Post # 1
So…my Fiance and I are in the middle of planning our ceremony, which is incredibly important to the both of us…moreso than anything else in the wedding…
Anyway, we have a lot going on for the ceremony and am worried that it’s going to last more than 30 minutes and the last thing I want is for my guests to get bored…here are the things we’re including in the ceremony…
Seating of Grandmothers
Seating of Mothers
Wedding Party Processional
Acknowledgement of Loved Ones
Rose Presentation to Mothers
Exchange of Vows
Exchange of Rings
Pronouncement of Marriage
My question is: do you think all of this stuff is too long or would you be able to stay entertained through all of this?
Also, I added a poll about how long you think a ceremony should be before it’s too long…
Post # 3
I’m biased because we’re having a looong religious ceremony that will proabably be up to an hour and a half. But it’s an Episcopal service so there is a ton of singing, sitting and church excercise (stand, sit, kneel, repeat) to keep people somewhat engaged. As long as your ceremony flows and is meaningful I would never think anything is too long for a wedding ceremony. Well 2 hours would be realllllllly pushing it for me to be honest. Like yourself our ceremony is the MOST important part of the day. So if people get bored- eh. They can blow off some steam at the open bar after.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
We had a short ceremony – about 15 mins if that. Everyone seemed pleased. I think I would get bored around the 25 minute mark.
Post # 5
@MissThespian: I think your ceremony will be fine. Usually I think that if a ceremony is more than 30 minutes it is too long. But yours sounds great.
Post # 6
@MissThespian: I say 30 minutes is reasonable. Anything more than that and I will probably fall asleep (sorry, just being honest).
Post # 7
Our church ceremony was 30-45 minutes long. I hope people weren’t bored!
But I think anything under an hour is fine.
Post # 8
I prefer a short ceremony. Over 45 minutes and I start to mentally wander. That said, it’s YOUR ceremony and about YOUR relationship with your huband(!), so don’t worry too much about the length. Do what feels right.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
we’re going to try to keep it 45 minutes, but i think too long is 90 minutes. i feel that way about weddings, movies and plays
ETA: yay for handfastings!
Post # 10
We’re hoping to keep ours at 15 – 20 minutes. Several family members have kids so we’re trying to accomodate shorter attention spans. 😉
Post # 11
Have you looked into the environmental/animal welfare implications of the dove release? Seems like a logical place to cut some time/expense/ethical questioning by your guests out.
Post # 12
Over 45 minutes is definitely excessive in my opinion. At the end of the day I’m just a guest so ill sit through it then get me a real nice drink at the reception!!!
Post # 13
Sorry to offend the brides with short ceremonies, but the ones that are 20 mins or under were over in a flash. like what happened, wheres the rest of it? For me at least it devalues the importance of the day and the event.
Post # 14
My ceremony was exactly 18 minutes & it felt perfect to me.
We only had the following:
- Wedding Party Walk
- Bride/Father Walk
- I Do’s
- Pronoucing Mr. & Mrs.
Also, everything went exactly as planned, so there were no delays, & each part of the wedding was only about a paragraph worth of speaking.
So, I think it’s safe to say that if your ceremony went perfectly, it would probably be upwards of 35mins.
Post # 15
@MissThespian: Like PPs said, I think you’re fine with 45 minutes and under. I’d say 90min+ and my mind starts to wander unless there’s something really special happening. I’m used to Catholic wedding ceremonies, which often include a full mass and are therefore usually 45min-1hr long. It’s your wedding though, so you should definitely do what feels right and special for you two!
Post # 16
Once it starts going over 30 minutes I really get bored. Ours was like 7 minutes, literally, but I didn’t hear anyone complaining about getting to that open bar. 😛