Post # 1
- Wedding: November 2014 - Nazareth Hall
To go without being intimate?
Sorry if this is Too Much Information, but ever since we got married, my husband has not been intimate with me very much. When we were dating and everything ws new, it was multiple times a week (and sometimes multiple times a day). Then he got a job where he was traveling a bunch and so we would go months at a time without (obviously), but be back at it when we got to see each other. Now we’re married, and he has a job with no travel anymore so we’re home and in bed together every night. So why is it that we haven’t had sex since New Years? I guess I’m just wondering if this is normal in other relationships, am I alone in borderline craving intimacy from my husband? Anyone else been through this? Help a bee out 🙁
Post # 2
HC_IC721: Do you ever initiate sex?
Post # 3
Also, OP, have you ever expressed to your husband that You’d like to be intimate more frequently?
Post # 4
Why don’t you talk to him about it?
Post # 5
I think it’s totally normal for sex to become less frequent as time passes. Try initiating sex, talk to him about it. He may be lacking vitamins, or may need to start exercising to get more energy. He might just be really overtired. Communication is key.
Post # 6
If either one of you is unhappy with the frequency, there is an issue that needs to be discussed.
Post # 7
I think as time goes on, it’s “normal” to have less sex.
There’s like a million different factors to consider when sex starts becoming less. So I’d talk to your husband about it.
Personally I could go for months without sex haha (Though I don’t). Everyone is different.
Post # 8
If one person is unhappy with how long it’s been, then it has been too long. Have a talk with your husband- he might not even realize the frequency has decreased, but he also could be thinking the same thing!
Post # 9
Cory_loves_this_girl: this OP. It doesn’t matter how long is too long for other couples. It matters whether it’s too long for either one of you two.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
As PP have stated, you need to talk to your husband about this. There could be any number of reasons for this to be happening, from health to job stress, but you need to discuss it with him.
Post # 11
Talk to your husband. There are many reasons the frequency could have decreased. For us it’s been about 100% on my end with stress and being exhausted all the time, but my hubby is very understanding. Sometimes it’s him that’s to stressed. It’s just a matter of what’s right for you as a couple, but yes, it is not uncommon for it to decrease over time.
Post # 12
For me, too long is a week. Every couple is different though.
With my ex-H, we once went a year without being intimate.
Different people have different drives and throw in other factors like health, fitness, hormones and stress and it just depends on that very point in time.
Talk to your Darling Husband in a non-confrontive way. How is he feeling? Is there a reason he hasn’t been intimate with you? Is there anything you can do? (such as initiate more often) etc.
Post # 13
What do you do when you get home from work? Get into your sweats and no make up? Maybe he wants a little more romance… try lingerie or date night. How does he feel love by you? The five languages of love is great book to undestanding you mate and it helped our relationship so much! Hope it gets better for you
Post # 14
Have you told your Darling Husband that you miss being close to him? Maybe plan a relaxing evening conducive to intimacy?
Frequency can certainly ebb and flow over time especially when one of you is under stress, facing deadlines, sick, etc. It’s best to talk about it now so that it doesn’t become your default.
Post # 15
Is he under a lot of stress/pressure in his worklife? Does he seem okay in other aspects of his personality?