(Closed) How long have you been “offically” waiting???

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How long have you been "officially" waiting?

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  • Post # 3
    1486 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’m not waiting anymore, but I’d say I was waiting about a year.  It began once Fiance and I graduated college and settled in to our jobs.

    Post # 4
    538 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I put a year. It’s probably actually a little longer though, since we’ve been together for three years and I was surprised when it didn’t happen after we had been together for one year. For the last year – year and a half though, I have been very intent on the topic……and the last six months have been the most serious throwdown!

    Post # 5
    559 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I only noticed the waiting back in July, when I realized we had WAY different ideas of when to get engaged.  Known him for three years next month, been for 20 months, lived together for 8 months (and I would NEVER have guessed I’d live with a boyfriend.)

    Post # 6
    222 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    15 months. (no longer waiting, but engaged in Aug)


    He was deployed, we’d been together nearly 3 years. We started talking, joking, hinting and such over Skype. I honestly thought he’d do it when he flew me to Italy for 2 weeks! I celebrated my birthday and our 3 year there. I cried when I got home. Then I thought our trip in San Fran once he’d been home 1 month. Then I thought perhaps on New Years Eve. After that I just got bitter as hell everyime someone new got engaged.

    I confronted him in March-ish and said “what the hell gives? It’s great that you want to talk about it and all, but you promised me a timline. You said you had a plan”

    That’s when he caved and said he did have a plan, the plan was sometime within a specific 8 day block in August 😀


    So, 15 months after the “serioius talk” began!!

    Post # 7
    114 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m not waiting anymore, but I did wait about 3 years for the proposal.

    After FH and I had been together a year, I was kind of expecting it, but it never happened, but he did start talking a little more about it, which is what got me waiting for it.

    By the time he actually asked me though, I had almost given up on it happening, haha.

    Post # 8
    2734 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I’d say it’s been about two years (or a little more) of official waiting.  After graduating college (and being together for a year), we lived apart for a year, and it was during that time that I started anticipating the possibility during every trip we took to visit each other.

    Here’s hoping it’s not much longer! Undecided

    Post # 9
    409 posts
    Helper bee

    i put 4 months. i made mention in jan 2010 that i did not want to start 2011 without being engaged. but after that i didnt say anything until maybe june. which even then i only said a particular jewelry store had nice rings while we drove by. so his response to that was we should go inside. so a month late, july 2010, he took me ring shopping for the first time. and i think thats when the waiting officially started for me. thats when i began feeling all the emotions of the cycle. we went ring shopping again in aug 2010. i loved ring shopping with him, it was a lot of fun. and i found a few beautiful rings. but i think thats what started driving me crazy. being a kid in a candy store and cant have anything or at least not knowing when. i didnt make him give me a timeline but i did state that i, again, didnt want to start the new year together without being engaged. 

    Post # 10
    1486 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I should add that we had already had been dating over 3 1/2 years at the point I started ‘waiting’ though. 

    Post # 11
    3260 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I have been waiting for a year, I only realized I was ‘waiting” when I was a little sad after my birthday last year.. I had hope for a proposal for some reason. And my birthday is tomorrow, so that makes it exactly a year.

    Post # 12
    2126 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    I’m engaged, but can I play?


    I waited for 10 months, because I mark the start of the waiting period as when he started serious engagement itself talk, instead of “when we are married”.  He asked my parents at two months into that time (my mom told me the day he did), but obviously didn’t propose until 8 months later.  

    Post # 13
    65 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I started waiting this August, after talking about starting the ring shopping process. One month later (September) the ring was purchased, and the ring has recently been picked up by the BF.

    ARGGG why do they do this to us!??!!! Probably looking at a winter or spring proposal…

    Post # 14
    1712 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Funny enough I think I’m waiting to be waiting if that makes sense. There’s a couple of things that we both feel should happen first and then we’ll get engaged. So I say at this point -ve two months. (The real waiting should begin in December/January) This makes the Holidays challenge both easy and hard.

    Post # 15
    831 posts
    Busy bee

    It’s hard to say. We’ve only been dating 9 months today, but we have had the strangest “just meant for each other” relationship and both of realized that we wanted to get married together about 2 months in. However, it was about 3 months ago that while walking in a mall together he took me into Kay’s to look at the shinies together. I got to try one on and it was… so strange and wonderful! I can’t wait for when it really happens!

    Post # 16
    9 posts

    I have been waiting 5 years, together for 9… and obviously its way to long because seeing people say they only waited a year makes me bitter 🙁

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