Post # 1
Assuming you have a lot of contact with one another. You get “a lot of each other.”
And what are the major changes you saw when it was over?
I recall one guy who did a 180 on me around 6 or 7 months in and became a complete jerk. He would get angry if I didn’t magically know what was going on in his head and when I asked him to clarify situations he would just explode, call me names, and then shut down. He would just sit around doing nothing. Never wanted to talk about philosophy, current events, anything happening outside the walls of his apartment and our social circle gossip. I started to see him as this loser. It was really sad. But I’m so glad it is over and I saw him for who he really was earlier than in some other cases.
Post # 2
I think it’s different for everyone and depends on external factors like stressors on the relationship. I also think if the relationship transitions into a more serious one that the honeymoon can end this way too…which isn’t a bad thing.
Often people have this perception that your relationship is going to absolutely suck once the honeymoon phase is over but it doesn’t always! If it doesn’t, that’s usually when you realize you met a keeper 😉
For my Darling Husband and I we were transitioning out of the honeymoon phase maybe around the end of our first year? We had a lot going on with families and school but we were definitely very serious by then. Regardless of being in the “honeymoon” phase or not, we are still very happy and in love.
The changes, i guess, is in the way we would communicate with one another. I noticed that he wouldn’t try and tip toe around issues just to try and make me happy anymore–which is nice! We can resolve any sort of issues very quickly now. He is more honest and open about his feelings and more willing to work on the relationship more (and that means being more open when he isn’t happy with something that was going on with us or with our lives).
A definite drawback was that he was no longer quite as eager to give me back rubs 😛 I’m still working on reviving this habit 😉
Post # 3
RoseDaisyLily: I dont feel that our honeymoon phase ever ended. We have been together for almost 12 years (together for 10, married for a little over a year and a half).
We have been our share of ups and downs but we always kept things fresh, always surprising eachother, we listen and communicate with eachother. We always let eachother know that we are appreciated- for example, he makes dinner almost every night, and i always say thank you dinner. If he holds the door open for me or holds my bags, little thigs like that. Then of course there are things he does around the apartment, I never want him to think that anything he does goes unnoticed and vice versa.
Post # 4
I think it really is different for everyone – for me the honeymoon phase hasn’t ended (and I have no intention of it ever ending haha) and I’m just as infatuated with him as I was the day we met 🙂
Post # 5
We’ve been together a year and still feel like we are in the honeymoon phase! The only thing that has changed is less sex (still multiple times a week) but everything else is the same 🙂
Post # 6
It doesn’t sound as if he changed, more like he showed you what he really was.
Post # 7
I agree with PPs that it is really different for everyone!
But, in saying that, I feel like after 5 years together our honeymoon stage isn’t over yet, but we put in a fair bit of effort to ‘keep our relationship alive’ so to speak. We have never let ourselves become that couple that loves each other but doesn’t publicly show any affection or anything like that. we always surprise each other with little gifts (he will bring me home my favourite chocolate, or I will buy his favourite psatry, etc). We thank each other for everything, even things we do every day (he cooks, I clean, we both say thankyou).
Post # 8
RoseDaisyLily: Honeymoon phase can last until the time you are married. For me and my SO, the honeymoon phase was over after 3 months. I would say I knew it was over because he sort of stopped trying to impress me and I started to know the “real” him (which I prefer anyway than trying to impress me) and we started to see each other’s habits and accepted them. I’m glad for that. I want to know a guy for who he really is early on. I’ve had friends that had honeymoon phase last for years…and 5 years later he stops showing affection or keeping the relationship alive.
Post # 9
sassy411: Yeah I guess you’re right.
Post # 10
Honestly my husband and i are way more in love now (2 year of marriage) then we were when we were engaged/ just married. Every day we get closer and we’re obsessed with each other 🙂 Not to say we don’t fight and we are NOT perfect, but we definitely get more into the honeymoon phase every day
Post # 11
It’s a different kind of phase and I like this one better. It’s more calm- we’re less worried about someone going away, more excited about making long term plans. But it is less “exciting” when it comes to intimate things. While it’s good because we’re less shy to say what we really want, there is something so fun about not knowing exactly what their next move would be in the bedroom 😉 But that’s the only part of the “honeymoon” phase that seems to have ended.
Post # 12
Completely depends on the individuals within threlationship. There’s no standard.
Post # 13
Hmmm… In other relationships of mine… 3-4 months… My Fiance is my longest relationship, going on 1.5 years. I know he isn’t perfect, but our love is deeper, we had turbulence, but that has made us stronger. Hard to say what the honeymoon phase is.. haha! My parents are still in it ( married 30+ years)
Post # 14
Interesting topic, I think it’s different for everyone of course, and like someone else said I think external stressors have a pretty major role to play. As does your respective relationship histories. First relationships can swallow you up for a lot longer than second or subsequent relationships, when you have a sense that it won’t always feel like butterflies in your stomach and non-stop excitement. And you relax in to it a bit quicker.
Nonetheless, I think all good relationships seem to have a solid ‘honeymoon’ period during which you think a lot about the other person and feel that rush/giddyness every time you touch, kiss etc. And I think those memories are really important to cherish when, down the line, the relationship has gotten very familiar, but you can still think back to your early months of dating and remember the rush and excitement of every little thing you guys did together.
To actually answer this question, for me it has always been around 9 months – 12 months.
Post # 15
Daizy914: This is awesome and what I want!!!