(Closed) How long had you dated before you decided to marry him?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
2500 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: County courthouse

My husband and I were 19 and 31 when we met and dated for two years before he proposed. A month after he proposed, we got married. We’ve been happily married for 8 years now and have a 6 year old and a 4 year old.

Post # 17
9436 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

About a year into dating but we were 18 when we started dating so we didn’t get engaged until after we’d been together for 7 years.

Thinking in your head “I think he may be the one” after over a year is not rushing into any decisions too quickly at all. You can think someone is the one or even know someone is the one and still have your relationship move a slower pace if that’s what you are more comfortable with!

Post # 18
2758 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I was sure after just two weeks. Took him a bit longer… we were engaged in 4 years and married in 5. 

Post # 19
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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jweddingbee :  I knew he was the one after six months.  He proposed after 9 months.  We were married six months later.  I know that was quick but when you know  you know.  

Post # 20
4066 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

We both knew after our first date.  I remember going to work the next day and told the girls I work with, I was going to marry him.  I was met with eyerolls, lol.  Moved in 3 months later, married 4 months after that.

Post # 21
1885 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I started to think “he’s the one” around 1 year or so. Year 2 for us was long distance, and year 3 we moved across the country and in together, the first time we lived in the same city, much less the same apartment. We got engaged after being together just over 3 years and had lived together for just over 1.

Post # 22
6430 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I knew I loved him 2 weeks in, knew I wanted to marry him 2 months in, and we got engaged after 6 months of dating.

Post # 23
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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jweddingbee :  I think I really knew at year 4? I was 19 when we met and just felt to young to even think about it. Dh had told me the night we met that he was gunna marry me. But that’s funny because it took him 6.5 year to propose. 

Post # 24
55 posts
Worker bee

I’ve met him for about four years, dated him on/off for about three years. I’m a perfectionist and still think it’s too soon, and I have some doubts. So you know, it all depends on how you feel. I’m sure I could date for 30 years and still have doubts because that’s who I am. 🙂 But I do think that 4 months (in person) is a bit soon… 

Post # 25
1782 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I would say 3 months, and I was SURE he was gonna propose at the 6 month mark. He didn’t…and then it was like a month by month increasingly questioning feeling of why he is not proposing already, until 1 week after our 1 year anniversary I kind of had a crisis and blew up on him about it. 🙈 

His friends have told me he was saying he was going to marry me after something like our 3rd date and he said in his wedding speech to me it was love at first sight. He is a sensible man though and he didn’t want to do anything too rushed. The actual proposal happened when we had been together 1 year and 3 months, and then we had a just under year long engagement. ☺️


Post # 26
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I think we both knew within a few months.  I was dropping serious hints about year 2 or 3… I lost count.  We were together for 7 years by the time we got engaged last October and when we get married this September, we will be just a few days shy of 8 years.  So crazy saying 8 years but honestly, getting married later is probably allowing us to put more towards the wedding than we would be able to do if we were married earlier.

Post # 27
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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jweddingbee :  I mean it varies so much. I lived with my last bf for a year, we were together almost 2.5 years and he was so anti commitment every step of the way I got sick of it. Then I met me NOW fiance a month later, two months later he was asking me to move in, and 14 months after we met we got engaged. So it’s only too soon if you feel it is. I think that people in your age range usually are more secure in what they seek in a partner. I would be more worried if you were in the 18-22 range just based on the relationships I’ve seen and experienced myself.

Post # 28
3053 posts
Sugar bee

I knew weeks after our first date… But we didn’t get engaged until we’d been together 4.5 years. We’ll be married a couple months before our 6 year anniversary 😊

Post # 29
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

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jweddingbee :  We started “dating” officially October 10th, 2014 (met each other Sept 7th) and we were at a BBQ on 10/19/14 and I looked at him across the table and thought to myself, “Yeah, that’s my husband,” and it seemed like the most natural thought in the world.

Engaged 12/19/14, married 12/19/15.

Post # 30
1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel

My OH proposed after 1 year we’ve been engaged for 2 years and getting married October 1st 2016 🙂 he’s 29 and I’m 22

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