Post # 1
Bringing up engagement or marriage? I have been trying not to initiate any conversations about it, but I just can’t help it! I’m going to start right now, and we will see how long it takes!…So waiting bees, have you tried not to be the one initiating the convos and how long did you do it?
Post # 3
This is a great poll! I’m the worst, I voted for “every day”. I feel like if I could put it out of my mind that waiting would be a lot easier. Good luck to you!
Post # 4
@Macintosh: I’m the same…SO BAD!!
I try and keep it light though and it’s fun when we talk about planning type things 🙂 Try and avoid the “when will it be” convos though – they don’t turn out good – he wants so bad for it to be a surprise – which is so nice of him – expecially when he knows how impatient I am – generally not just about engagement.
Post # 5
Interesting poll.. I think that after Fiance and I decided that we were getting engaged, and after we bought the ring I was more antsy than ever. I ended up bring it up every week or so for the three months from when we got the ring until he decided it was the “right time” to propose. lol I was bad about this. Fiance was understanding somehow lol
Post # 6
I honestly can’t remember. Maybe a month ago? I don’t know. I know at one point this year I asked him if we’d be getting married next year cause my family needs super advanced notice. We did talk about the ring this week. But I don’t really consider that engagement talk. The ring is just errand talk. And email we sent the jeweler got kicked back as a bad address and he thought about having me stop by to talk to them. So, yeah. That’s just an errand.
Post # 7
Every day, cause we’re planning together, and we’re both really excited, so it’s in a good way.
Post # 8
Recently it’s been everyday, but before that it was never more than two weeks… I try to bite my tongue but with no avail.
Post # 9
Generally I go a few months without saying anything. We last talked about it nearly a month ago, and I plan to bring it up again soon to make sure we’re still on the same page about things.
I could never be the sort of person who brought it up every day, just because it’s so exhausting for me to talk about such emotionally charged topics.
Post # 10
@KatM: You put that last part perfectly. I always have trouble describing why it’s not something that I discuss on a daily or even weekly basis. 1st it doesn’t pop in my head terribly often. 2nd, it is exhausting. You’re totally right. It’s very emotionally exhausting.
Post # 11
I voted everyday… but it’s more like every other day… haha. Oh well! My So doesn’t really have a problem with me bringing it up as long as I am not depressed about it, but we plan little ideas together and I talk to him about the bee 🙂
Post # 12
I would get so excited every time I would find a new ring design. I was bringing it up so often that SO said I can only talk about it if I give him a back massage. Too much work hehe so I’m trying to not bring it up anymore. I’ve never been good at waiting patiently once I get excited about something though.
Post # 13
Usually, once a month (guess what time of month?) engagement becomes the topic for a few days. I’m trying to ONLY bring it up if I feel I have to, like there’s a question that’s eating away at me and I NEED an answer. But just about every question has already been answered, so I’m going to try to not bring it up for awhile. Hoping I can make it till the end of the year!
Post # 14
I would have to say it isn’t every day… but maybe every few weeks. Usually only when we are witnessing something wedding related or I will joke around about it. I think it’s perfectly healthy to have open communication about this topic… but that’s just me! 🙂
Post # 15
@UsagiTsukino: That’s me! I think about it every day. I bring it up less than once a month, though. When I do bring it up, it’s usually “that time”… 🙂
Post # 16
There’s no option in between mentioning it every single day and mentioning it once every few weeks………… so I can’t answer, as it’d skew the results.