(Closed) How long have you been "actively" waiting?

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How long have you actively been waiting?
    1-3 months : (11 votes)
    20 %
    4-6 months : (12 votes)
    21 %
    7-11 months : (12 votes)
    21 %
    Over 1 year : (13 votes)
    23 %
    Over 2 years : (5 votes)
    9 %
    Over 3 years : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Over 4 years+ : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2494 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I’m engaged now but I figured I woudl answer. *I* thought I was actively waiting for just under a year… *he* thought it was more like 4 months. There was a huge miscommunication between us talking about getting married to actually seriously talking about being engaged.

    The thing that started me off with the waiting thing was when we were in Vegas and he told me (while drunk) that he wants to marry me and can’t wait. I thought that meant he would be buying a ring as soon as we got home so that’s when waiting started for me.

    Post # 4
    Member
    849 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I’m not “actively” waiting, just sort of passively. I’m on the waiting list because I’m hoping that he will propose on our one year anniversary, which is in September. But I’m not expecting it. 

    I probably won’t get antsy for a proposal until he finishes school and/or gets a job which could be two to three years from now 🙁

    Post # 5
    Member
    3969 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I actively waited about 11-12 months (the time between our 4th and 5th anniversary). It was triggered by the fact that I was graduating and needed to move 500 miles away if I wanted to be wiht him, and I wasn’t prepared to do that if we weren’t moving foward. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    648 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It’s been 4-6 months for me. He told me about 5 months ago that the ring was paid for and ready to be picked up. Then when I brought it up a couple of months later, he didn’t say he was finished paying for it-_-‘ This is coming from the guy who makes goldfish look like they have elephant memories. He’s notorious for having a terrible memory, and I know that conversation happened. So once he told me it was paid for and ready, I started feeling like he could propose at any time. Plus, he started randomly commenting on really specific aspects of women’s rings he would see in real life or on TV and things. Like really specific details. And he kept talking about wedding/proposal things; he’s been wanting to marry me for 4 years, so he’s excited to propose. With the sudden increase in ring/proposal talk coming from him, I figured it would happen soon.

    But I figured he wouldn’t do it while I was busy with this semester, so he was likely to do it in May then. Then, out of the blue, he suggested that we go to Seattle in June so I’m 99% sure he will do it on that trip and I think I even know which specific day he’ll do it (June 15).

    Post # 7
    Member
    772 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I began to really feel it about 18 months ago but knew it wouldn’t happen while we were still at university, which we both graduated from last July. We had a serious conversation about it around last August, and have had several more sporadically since then. I think it could happen from this August onwards as we are looking to move in together then, and we have discussed that 2015 would be a genuinely probable time to actually get married. Having said that he doesn’t seem to be doing anything about it!

    Post # 8
    Member
    486 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I started waiting just about a year ago. But I voted 7-11 months to minimize it a bit because I’m not sure I’m “actively” waiting lol I think it will turn into active once SO moves out on his own and maybe brings up the subject himself. He should be moving out this summer, and I’m hoping it won’t be more than several months after that until he brings it up… but I have no idea =/ 

    Post # 9
    Member
    70 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    My SO and I talk seriously about marriage all the time and are moving in together next month when my lease ends.  Our one year anniversary is in early September.  I considered myself waiting a couple of months ago after we had multiple conversation about the date we would like to get married, how long we want our engagement to be, what ages we want to be when we marry, how long we want to wait after marriage for kids, etc.

    We haven’t discussed a ring yet so I am thinking a proposal is still several months to a year away.  I am hoping it will be around the holidays 🙂

    Post # 10
    Member
    980 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I’d say almost 6 months for me. He told me we’d be getting engaged sometime in 2013 so basically I’ve been inwardly squealing since January 1st.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1128 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I would really consider myself “waiting” only when he purchased the stone, which was in March.  The setting he bought in April, and it’s just being done now (custom). I do however believe it will be shipped this week(!) so hopefully not long after I will have it on my finger.

    Post # 12
    Member
    4525 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    We’ve been dating well over 2 years so we knew we’d be getting married, but I’d say I “actively” started waiting in February (so 4ish months) when after work one day he said “how do you feel about getting engaged within 6  months?”

    He bought the ring a few weeks ago, so I know it’s happening sometime before August 31st 🙂

    Post # 13
    Member
    849 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @badabing88:  Awesome, it’s almost June and you have only three months left to go! I would be on pins and needles 24/7 if I were you! Lol

    Post # 14
    Member
    4525 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @LadyBlackheart:  I definitely am! I couldnt believe it when he *texted me and told me he bought it*! I think he did it just to keep  me on edge, lol. It worked: I have no idea when he’s going to do it, but I think it’s very, very soon 😡

    Post # 15
    Member
    143 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    A month and a half, but I heard him on the phone w/jeweler this week, so it’s on its way soon I think

    Post # 16
    Member
    1239 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I’m at 4-6 months. I didn’t actively start waiting until he bought the ring in Feb. Before that it was all pretty abstract. 

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