(Closed) How long in did you start "waiting"?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How long were you and your SO together before you started waiting for an engagement?
    Less than a year : (13 votes)
    17 %
    1-2 years : (19 votes)
    25 %
    2-3 years : (15 votes)
    20 %
    3-5 years : (17 votes)
    22 %
    5-7 years : (8 votes)
    11 %
    7+ years : (4 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 2
    812 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    We got engaged just before our 9th anniversary…honestly, I only really started thinking about marriage at around 8.5 years and we had a couple of deep conversations around that time. I was only’waiting’ about 4 months all together but at the time it felt like forever…Once we’d kind of agreed it was gonna happen, I wanted it to happen immediately lol 

    Post # 3
    564 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I dont know what to vote since there are two options for 3 years but YUP! I would say I started waiting around the three year mark. We acknowledged we were the “ones” several months in so marrige had always been on the table. I have now been waiting for about year and SO is going to propose annnnyday now eeek!

    Post # 4
    81 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I thought I wanted to marry Fiance before we even started dating (we were close friends for about a year first)…I knew I wanted to marry him after a couple months together. I should mention we were 17/16 when we got together (but both in college), but I had this idea we would be engaged after a year or so and married by the time I was 20. We talked about marriage and the future as a definite thing right off the bat. He was recently converted to Christianity and told me he’d grappled with the idea of losing his virginity to me before marriage, but decided it was okay because we were going to get married.

    Based on all that, I had my hopes up for a proposal on our first anniversary (He was really confused about my disappointment at his homemade pie as a gift). I had told him how badly I wanted to marry him, so I told myself “He knows I’ll say yes if he asks. I’ll let him ask when he’s ready.” I stayed quiet about until our fifth anniversary when there was still no ring. (Right before our fourth anniversary, my sister got married and really got the gears turning in my head). I brought it up and we had a serious discussion. He told me seven years felt right to him, but he didn’t really have any reason for that time. I reminded him if we got engaged at the 6 year mark, we would be together for over 7 by the time we get married. So he finally proposed on our 6th anniversary!

    All of that is to say, I guess it depends on your definition of “waiting,”…but I voted less than one year, because that’s when I started thinking about it every birthday, anniversary, Christmas, Valentine’s Day…

    Post # 5
    307 posts
    Helper bee

    prettyinpurple11:  I think I was “waiting” once we had been living together for a year and everything was going great. That would make it about 1.5 years into our relationship. It was right around this time that I decided to climb a mountain with him, which I had never done before. We got to the top and I said something like, “Man, it would be so killer to be proposed to on top of a mountain”, expecting that he’d stick that in his back pocket to possibly use later. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Instead he says “I actually thought about it. But I didn’t want to do it around the people we brought with us.” ………… At which point I was DEFINITELY waiting.

    Post # 6
    10 posts

    i’m waiting nowww.  we’ve been together for a year and a half and i’ve just discovered this board and the term waiting.  so i’m at the one and a half year mark.

    although honestly i’ve probably been waiting for a few more months, after we moved in together.

    Post # 7
    2 posts

    @prettyinpurple11 SO and I have been together for 3 yrs 3 months too! I guess I’m waiting for one now since I want to be engaged later this year.

    Post # 8
    2133 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Probably about the same as you. We moved in last year. (We had been dating three years at that time) and probably about 6 months in when I realized how perfect we were together, because living with someone new could be rocky. That wasn’t the case for us, we just wore well and fit. So that was when I started waiting and less then a year and half after moving in we got engaged (last week actually) so over all I probably waited like 8-9 months. 

    Post # 9
    9987 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    DH and I dated for about 2 years before getting engaged, lived together for one.  I was never “waiting” in the Bee sense of the term, though.  I was perfectly content just being with him.

    Post # 10
    3053 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would say I started waiting around the 3 year mark, but even a few weeks into our relationship I knew he was ‘the one’. And I honestly never thought I would just ‘know’.

    Post # 11
    962 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

    I started waiting at about our college graduation. 1 year and three months in. He proposed the following November, so I waited for only 7 months.

    Post # 12
    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I would say around the 3 yr mark. By then we had had the serious conversations regarding our future together and that we both wanted the ‘same things’ – marriage, kids, love, life-long commitement etc. We were confident that we knew each other extremely well and that we were where we wanted to be in other parts of our lives (jobs, etc).

    Around that time was when I could actually imagine us getting engaged and getting married. Many conversations and waiting later….and still waiting. (Been together 4+ years now). We’re getting close!

    Post # 13
    1200 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I mean for me, the moment I realized I wanted to marry my DH, and the moment I realized that I was actually 100% ready to be married to DH were several months apart. The latter happened a couple months after DH proposed, which was about a year and a half after we started dating, but I never really feel like I was waiting at all. Maybe during the week I knew he was about to propose because I had accidentally seen a text I shouldn’t have, but really I think I was trying to enjoy every minute.

    Post # 14
    82 posts
    Worker bee

    This will make me sound a little crazy, but earlier than 2 months in, even before I said “I love you” or had even thought about it, I had a moment where I thought to myself in this very logical and almost removed way that “this is the man I’m going to marry”. I don’t think I was officially (or realistically) waiting until we went to Disney World a year later. I absolutely love everything Disney, and we went to Belle’s house. It was kind of the perfect setting to pull off a proposal and even though I knew it wasn’t happening, I had this feeling of excitement the whole time I was there and was definitely a little sad when we walked out. It’s been 3 years, and waiting is getting quite stale, but that random thought early on in our relationship keeps me wishing and hoping.

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