friends that had honeymoon phase last for years…and 5 years later he stops showing affection or keeping the relationship alive.

    Post # 10
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    469 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Honestly my husband and i are way more in love now (2 year of marriage) then we were when we were engaged/ just married. Every day we get closer and we’re obsessed with each other πŸ™‚ Not to say we don’t fight and we are NOT perfect, but we definitely get more into the honeymoon phase every day

    Post # 11
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    811 posts
    Busy bee

    It’s a different kind of phase and I like this one better. It’s more calm- we’re less worried about someone going away, more excited about making long term plans. But it is less “exciting” when it comes to intimate things. While it’s good because we’re less shy to say what we really want, there is something so fun about not knowing exactly what their next move would be in the bedroom πŸ˜‰ But that’s the only part of the “honeymoon” phase that seems to have ended.

    Post # 12
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    7371 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Completely depends on the individuals within threlationship. There’s no standard.

    Post # 13
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    1025 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Hmmm… In other relationships of mine… 3-4 months… My Fiance is my longest relationship, going on 1.5 years. I know he isn’t perfect, but our love is deeper, we had turbulence, but that has made us stronger. Hard to say what the honeymoon phase is.. haha! My parents are still in it ( married 30+ years) 

    Post # 14
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    258 posts
    Helper bee

    Interesting topic, I think it’s different for everyone of course, and like someone else said I think external stressors have a pretty major role to play.  As does your respective relationship histories.  First relationships can swallow you up for a lot longer than second or subsequent relationships, when you have a sense that it won’t always feel like butterflies in your stomach and non-stop excitement.  And you relax in to it a bit quicker.

    Nonetheless, I think all good relationships seem to have a solid ‘honeymoon’ period during which you think a lot about the other person and feel that rush/giddyness every time you touch, kiss etc.  And I think those memories are really important to cherish when, down the line, the relationship has gotten very familiar, but you can still think back to your early months of dating and remember the rush and excitement of every little thing you guys did together.

    To actually answer this question, for me it has always been around 9 months – 12 months.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee

     

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