(Closed) How long from engagement did you set a date???

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It took us about 2 months to set a date.

Post # 33
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Congrats!  Don’t worry about the date just yet.  Sometimes it take weeks to even get that initial shock out of your system.  Tell them you are working on the engagement party first by then you should have a date set….say a couple months.  Have a great time seeing venues and all the cute things that come along with planning a wedding. 🙂

Post # 34
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Busy bee

We’re two months out and just now talking about dates. We picked a month that we like, and now we’re interested in a venue, so I imagine we’ll pick the date based on the venue’s availability. My mom kept saying “You guys need to get your butts in gear, time’s a wasting!” and I was like “Mom, how is that possible? We don’t have a date set! There are no restrictions!” Haha.

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We still haven’t booked a venue (yet…*maybe* this weekend?!?), but we got engaged almost 2 months ago. We told people a general range (August/September 2012) since we’ll have a lot of overseas guests, but we’ll start telling people the actual date when we book the venue! It can get annoying, but people just want to make sure they can set aside that date for you! And if you’re trying to book a venue that’s not in your city/easy to get to (e.g., our potential venue is about an hour and a half by car + we’re in NY so we don’t have a car), that general range buys you time to spend looking at sites…

Also, the other thing several posters have mentioned is keeping your venue in mind–if you have a general month (or two), you have better flexibility and selection because sites aren’t out only because they don’t have your date available.

Congrats and good luck with the process! 🙂

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We had our date picked a year before we were engaged hahah We actually paid our deposit for our venue a month before we were engaged

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Congrats to you!! we set a date that same day….and changed it everyweek for two months!!! lol! its has been set two months after being engaged.

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

several months…

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We set our date almost immediately. Probably within the first week. We both knew we wanted to do it next year and we both wanted a spring-ish wedding. So I just immediately started thinking of June and I’m kind of an OCD weirdo about things sometimes ( I always prefer even #’s, so 6.2.12 was perfect to me). I just had to make sure my niece (who’s a flower girl and lives 13 hours away) was out of school and would be able to be there.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think we set a date within a month of getting engaged.  I’d already done some research before the proposal, though.  ;o)

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@ForeverAndEverAfter:  I totally understand what you’re saying.  We’ve been engaged for about 1.5 months and we have ideas on the date (narrowed it to 2 options) we want but we can’t finalize it until we reserve a venue.  It took us about a month to decide on the dates.

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We got engaged on May 22nd and had the venue booked on June 3rd.  We got married 6 months after getting engaged, so there really was no time to wait.  I think a lot of the time, the age, financial status and life status dictates how quickly or slowly plans and dates come together.  My husband and I were both in our mid 30’s, owned our own homes, had stable careers, etc.  There was just no reason to wait.

That said, it’s normal for people to ask that immediately.  Just wait, before you’re even married, people will be asking when you plan on “trying”.  It’s in our human nature to question.

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It took us a couple of weeks after getting engaged. We are from opposite sides of the country and I was planning on going to school in April. So at first it was going to be February until I decided to push school to the next enrollment date (September) and go with June, which is always what I wanted (a summer wedding). We picked the date, then everything fell in to place around it. Lucky us!

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We booked our venue a little shy of 1 month after getting engaged.  We knew we wanted a spring wedding so I picked some weekends and we worked with our favorite venue.  But it really depends on so many things.  My friend got engaged while we were still in college so she waited a year until planning so she could finish school.  My sister was so overwhelmed by the whole process and she procrastinated as long as she could (about 3 months for her relatively short engagement).

Post # 45
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Sugar bee

Engaged: Feb. 8, 2008

Date set: Sept. 2011

 

…umm…we’re NOT a typically couple 🙂

Post # 46
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Congrats!!!

 

I’ve been engaged since LAST December, and STILL don’t have a set date.. a LOT has gone on in our families this year, so wedding planning hasn’t been on the top of the “to-do” list sadly. We are finally meeting with the church next Monday though to look at dates!

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