Post # 1
Just curious. My husband and I fight about this a lot because I think sex should last longer and he thinks I’m swayed by what I see on tv and in the movies. He says it only lasts a couple of minute for most people, but I don’t agree. I think that perhaps we have a problem of not lasting long enough and maybe we should see a counselor or maybe we just need more practice.
Soooo… on average, does sex only last a few minutes?
Post # 3
Are you talking about the actual “sex” part or foreplay and after cuddling as well? As for the sex part, I think it depends on how much we’ve been doing it, like if we are doing it a lot, he will last longer, maybe 5 minutes after penetration. If we haven’t been active for a while, sometimes he’ll last for like 30 seconds after penetration…not enough for me to finish at all! So basically, actual penetration sex- maybe 5-10 minutes at the longest. Including foreplay and after cuddling- up to 30 mins.
Honestly if the actual act of sex lasted for longer than 5 mins, I’d get bored. Sometimes if my FH doesn’t finish in the usual time I expect, I ask him what’s wrong and see if there is anything I can do to speed up the process. Don’t get me wrong, I love sex and am a very sexual person, but there is only so much time you can spend under or on top of someone 🙂
Sorry if this is TMI…
Post # 4
Maybe the problem is your definition of “sex”, meaning maybe you define it differently. Are you talking about just the actual intercourse or from the moment you look at each other and know that it’s “on” until you are all cuddled and, um, spent?
My hubby and I can spend a lot of time in bed together, but I would say the actual intercourse (excluding foreplay and cuddling) is 10 minutes or so Sometimes more. Sometimes less. I have no idea how that ranks with others.
Post # 5
I am quite surprised with the results here!
Our whole experience from let’s get it on to blissfully spent takes about 40-60min. The actual penetration part goes on for 15-25 minutes depending on the day.
I could see this being different for women who don’t “finish” during intercourse. But I would definitely be disappointed if it was too short. We like to change positions a lot so I don’t know how many positions you could go through in just a few minutes.
Post # 6
I’m talking about the actual penetration (going-at-it) part. Not the foreplay or the cuddling!
Post # 7
Including all the foreplay and everything, usually about 15-20 minutes. I don’t have stamina for much more right now.
Post # 8
I will answer this 2 ways – from my average experience (I am *ahem* well-experienced sexually) and with my FH.
In general, averaged over my past partners – the actual intercourse, from initial penetration to ejaculation would be between 10-15 minutes.
FH and I have the longest intercourse time of any partner I have had – a “quickie” is about 15 minutes. Our average lovemaking is about 1/2 an hour to 45 minutes. Early in our relationship, I would get sore from spending a night together – my body is used to it now.
But lovemaking takes a lot of time for us usually – including foreplay takes a minimum of an hour (not exactly something we get into if we have to go anywhere soon).
Post # 9
Ok, gotcha! I am really sensitive and it is very easy for me to finish, but it does take me longer than 30 seconds! So if actual penetration lasts for more than 10 minutes, i get kinda sore and numb. Also, if it last for more than 5 mins, I usually finish more than once, so I get super sensitive! I know I’m probably in the minority because when I talk about sex with my friends they are always jealous about my ability 🙂
ETA: MissMini- Me too…I’ve found that I am “more experienced” than most of my friends…I had a wild period in college…
Post # 10
talking with my girlfriends about this I’ve found there’s a big range and also some people’s preferences vary (like one friend prefers more time on foreplay/cuddling/and “other” intimate acts and doesn’t care as much about the going-at-it time). My informal survey is from an average of 5 to 45 minutes.
Post # 11
There is absolutely no amount of time that it should or shouldn’t last. It is all about satisfaction. I’m IMO a very lucky gal and am satisfied pretty quickly, usually. If I weren’t, I would demand more time, but only because that’s what I need, not because it is how it should be.
Give yourself and your FI permission to do what you do. If you are otherwise reaching satisfaction, don’t worry. If the problem is that you aren’t, and you need more time, that is a totally legitimate issue that MUST get resolved.
Post # 12
our foreplay is usually 20 minutes or so, and the actual penetration is about 2-30 minutes. usually the whole experience is around an hour. When we first started dating, it definitely did not last at long, but now it lasts a lot longer and it’s great. 🙂
Post # 13
I voted 5-10 minutes, but I’m honestly not sure. I usually see the clock when we go to bed and I see it once we’re done, but we do a lot of foreplay usually, and it all depends. Sometimes it’s really quick (like mornings are always under 5 minutes), but sometimes it’s really long, like 30-45 minutes. I think on average it’s around 10 minutes though. If it goes longer than that, I tend to get sore or we both get tired, haha. 😛
Post # 14
Since we are long distance.. the longer we are apart.. the shorter the actual intercourse is, but on average foreplay to cuddling is about 30-45minutes.
Post # 15
Well, with foreplay and some oral (usually part of our foreplay) sex usually lasts 15-20 minutes. Actually intercourse probably last 5-10 minutes. We usually switch positions a couple of times during intercourse so we last longer and enjoy each other in a couple of different ways 😉
Post # 16
Without foreplay, about 10-20 minutes. With foreplay, about 20-30 minutes. Just the right amount of time for both of us..not too long, not too short. Just right… 🙂