- 2 years ago
I just am not a fan of acting like a proposal sweeps all behavior before the proposal under the rug. Doesn’t work that way. You yourself mentioned complaining to him about the timeline the night before he proposed. It clearly bothered you enough to bring it up to him. If you didn’t have a problem with being surpised and wanted it that way than you wouldn’t have complained to him about it. Glad you are fine with it now, but clearly at the time his approach wasn’t all that great. There is nothing wrong with that, nothing wrong with communicating with your partner clearly and openly. That is all I am suggesting we start doing.
The last thing we all need is to be making excuses to each other about how the men in our lives can not communicate well, and we just suck it up and deal with it. I think we can all agree we are trying to get away from that kind of mentality where the man makes all the proposal choices without the womans input. I also don’t think we all need to be saying things hurt us, then they propose and we act like we were never hurt and our proposal was perfect and amazing.
Fights happen, miscommunication happens, on here, on these boards I hope we can encourage other bees to stand up for their feelings and voice their needs in their relationships and have better communication. Not to be telling bees that they should just shut up and deal with it because the proposal will magically erase all the bad parts.