Post # 1
Fiance and I have been together for almost 7 years now. We got engaged 8 months ago, and are planning an October 2012 wedding. I’d like to get married sooner, but we both wanted a fall wedding and I’m in grad school in a different state so the wedding is almost 500 miles away (where my family lives) and it’s VERY hard for me to get there to scout out venues, etc. Not to mention a lot of the churches and venues we looked at over Christmas were already booked straight through 2011. But I still get snarky “why are you waiting so long? are you guys not sure?” comments all the time, and I’m pretty sure FI’s family thinks this whole “long engagement” thing is ridiculous.
So my question to you guys is, how long was your engagement? Is a 28 month engagement really that insane?
Post # 3
Our engagement was 10 months long. Anything more than a little over a year wouldn’t have been okay for us. We didn’t want to drag things out.
We did all of our planning long distance (I was living in CA and he was in GA and the wedding was in IN) and the 10 months was more than enough time. We even had a few months of down time in the middle with absolutely nothing to do planning-wise!
That said – you have to do what is right for you as a couple and if that means a 28 month long engagement, so be it.
Post # 4
Our engagement is 11 months long. Got engaged in May and getting married in April!
Post # 5
Well, that’s incredibly rude of them to say things like that. I would try to shrug it off if I were you. You’re doing what works for you and that’s what’s important! Don’t listen to them.
And if you’re insane, then I’m DEFINITELY out of my mind. We’re talking 42 months over here.
We’re paying for most of the wedding ourselves. Fiance graduates next spring, so that will give him 2 years to work as an accountant to save up. And while he’s working and saving, I’ll be spending whole semesters abroad in Nicaragua and Peru, and doing internships in North Carolina, and working on two degrees. So we’ll be a little preoccupied.
Since we are on such a limited budget and I’m going to be really busy out of the country and stuff like that, it helps to start planning now to look for the best deals. Plus, I’ll have basically no time to plan anything my senior year, because I’ll be doing TWO capstone research projects and presentations and working.
So. We’re waiting. Not because we’re not sure about it, but because that’s what works for us. That’s really the only justification you need! Just say, “Well, this is what works for us. So suck it.” Okay, maybe not that last part.
Post # 6
Ours is 16 months and I think it’s the perfect length (for us, it’s obvious way too long for some people). It’s really given us time to enjoy being engaged without the stress of throwing together a wedding in a short amount of time.
Post # 7
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
Our 30 month engagement was the best idea I ever had! It gave me the time I needed not to feel rushed while planning and to really enjoy the whole process. Things that I picked out at the begining of the engagment were things I ended up hating later in the process and I was super glad I had the time to ditch the idea and find another.
If people give you crap about the timeframe, just give them the standard “that is how long we will need to save to pay for the wedding” line.
Post # 8
Ours would have been 14 months but the venue we wanted was booked for Sept 1st this year already. So it’s been pushed back a year to Sept 2012! No biggie, more time to save and get organized.
Post # 9
19 months unfortunately. We had a time of year in mind (Sept-Oct) and this year is already booked at our favorite venue which is fine because to afford said venue, we need lots of time to save!!
Post # 10
We are also having a long engagement. (Just over two years.)
I don’t really see the issue with it. Sure, I would love to get married to my best friend sooner, but we just can’t afford to.
Like PPs have said, it will be nice to have extra time to plan and just enjoy being engaged.
I think that anyone who replies negatively is just being rude. Whatever is best for you is perfectly OK and anyone who says otherwise should just be happy for you. After all, it’s your life, not thiers.
Post # 11
We just hit our 3 year engagement mark the other day (14th)! We took the time to finish school, buy a house, get some dogs, and just enjoy life, with no wedding planning until the end of 2010.
Post # 12
Ours was 12 months exactly!
Post # 13
We were just shy of two years; we got engaged on 12.21.08 and married on 12.10.10.
ETA: There were a few people who would say things like, “Are you EVER going to go through with it?!” which sucked, but you know. 😛 Haters gonna hate.
Post # 14
My engagement is a little over 5 months. People thought we were crazy but I can’t didn’t want to wait a long time, I’d drive myself crazy!
Post # 15
We got engaged in september 2009 and were married on April 16th 2010 which is the day after we got home from Europe with fiance visa in hand. lol BUT it was over a year from the day we were engaged to the family/religious/”official” wedding.
Post # 16
Ours will be about 5 days less than a year. We could of done it sooner but I wanted the time for money reasons and we are getting married in a different province then we live. It is also nice not to have to be doing wedding stuff every weekend.