Post # 32
Thanks for all the feedback Bees! So I’m feeling a lot less of a freak of nature now that I know so many of you are 3, 4, 5 years in on the ‘waiting’. For me I consider the beginning of the waiting period to be the point at which marriage has been openly discussed and agreed upon by both people, but everyone’s situations are different. I’m hoping that my waiting time will be up soon, seeing as how my SO talks about it more and more.
How exciting!! It has to be a great feeling to KNOW that the ring will be ready soon and that your wait is coming to an end soon! I wish I had some sort of idea of what was going on with my SO. Even if he won’t be proposing for another year or something like that, it would be nice to know he is saving up, or making payments, or getting one of his mom’s rings. BUT I HAVE NO CLUE!!! lol
Post # 33
@MisfitPrincess: For me I consider the beginning of the waiting period to be the point at which marriage has been openly discussed and agreed upon by both people
That’s when I consider my “waiting period” to have begun as well. Like you said, everyone is different.
Post # 34
I guess you could say i’ve been waiting for over a year! Can’t wait.. more progress has happened in the last few months. 🙂
Post # 35
You’ve beaten me by about a year then. 🙂 I’m impressed by your patience! I feel like I had to manually flip my SO’s switch (gosh that sounds dirty…) because I honestly just couldn’t take it any more. Thankfully, once he set his mind to the fact that we’re getting married he seems fully on board, but it was a long road to get him to make that decision. Boys.
It is exciting! I feel you on being in the dark though. Unfortunately, when I was still waiting before our last talk I was hoping/thinking he was saving or looking at rings or whatever, and each time I would discover he was doing none of those things I’d get more discouraged. For me personally, I wish there was less of this secrecy/single sided planning built into this particular social custom. I mean, I’m an adult, past my twenties, I want to make my own plans for the future, not wait on someone else to make all the decisions on their own timeline. There should be more of a compromise. Unfortunately my boyfriend is way more traditional and didn’t want any of that until I basically forced the topic. That was tough. But we’re past it now and things seem to be pretty smooth sailing (and I feel less crazed/out of control!)
Post # 36
since the night i met him and pretty much knew he was the one….it will be 13 years, on halloween.
We were not in a realtionship that entire 13 years though….fast forward…
Since we have been back together I have been waiting I guess for almost about a year since the day it became a real thought in my head…an actual possibility, and not just a dream anymore.
Post # 37
Mine is simular to yours. We were together for 8 years before he proposed. During that time I was hoping he would propose but not really thinking much about it. We were focusing on improving our relationship, moving in together, building careers, getting a cat, etc. It became a waiting game when he suddenly asked for my ring size. We got married 2 months after the proposal.
Post # 38
well, we started dating in 2006, and started talking wedding in 08, so 3-4 years (although, I’ve been dreaming of it since ’06 ). The wedding is next September, and I’m not sure if I can wait any longer!
Post # 38
5 Years and still waiting :/
Post # 39
A little over a year. But it feels like an eternity haha 🙂
Post # 40
We have been dating the last 4.5 years now. I didn’t start feeling antsy until the last two. However we shopped for the ring together just last week and it’s about three weeks until the ring is done then the reeeeeal waiting begins.
Post # 41
We were dating 4 yrs when he finally proposed..Bought our own house after 2 yrs of dating so I waited around 2 years I guess..