- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I used to get along with my mom but after a month it ended with her storming out of the house and now we have a very strained relationship. If she feels the need to be included all the time I think it’s a bad idea for her to stay long. Yes you will appreciate the cleaning and food prep but here are some things to consider: 1) you will be in pain and sleep deprived will she understand if you are cranky? 2) will she let you parent or expect you to do things her way? 3) will she accept you, hubby and baby doing some things alone and not involve her (at some point you will crave this even if it’s 30 min) 4) will she get exasperated if your child is crying/colicky/sick or will she remain calm? 5) will she accept your dietary restrictions if you have any [my son is dairy intolerant and for her time here she was convincing me he wasn’t and not following my guidelines which made meals hell] 6) will she expect you to eat when it’s convenient for her or will she let you eat at will [first week I had no set eating hours I ate when baby was sleeping and not nursing I needed easy quick preheat able meals and my mom was making me 45 min prep one time meals – by the time she started baby sometimes was already awake and needed o nurse – cluster feeding] 7) will she get upset if you correct her when she does certain things with the baby 8) will she try to override your husbands involvent (aka take baby away from him if he’s changing baby etc)
If you answer yes to any of these limit the time she’s there. Yes you can have the conversation about it (which I did with my mom) but after 2 weeks time they will naturally revert to their typical character and they can get upset at you saying you are to sensitive, rigid, rude, etc.