(Closed) How long is everyone's engagement?

posted 4 years ago in Logistics
Post # 31
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Elle_bee:  Don’t panic!  We did a 10 month engagement and had plenty of time.  Our planning was very spread out over that period, and was only stressful in the last week or two getting final details together.  The only reason I see to have an engagement that’s longer is to make sure you get a photographer and venue that you like and are in your budget.  I would definitely do that first after you set the date.

Post # 32
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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Post # 33
3073 posts
Sugar bee

Our engagement will probably be a few years.  We got engaged early February of this year and haven’t set a date yet.  I’m 31 weeks pregnant so that’s delayed things a bit.  But I’m not in a rush to set a date.  If that changes, we’ll rethink things!

Post # 34
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Hazelton Manor - Vaughan Ontario

Our is 22 months. It will be one year left on October 28th.

Post # 35
2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

officially just over a year

Post # 36
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We got engaged in February and married in september, so about 7 months.  We both wanted a small wedding that turned into a medium sized wedding lol. 

My first thing to do was to find a venue. Once that happened we found a photographer, a caterer and then my dress.  I used a wedding planning website as my guide for all the things I needed to do. 

I think sometimes people need longer engagements to be able to have time to save for a wedding.  Weddings are super expensive so a longer (year plus) engagement helps with time to save.  We purposely kept ours simple (off the rack dress, sunday wedding, small guest list,  farmers market flowers) so that we could get married sooner rather than later. 

For me it was plenty of time.  Any.longer and I might have lost my mind obsessing over details 😃

Hope that helps!

Post # 37
460 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2006

4 months here! We got engaged in February of 2006 and got married in June. We planned the whole thing ourselves. I got my dress off the rack, shoes across the street when we left the dress store, I made all the decorations and ordered my flowers in bulk to arrive the week of my wedding. My family and friends all helped make the bouquets and decorate the church as well as the reception area which was the lobby of my church. Sounds weird but it’s beautiful and literally just all windows. It rained that evening and watching the rain from inside was beautiful and romantic. My husband and I met at work and a coworker made our cake. I did my own makeup and had a friend who was starting her photography business take our photos. Our whole wedding including pics, food etc was just under $3000. We served our favorite food at the wedding, pizza and wings.

That was 9 years ago and to this day people still tell me it was the best reception food they’ve ever had 🙂 If I had a chance to do it over again, I would have made it even smaller, with people there that we are closest to, cheaper, and at the beach. Initially we wanted a beach wedding but my grandfather gave me away at the wedding and he was in a wheelchair at the time, and logistically it was too much trouble so we went with the church. 

Post # 38
418 posts
Helper bee

LadyOtter:  We are still coming up with a guestlist to give us an idea of how many ppl.  I have contacted venues to see if they even have availability since they usually book up 1-2 years in advance.  Our date will likely be determined by the venue availability, but we have a couple preferred dates in mind.  I am giving us 2-4 weeks to finalizeguestlist and get a deposit on a venue.

Post # 39
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Just shy of 10 months (: getting married this month!

Post # 40
592 posts
Busy bee

We got engaged December of 2014 and have a tentative date set for June 2017 – so 2 and a half years. It’s mainly because we are saving for it. 

We had our engagement party in August. We toured our first venue last week! 

We have a timeline..ish. It’s just kind of spread out. 

Post # 41
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I got engaged November 2014 and am getting married in April 2016 (6 more months!)


-booked the venue that December 2014 (for both ceremony & reception)

-found my dress in January 2015

-booked a baker for our cake in January 2015

-booked our photographer January 2015

-booked the DJ in February 2015

-booked our honeymoon in April 2015

– took engagement photos April 2015

-booked the bartender, caterer DJ and photobooth between March and now

-worked out flower situation this month

-making the save-the-dates and invitations this weekend


So now just kind of trying to tie up loose ends and do all the fun DIY stuff 🙂  

Post # 42
4891 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

happygirl2016:  We got engaged in February 2014 and were married October 2014. So, 8 months!

We started booking vendors in March, so that gave us 7 months of planning time. By the end of April, we had our reception venue, officiant, and ceremony venue, photgrapher, my dress, and a few other major things that I can’t think of booked.

We used fake flowers, and my mom and I made the bouquets, bouts and corsages. I am pretty sure we were still making some of the corsages a week before the wedding.

Invitations – I ordered mid-July (VistaPrint) and got them in the mail at the beginning of August. I spent MONTHS trying to find the right invite for what I wanted. I mainly settled on a design just to get them ordered.

Cake  – Booked a couple months prior from a local grocery store bakery that does great work, but can’t remember the exact date.

Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were ordered in May. Suits for the guys were ordered in August (which was later than I wanted them to be ordered by).

Post # 43
2183 posts
Buzzing bee

happygirl2016:  We did a 5 month engagement and it really wasn’t too stressful. We’re both detail-oriented people who loved doing wedding planning, so that also made it easier.
We didn’t plan anything for the first 2 weeks, and then we were in planning mode for the next 4 1/2 months.

You have to be prety organized and decisive. I had a single week to try on dresses and get them ordered, and didn’t do a whole lot of the extra things, but that was fine by us. We had a gorgeous wedding that matched our personality with our closest friends and family.

Post # 44
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Almost 2 years – enagaged end of September 2014, wedding September 10, 2016. We have most everything major booked. 

  • Church
  • Reception venue (comes with a wedding coordinator)
  • Photo booth
  • Photographer
  • Videographer
  • DJ
  • Dress, shoes, jewelry, veil
  • Wedding rings
  • And a number of DIY projects finished/started

My guess is that I’ll be done with everything at least 6 months before the wedding. But that’s just me – I’d rather have to only deal with the minor detals leading up to the day and know all major decisions/projects are taken care of. 

We still need to figure out flowers – I’m wavering on what I want – and cake. Althought we’ve already made the decision to go with a local cupcake company, just haven’t “officially” booked. 


Post # 45
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Our engagement will be just under six months, but since this question is geared towards how much time you have to plan your wedding, the answer is two and a half months!!!  We were engaged for a few months before we started planning and when we started, we just decided that we wanted a small wedding and could not wait for it!  So we set our date a little over two months out.  It is the best decision ever! Trust me when I say that wedding can seriously be planned that quickly.  We have gotten basically everything planned, and we have been planning for only a month.  So excited for the big day!!!

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